Thanks for your exhortive supportiveness. Haven't figured out how to get the positives of dom & discipline & sub-ness into it yet. Will consider how-tos.
Gotta get back to hanging sick little NinaoftheUnknown who is telling me how to do it just so. Have directly told her it is for MY pleasure not hers. I think I'll move her to the Garotting chair with the v-notched seat so I can insert the Pear, then wire her nips & clit to a battery, crank the pear wide open, and then slowly twist the garotte. Oh and ball-gag her so I don't have to hear her advice.
And she doesn't get that her "needs" are indeed all aout sex.