It’s important to remember what hell is, according to the Bible: what you experience when you persist in sin. Now, theologians and scholars do debate what all that includes and when it happens. But Romans 1 suggests that it is—in part—”getting what you want when what you want is bad.”
Watching porn is a sin. It’s first a sin against yourself—it’s actually bad for your soul, mind, and body. It’s also a sin against other people. Porn objectifies people rather than loving them and honoring them as bearers of God’s image.
So, there’s a very real sense in which watching porn is its own hell. Spare the jokes about wanting to go to hell because that’s where all the fun is—hear me out first.
There are at least three ways that giving in to porn is its own hell, and they relate to the three ways that porn is a sin: It hurts you, it hurts your relationships with other people, and it ultimately hurts your relationship with God.
Porn makes life hell by hurting you.
It’s true many people enjoy porn, and it seems like a harmless pastime. However, a growing mountain of evidence indicates that porn has wide-ranging negative effects on its viewers.
Porn negatively impacts the brain.
Porn can lead to depression and anxiety.
Porn can cause erectile dysfunction.
Porn can lead to addictio Whether you realize it or not, watching porn inflicts harm on you.
Porn makes life hell by hurting other people. Even if you’re only sinning against yourself, it’s still sin (1 Corinthians 6:18). However, porn hurts more than just the person watching it. It dehumanizes the people portrayed on the screen, and every participant in watching porn contributes to a culture of objectification.
Furthermore, a lot of research shows that porn impacts the personal relationships of the people viewing it. It hurts dating, marriages, and families, and it can even hinder friendships from developing normally.
Porn makes life hell by distancing you from God. Not everyone experiences the negative impact of porn on their own life, and many don’t notice much effect on their relationships either. Even so, it’s a mistake to think you can escape the hell of porn and blissfully keep watching. Because the real damage of pornography is that it distances you from God. People eventually start to realize recognize that porn hurts their relationship with God, and they want to quit. Hebrews 12:14 teaches that seeing God requires holiness. Jesus says you should give up sin, even if it means sacrificing a valuable part of yourself, rather than be thrown into hell (Matthew 18:9). In other words, however painful and difficult it is, get rid of the thing that’s separating you from God—including things that lead you to porn.
If you’re stuck in porn and don’t care, that is deeply concerning. That means you haven’t realized the hell that porn creates, and that means you don’t have any desire to choose God rather than porn.
But if you do care, the good news is that you can find freedom from porn and the hell that it puts you in—more on that in a moment.
You may feel absolutely terrified of God’s judgment but still keep slipping back into porn. Why is that? The apostle Paul recognized this struggle in Romans 7—sometimes the thing we don’t want to do we do. Sometimes sin has its hooks deep in our hearts and it takes time to work them free.
However, there’s more than that. Romans 2:4 says that God’s kindness leads us to repentance. We need more than fear of punishment to escape the pull of sin. 1 John 4:18 says, “There is no fear in love; instead, perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment.” We need to experience something better than the sin that captivates us. We need to experience God’s love. As Christians, God calls and equips us to live free of the hell of pornography. Galatians 5:1 says, “For freedom, Christ set us free. Stand firm, then, and don’t submit again to a yoke of slavery.” In other words, the Christian life is much better, richer, and freer than the life of porn! Not only that, but the Holy Spirit empowers people to put away the desires of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
But don’t sit around waiting for the Holy Spirit—he will empower you by giving you the desire to follow God’s Word and produce godly fruit. You must put that desire into action. If you’re serious about quitting porn and renewing your relationship with God, you need to take advantage of the resources he has provided. Christians today have more tools than ever to fight the temptations of pornography!
My many attempts to spread light in your darkness is stealing my peace. It leaves me physically, mentally, and spiritually crippled. I'm not sure if you noticed, but for the past several months I have put my life on pause. I rush around to prep for your arrival, and try to be there for support. Maybe my motives are dirtected by selfish intentions. But it's to help you and our unit be healthier, and happier. I just want you to not socialize with people or things sexually especially if I'm not included. Okay yeah I get it, you have a problem. I understand that, too. But if I'm sitting on the shelf over here on pause and your out there doing whatever feels good to relieve unnecessary pressure IS NOT A LOGICAL REASON TO JUSTIFY THIS. How long are you planning on me sitting here, until you decide if your gonna choose me or this monster that was created long before I arrived. This monster has completely locked you down and took control. How long? How much more pain and suffering should I endure while your deciding on what to choose? Well since you can't communicate with me about it, here is what I think. I have privately and publicly begged you to stop and focus on what really matters for several months now. And just to be completely honest I'm running low ideas. So I'm gonna scrape the bottom of the barrel here , and get real desperate with the last few options/plans that are left. Just know I love you more than life it's self and I only went to this measurement to save not only us but, you. Not just for us but so the boys can have attentive father. This is so much more complicated than it has to be. But when you shut me in the dark, my only option is to resolve on my own. Remember it's completely out of love. You might not got this but I'm gonna help you. But just not like this .
Why We Are All Addicts: Insanely Powerful Bright Side, Part 3 of 3
But There’s an Insanely Powerful Bright Side
The ugly truth is that we’re all addicts and thanks to the fact that we are wired to be an addicted, there isn’t much we can do to solve it — apart from the few snatches of introspection. But there’s something insanely powerful about this: You can choose what you’re addicted to. The maniacal nature of addiction means that if you manage to replace a bad or unhealthy one with a good one — you can achieve some pretty wild results.
I used to be addicted to gaming and anime in college. And all they’ve given me are — sleep deprivation, thicker spectacles, and brain-splitting migraines. With the lockdown, I got back to reading and quit gaming. Then, writing came along, and out went anime.
While reading’s given me a portal to thousands of brilliant minds and worlds, writing’s become a soul-rewarding side hustle.
You don’t have to quit an undesirable addiction, you have to replace it with a better, one.Replace junk food with tasty yet healthy food. Replace lung-harming cigarette smoking with lung-improving exercise. Replace TV shows with documentaries. Replace movies with books. Replace porn with collage making. Replace YouTube with MOOCs. Replace gaming with leveling up in real life. And this way,
Eventually, replace the person you are with the person you want to be and your present life with the life you dream of.
The opposite of being “perma-stimulated” is — unstimulated. In other words, getting rid of external stimuli, embracing boredom, and — patiently and compassionately examining our mind’s contents.
Also called metacognition-this is the key to rapid self-improvement, heightened self-awareness, and eternal learning. And unlocking this quality isn’t hard — all you need is regular introspection .
Before you go to bed every night, tuck away your phone, shut your laptop, and sit in solitude. Reflect on the day’s events and examine your actions and thoughts. Ask yourself questions such as — “Why did I say that?”, “Why did I react that way?”, “What drove me to that action?”, “How could I have acted better?”, etc.
Looking in the mental mirror will feel uncomfortable at first. But stick to the habit. It’s unbelievably rewarding in the long run.
In fact, if you do this long enough, it will get programmed into your subconscious .i Nowadays, within seconds or minutes of saying, doing, or thinking something — I’ll unconsciously be reflecting on them.
Apart from introspection, let your mind wander freely from time to time. Don’t quell any unpleasant thoughts or force positive ones: Just sit back, relax, grab some popcorn, and watch the show inside your head.
With the stereotypical addict being a dude with dark bags under his eyes, wearing a hoodie, and clutching a syringe — it’s easy to think that most of us are far from being addicts.
But the signs of addiction are much more subtle. As The School of Life defines it, addiction is — the maniac reliance on something, anything, in order to keep our dark or unsettling thoughts at bay.
Everything we do is a coping mechanism— Be it smashing weights in the gym to quell stress, getting lost inwork to prevent undesirable thoughts, tuning into the illusory world of TV to escape reality, or aimlessly scrolling through our social media feeds when there’s nothing to do.
We’re constantly shying away from confronting our own minds. Living in a hyper-abundant world, being “perma-stimulated” has become the norm. There’s always something to do so we’ve forgotten the art of doing nothing.
To get a measure of how addicted we are, it’s worth asking ourselves — when was the last time we sat doing nothing and letting our thoughts, both uncomfortable and pleasant run freely?
I’m left in the dark to figure this out on my own . Do you know who confusing and lost that leaves? I don’t know if things or better or worse. And it leaves me left to fight for this world on my own. It’s lonely and leaves this feeling impossible. My mind wanders and literally paralyzes me. I understand things are difficult for you. But it makes darn near impossible to understand. The dreams are still occurring. I just don’t understand what you want from me. And why I am the one tortured mentally by all this when I don’t even have a dog in the fight. The hardest part to deal with is I see all the people you’re close with on here and you connect and share with. But you can’t do that with me. You say you love but can’t share your life me. So tell me what I’m supposed be here. You know my mind wonders , so please I publicly beg you help me help you. Or at the very least give some insight to what to expect. Please I can’t build trust when I don’t know the situation. The hardest part is that regardless of how much I give to all this the more I lose myself. I'm lost and confused and really need your assistance on this in whatever way you can guide us through it. I'm a innocent bystander in this evil addiction, and it breaks me and entrains you. Crazy, right?
The worst part of all this, is when your addiction steals your attention in our time of need. The time I need you the most, your addiction is waiting for the opportunity for me To turn my back. As much as I try to understand and relate the more agony, and frustration I cross, alone. I try to understand that is what you use to relieve stress, but where does it end? Where do we start new habits, healthier choices? Or do I have to accept this as the new norm? We both can be better and do much better. But I can’t do it alone.
So you say that you separate the person that you are online to the person you are in real life. But I hate to be the one to inform you, that you share the same body, mind, and soul with the monster that has been created online.
Finding that true mate is to find someone that you see their baggage and I said to myself “I wanna help him carry that”. I see your baggage and I’m not judging you, I want build with you and help us get through all this. You see my baggage, is it too much? If not let’s get married!!!
Let's do it! Like tomorrow or Monday whatever. Let's give up all reservations to give up or harm our unit. I'm ready and I would only need one requirement, and I will be yours forever. We gotta deactivate these accounts because it only leaves room for doubt. Especially the ones with active relationships. Let's do it and I'm so very serious. I love you with my whole heart and wanna spend the rest of my days with you. We can only continue this way of life for much longer. It's only a matter of time and I think we both know it. I'm too jealous to sit on side lines and you can't let me in . I know it's hard and I know you love me so let's make it official. I'm excited to give you all of me as a promise to God to take the best of care forever and always. We got this just jump with me!!
I also wanted to comment on a certain aspect of gooning. It's common to see audio files and gooning captions telling the gooner to put porn over their family. The only way I would recommend this is if they are shitty people who abused you. Otherwise, don't. Be grateful for the love and support they provide. You only get one life and it's foolish to take it for granted.
Logical reasoning on why our relationship can’t be what I need !
So stupid ole me was under the impression things were better but turns out you just created new accounts. So before I disappear in thin air I wanted to publicly post the reasons why we cannot be a unit under these circumstances.
1) First, your brain is constantly changing in response to your thoughts, actions and experience, creating trails in your brain. By doing the same thing over and over, you strengthen those neural pathways – the trails in your brain – so that they fire on an automatic sequence. This strengthens porn’s hold on you, making it that much harder to try to break free. Hard to break not impossible
2) Second, watching pornography bypasses and weakens the prefrontal cortex. This part of your brain is responsible for impulse control and good decision making. It also sends a powerful jolt of dopamine and other hormones directly into your limbic system a lower part of the brain where pleasure is experienced and where you act on impulse. When those chemicals (strong as any drug!) hit, you feel better for a short period of time. However, the desire to watch porn again returns with a vengeance. Not only that, over time, you damage the brain’s pleasure center so that you are less able to experience normal pleasure.
3) No woman can compete with endless images and videos of online porn. Men who view porn tend to have less desire for their own spouse. When your wife, fiancé, or girlfriend discovers your porn viewing habits, trust is broken. Intimacy will decrease, leading to either years of rebuilding trust… or losing your wife’s trust and intimacy for good.
4) Extreme pleasure dulls the brain's sensitivity to dopamine, making your life less exciting and happy.
5) Absence of PMO tricks the brain into thinking something's wrong; it will consequently do everything it can to attract a mate, resulting in more "action" for you.
6) Masturbation is a instinctive and primitave, but unnecesary desire. By stopping it, you are lifting yourself, in a way, into a higher state of evolutionary advancement.
7) I'll hit you with one of the biggest reasons why you should stop watching porn right from the start.If you are not aware of it by now, it's about time you'll find out…
…yes, fapping to online porn can cause ED.In other words, it can make you unable to get it up when you are going for sex with a real life person. This is called porn induced ED.
8) Those HD streaming porn sites are so stimulating for the brains reward system that they literally can cause physical brain changes. It is that constant clicking form scene to scene that can override the brains natural satiation mechanism.
The dopamine levels are sky high for so long that the brain start protecting itself by reducing some of the dopamine receptors and this causes desensitization…
…basically a numb pleasure response.
9) have noticed that you have problems climaxing with a real life partner, then you should know that it is the desensitized pleasure center, that I talked about in “Reason #8”, that is causing you to feel numb
10) Another good reason to stop masturbating to porn is because when you quit, you will get a sharper brain with a better functioning short term memory.
So how can this be?
Remember how fapping to porn causes a disrupted dopamine system in your brain. Well, guess what nerutransmitter is the key player in forming memories? Thats right, it is dopamine. Dopamine is highly involved in short term memory function, and if your dopamine system is disrupted, so is your ability to store memories.
11) Be a free man who wanders at will. No more a desperate slave with no control over self-fate.
12)Start feeling these intense emotions all the time, instead of being numbed to the beautiful world around you. No more the walking dead.
13) Instead of having erectile dysfunction and not finding sex as satisfying as porn, you will be the opposite. After months without porn in your life, your pleasure for sex will skyrocket.
14)will have more time to put in positive worthwhile activities. Most people that are addicted to extreme fapping waste an average or 8 hours per day , even sacrificing sleep to fulfil your cravings.
Ok, so there you have it. 14 good reasons why you should stop masturbating to porn today…
…or at least, give them a lot of thought today and then start tomorrow.
Why not give it a try for 90 days or so?
What do you have to lose?
You can always go back if you found it didn't give you any benefits at all, but my guess is, if you do try it, you do not want to go back…
…ever! But if you expect me to accept this behavior as normal for forever and always , then I’m sorry. I have tried to accept it and I cannot . Not only do I deserve better , I cannot handle the mental anguish especially when you choose digital pictures over me time and time again .
It’s that time!!!!!! Time to be as big as a whore, as you are. You didn’t catch the conversation last night about how I will follow your lead because you’re supposed to be the man of the house. So fuck it, you wanna be a little slut with everybody from Jessica to mystye to Scott. Then let’s do this, let’s manipulate the system. Tbh I really hate going this route but idk what else to do. I know I’m not gonna sleep my life away with depression that this has caused, and I ain’t crying over it anymore. Idk I guess I will try letting someone split my pussy, that’s probably what you have wanted this whole time. I won’t play this game long as life is too short. But I will play it for a bit just to distract me from all this shit. You have all these “lil friends” now you can be my little friend. You will regret all 11 months of shit you have put me threw but I’m gonna do my best in forgiving without an apology or change in your behavior. But what I won’t do is is it back while you dog me out. Hope you find excitement in this cause here I go
Don't introduced me to vibes you cannot maintain Believed all the lies I Fell for the games Can't think of a promise that you didn't break Shoulda got up and left when you begged me stay It's whole lotta shit you won't say to my face Keep playing the victim Act like you ain't tripping but know that you miss em Know that you lonely and wish you was wit me Ever found someone else but you still can't forget em This is an addiction that needs intervention They gin get upset every time that you mentioned Break up brought peace and released all the tension Now i wish you the best and found strength in forgiveness
Things going good but it could be better I just gotta keep on applying this pressure When life got hard can you storm thru the weather Ever gave out your heart in exchange for some pleasure Used to be coo now it's whatever Ya verbal abuse made my skin tuff as leather Bridges got burned tied have been severed Your Keep being trash I'm a keep being treasure I won't say no names
My pussy will never be as moist as it once was especially knowing I’m one of many, that your entertaining. I was under the impression that I was your one and only, but boy was I wrong. It’s tragic because our sex was by far the best dingaling, ever. And to waste it for this bs is such tragedy. Like what hurts the most is that you knew where I stood on all this but your so self centered, that you thought you could hide all this. Why? Why not just cut me lose. Because no I will never be happy until this resolved. I wish I could hurt you as much as you have broken me but I have a thing called a Conscience that’s attached to a thing called a soul. Which won’t allow me to do the things you have done to me. There still a chance of pieces us back together. So just stop destroying us especially me . I never done an I’ll to you , I won’t date intentionally hurt you cause I love you unconditionally. But we are about to hit a point of no return so please stop or just let me go. This is my last public plea. Don’t let me disappear as quickly as I appeared. I want you and most importantly I need us
The more I look to understand the more confused I am never felt so alone Or afraid. The Darkness is starting to consume my soul. I'm drowning in confusion is the people in that say they love me stand on the sidelines waiting for my last breath.
Heck yeah. I would love for my man to let me force his unwilling cock deep down my throat until I could taste the precum and just to completely stop and think about his decisions. And tease the tip of his cock with my tongue. But for me it’s only a A fantasy. Because I know he will never let me in to partake with him. It’s so fucking selfish especially when he tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me.
e , it’s not to be with me . It’s so he won’t die alone. As much as he is into this, which I know he had been into bondage and stuff since at least 2006. But he will not open up to me about. It’s a very selfish act on his part. Because Irl him and I could have sooo much fun with his knowledge and my willingness to please him . And no I wouldn’t dare hurt him . Now I would technically cheat on him with someone I thought was him. If that makes any sense. I wanna partake in his activities so bad. And idk or even slightly understand why he want let me in. I was gonna buy a bondage kit for his birthday and he told me I was too sweet and he wouldn’t ever do that with me . So Im just realizing as I text this , that him and I will never make it. We won’t be able to. And it sucks. For some reason he won’t allow me in and as hard as I have tried to force my way into this part of his life I think I have finally accepted. I don’t know if he keeps it to himself because he is selfish or scared of my reaction. He just doesn’t understand how my I love him. And when I say love like real love unconditionally. But knowing he continues to chat with strangers about his fantasy and can’t share them with me is a breach in our commitment. And again I have trust issues so. That and if he truly wanted to spend eternity together then he would not only share this experience with me but also wanna share this experience with me . It makes me wonder what’s wrong with me? Not to be conceited but I’m very proportional, and I do a damn fine job of keeping my appearance up especially for him . My body’s always smooth only to be prepared for his touch. And not only that in bed I’m super sexual with little gag reflex. So I guess if I decide to Journey down this path it will be alone. As bad as I would like him to force as many orgasms out if my tight lil pussy I just don’t see it a reality. It's not fair but I guess it's apart of life .
I will start of by explaining my distance from the porn industry for the past decade and that should lead us to where I am today. In my early 20's I started to dabble in porn. Playing with my kitty and watch sluts get their pussy split was best sexual experience I had ever experience up to that point in life. That probably has something to do with me getting raped (but no Penetrating) at the age of 7 by my grandmas friend ( that was high on crack), or maybe it's the fact my mother started to pimp me out at the age of 12 to her dealers, exchange for door. I'm not sure why I enjoyed playing with myself as much as I did. But I did and it captivated my life. It got to the point where I would rather flick my clit than have irl sex. Sex took too much energy and it couldn't keep up with imagination. I lived that way for a couple of years. Really until it got to a point I was doing things outside of my character to get off. That's if I could get off. After doing some research I realized my addiction was Hindering me. I gave up everything sexually to give my brain a time to reset. Well at least I tried to give it up. It took months due to the many triggers I had created. I would get so horny by the smallest things. A chick hair blowing in the wind, shirtless guys almost anything. But eventually I was able to give it up along with irl sex. And a couple weeks of being dry, my sexual satisfaction came back. I started to channel any sexual urge to watch porn into my irl sex. I would bounce on a cock as hard and as fast as I could to feel the pain to distract me from the thought of porn. I quickly became a sex addicted. Not the kind that had multiple sex partners but one that wanted cock in me constantly. And I have done that for the past decade
So why am I here now ? Well I have created a new obsession over the past months that is crippling me and causing me to be Dysfunctional. I knew from the beginning of our relationship ( boyfriend and I) that he had an addiction. It didn't take me long to realize that he experienced P.I.E.D . With time we found ways of working through it, until we found something that worked. He blamed the ED on age and life distractions. But what he didn't know is that I had already found his skeletons in the closet. The virtual addiction, the more I searched the more disturbing stuff I found. But instead of it repulsing me , it turned me on to the point my pussy would throb . I would get so wet to rubbing my pussy to content he had recently watched. Masturbating to his playlist would turn the hurt and betrayal into pure bliss. It was great, and most importantly it was working. Well up until a few weeks ago when I came across his profile on a local meet and fuck app. And it was devastating. I had thought about him hooking up irl but I never actually thought he would or plan on it. But I was wrong. All of the pain and hurt fueled the sexual beast that had been engaged for the past 10 years. It made me wanna be a slut but not a virtual slut but in real life. I wanted to be what he wanted and if I couldn't I wanted to be at least participating with him. But that's where the problem arises. He will not admit or open up to me on the subject, he rather leave me in the dark to wonder ( as I rub my pussy raw). So I came here in attempt to be able to enjoy him virtually, only to get ignored. I'm lost on direction. I'm hoping I get feed back on how to get him to let me in or maybe how to release my inner beast. So I guess I will go hunt down some of the porn he watched earlier as I edge his pillow.
