When it comes to straddling your sweetie, you might think that you need an instruction booklet just to get started. But taking the libidinous lead is a breeze. All that’s required are a few how-to tips and a healthy dose of carnal confidence. If you think you’ll feel like a klutz climbing on your man, try this smooth maneuver: “While you’re in bed kissing, roll on top of him and sit up with your knees on either side of his hips,” advises Lou Paget, author of The Big O. With one hand on the bed or his chest for support, lift your body up and forward, then guide him into you with your other hand as you slowly lower yourself. When you’re on top, play around with different poses to see what feels best. You can try putting your hands or elbows above his head and leaning your torso toward him, which will bring you close enough to lock lips. To show off your full-frontal assets — and make him go insane — straddle him facing forward and lean back with your arms resting on his shins or the bed for balance. “Many women avoid this position because it leaves them feeling so exposed,” says Paget. “But it’s a major turn-on for both of you.” That’s what Cassie,* 31, discovered when she tried this mouthwatering move. “When I lean back, my stomach looks flatter and my boobs look perkier, which automatically makes me feel sexier and lets me get into the moment. Needless to say, my boyfriend totally gets off on the view. He props a few pillows under his head and looks like a naughty schoolkid getting his first glimpse of a naked woman.”
If you’d rather be less revealing, pull your guy’s shoulders toward you so you’re both sitting upright with your legs wrapped around each other and your torsos melded together. This position can be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide your arms around each other so you’re superclose. It’s also a great method for offsetting a too-early orgasm. When you’re sitting with your bodies practically merged, you’re barely moving, which keeps your (or his) climax in a hot holding pattern until you’re both ready.
Tip #2: Get into a Groove
Once you’re aboard your babe, it’s time to settle into a rhythm that will help you hit your orgasmic peak. “Try moving your hips in a steady circular motion,” advises Whipple. “This way, you’ll feel your man rub against all sides of your vaginal walls, and you can experiment to find the penetration and positioning that feel best for you.” Or slowly rock back and forth instead of bouncing up and down, moving your body forward until your hot button presses against his pubic bone. The combination of feeling him inside you as your privates are being stimulated sends many on-top temptresses over the erotic edge. Says Cindy, 24: “My boyfriend and I discovered this maneuver one night while I was leaning all the way forward. For us, it works best when he’s deep inside me, with a pillow under his butt to raise his pelvis slightly so I can rub against him. I get the extra pleasure of being aroused inside and out.” You can also fine-tune your technique: Arch your back and his member will be against your orgasm-producing G-spot, felt through the front of your vaginal wall. Sit straight up and he’ll fit into you more directly, providing a deeper, fuller feel. Keeping your legs together tightens your grip and boosts the sensations for both of you, while spreading them apart — whether bent at the knees or stretched-out — lets you dabble rather than go deep.
Tip #3: Let Him Help You
Just because you’re in the driver’s seat doesn’t mean your dude should just lie back and enjoy the ride. Ask him to pitch in if your knees start to feel sore or when a supplementary motion on his part would make the lovemaking feel twice as nice. “If it means making sex more intense for both of you, chances are, he’ll want to lend a hand,” says Whipple. Keisha, 26, admits: “I love controlling the pace when I ride my guy, but it’s nice when he takes over every so often so that I can catch my breath. Like when I’m tired of thrusting, he’ll clutch my hips and rear end, gently pulling me forward and pushing me back.” Another tip for dividing the lusty labor: Try grinding your groins in tandem so you feed off his momentum without having to make all the waves yourself. Think of it as sexy seesawing, where he’s pushing his pelvis up and toward you while you’re thrusting down and back. The friction will hike up your excitement and provide sensational clitoral stimulation.
Tip #4: Double Your Pleasure
There’s one more major reason why being on top rocks: “No other position leaves your body so open to exploration,” says Whipple. The fact that your guy has unlimited access to you practically guarantees a big-time, pulse-pounding payoff. Take advantage of your accessibility by getting your man to give you a little manual pleasure. Invite him to run his hands over your breasts and belly, and make sure he doesn’t neglect your hot button. Having him stroke you there while you’re doing the bump-and-grind gives you twice as much titillation, which can launch you to an otherworldly orgasm. An easy way to pull this off: “Take his hand and make the movements you want him to use so he knows what gets you going and can finish on his own,” advises Paget. As Meghan, 28, discovered, the results can be astounding: “I’d never been able to climax through intercourse, but one little change to woman-on-top did it for me — his hand!” she recalls. “That extra stimulation makes sex better than ever.”
Here are step by step instructions how to make a girl squirt:
You can start by performing oral on her inner thighs, clitoris and labia especially, to start getting her relaxed and wet. You must continually suck and lick the clitoris throughout the duration of the whole oral act, because oral increases power, pleasure and increases chances of female ejaculating orgasm.
With the hand you write with, take two fingers closest to your thumb (pointer and middle finger) and make them wet with her pussy juice or with your mouth. The most important thing is to make sure your nails are trimmed and not sharp, because you could hurt her.
Slide those two fingers in, with the fingerprint part of the fingers facing up (nails down), slide them in firmly but slowly, as far as they will go without using too much pressure. If she is really tight you may need to start with one, and if there is a lot of wetness but resistance, you may need to tease and taste her pussy some more. Once you get those fingers in, tease her inner walls slowly with the pads of your fingers, and get her even more juicy. When you think that she is ready to have the orgasm of her life, you may begin:
Now you will maneuver your fingers to find her g-spot. Yes, it exists, and yes, every woman has one. Slide your fingers in about 2 inches, UP, and then BACK towards the front of the pussy (like you’re going up behind her clitty). Her g-spot is actually a patch of her inner walls which is on the FRONT INNER WALL of her pussy, above the hole itself. So, in, up, and back towards the entrance. You should feel, on that wall, a very rough patch of skin rougher than the rest of her smooth inner pussy. You’ve found it. Congratulations.
By making a beckoning motion with your two fingers (a come hither, bending fingers motion), you should be able to pull the fingerprint/pad part of the tips of your two fingers against that spot. Try it. Pull back against it with your two fingers and press a little. Tease it, stimulate it with your fingers. Make her feel good. She should be squirming and breathing very heavily by now.
As you start to rhythmically tap/press/pull your fingertips against the g-spot, she should start getting wetter. If you’re doing it right, and she’s comfortable with it, you’ll start to hear squelching, sponge-like sounds. The g-spot is like a sponge, it contains a lot of liquid, and feels rough. Keep pressing your fingers against it, over and over, rhythmically, with the same kind of rhythm as if you were sliding your cock in and out of her pussy.
As she starts to get wetter, and enjoy it more, start doing it harder. The more she thrashes from side to side, the harder you do it. Eventually, you can replace the tapping/poking of the g-spot with an outright speed-sliding of those two fingers in and out of her hole. Do it faster and faster, maintain the rhythm, but increase the force. Even when you’re slamming them straight in and out of her hole, try and maintain an upward, outward force with the fingertips, so you’re still pressing up against that g-spot even as you’re slamming her with your fingers with reckless abandon.
Through all of this, she should be squelching, squirming and OBVIOUSLY loving it. If she’s not, you should stop. If she says it hurts (especially if she says it more than once, you might want to stop or at LEAST slow down or not do it so hard. Make sure she’s always wet, not dry for any period of time.
Now here’s the crucial part. When she gets close to ejaculation, she will say that she needs to pee. SHE DOES NOT NEED TO PEE. It’s just a temporary sensation that will pass, but you have to make sure she knows about it beforehand, and you have to make sure she does not stop you, and you do not desist in your slamming. Hold her legs apart with the other hand, if you have to. You can even use your head or knees or whatever to hold her legs open, but make sure she stays relatively still (or she might get hurt on your fingers) and that you KEEP GOING. In fact, when she needs to pee, that’s when you should start doing it harder, cause orgasm is around the corner.
10-50 seconds after the pee sensation begins, she will start to cum. When she does, DON’T STOP. Just do it harder and harder and harder, pressuring the g-spot upwards all the while. Now she should start to ejaculate. She’ll scream, and her pussy will start shooting clear (transparent), odorless liquid all over the place. There could be a lot of it, it might soak you completely and soak the sheets and everything around her, so make sure you’re prepared.
I guarantee you, if she’s never had one before, the squirting orgasm will be the best orgasm of her life. In my experience, 97% of women are capable of having them, and in certain circumstances, I think it’s more like 99.9%. If you want her to ejaculate in great volumes, have her drink lots of water before you do it, and stay well hydrated. Once she’s finished squirting, SHE CAN SQUIRT AGAIN. Especially if you didn’t do it too hard, and still got her to cum, you can usually start all over, and between one and ten minutes later, she’ll be squirting again. Usually, you have to do it harder each time. My record is seven. The girl that squirted seven times in 45 minutes passed out for 6 hours afterward (it’s physically exhausting and dehydrating) so be careful if you try more than 2 at once.
Most girls pass out after a couple of them. This can make a girl fall in love and at the very least want to fuck your brains out, so use it wisely rather than to your advantage. Don’t take advantage of people using this. If you do it wrong, or if she’s on her period, she might bleed. That’s usually okay, but just make sure you don’t hurt her, and you stop if she’s screaming with pain, rather than pleasure.
You should always have a safe word with your partner, and you should always make sure she knows what you intend to do and that she’s fine with it. Enjoy this, and I hope it works out for you; I hope it works out for HER, even more so. If it does well, just wait and see. I’m jealous of women because of g-spot orgasms! There’s NO male equivalent it’s just absolute ecstasy, nothing less. Remember there are at least fifty ways to make a woman cum (actually lots more) and at least five different types of orgasms so don’t limit yourselves to this whether it works or not.
Oral Sex Tips and Tricks: How to Give an Unforgettable Blow Job
Blowjobs. Head. Hummers. BJs. Going Down. Fellatio. Whatever you call it, guys will do anything to get it. Oral sex is as hot and intimate as it comes, so be empowered! You have his full trust. He’s at your mercy. And you control every moment of his pleasure. Great oral sex is the ultimate sexual gift you can give to your guy. So why not give it your all?
Blowjob Basics.
Did you find the pamphlet that came with the guy’s penis the first time you performed oral sex? No? Then I’ll bet you had to figure it out all by yourself.
So let’s start fresh today, okay?
Start by getting comfortable. Oral sex can be a bit tiring, so be sure to position yourself so your upper body and shoulders can move up and down with you. Just remember: you set the depth. You set the pace. You set your comfort. You’re in control.
Safer Sex Precaution. To fully enjoy the pleasures of oral sex both of you should be totally monogamous and free of all sexually transmitted diseases.
Now let’s explore the four phases.
Phase I: The Agony of Anticipation.
Land soft, wet kisses on his mouth, neck and earlobes. Show him what foreplay is all about!
Now bring your mouth down just far enough on his body so he’ll think maybe, hopefully, possibly you’ll keep on going.
Unzip his pants and begin teasing his penis lightly with your hand as you sweep your mouth around his belly button, hips, thighs—in other words, everywhere but.
Phase II: Peeling and Revealing.
It’s time for the clothes to start disappearing. Gently pull down his underwear so you reveal only the head of his penis.
Now guide his penis to your mouth, and tease him with a couple of kisses before you remove every trace of clothing and move in for a closer lick.
When performing oral sex the first touches of your mouth will give him the most incredible sensations. Ever so slowly, glide the tip of your tongue up over the head, down the shaft and back up again. Now take his whole head into your mouth for one full suck, and let it pop out with one loud sexy “slurp.”
Phase III: Head-on Head.
You’re now into the faster, rhythmical phase he’s been aching for. Try the techniques below as your starting point, and improvise from there. Be sure to include these BJ-boosters, too:
You only need to put his penis into your mouth as far as you feel comfortable when giving head. You can start shallow, and increase the depth slowly.
Pay attention to what’s going on inside your mouth. Make sure it’s always nice ‘n slippery, keep your teeth out of the way, run his head along the roof of your mouth for a bumpy ridge effect, lick the tip of his head while it’s inside and swirl on it with your tongue.
Remember: use teeth softly (or ask if he likes nibbling—and how hard.)
Bring his balls into play. Lube them up and caress them gently for the full erotic oral sex experience. Lightly tug, squeeze and roll them around in the cup of your hand. Then move on to his taint and butt.
Take your time. Remember, enthusiasm is key. Love everything you’re doing!
Phase IV: The Eruption.
It’s time to reap the reward for your loving caresses and erotic inspiration.
The key to his climax will come from your steady application of the one Golden Technique that works for your guy. Once you discover it, store it away in your memory and you’ll enjoy many happy endings together.
When do you begin the Golden Technique? When you sense he’s getting close to orgasming. Just stay with the same speed, rhythm and pressure—and don’t stop! Then when he erupts:
Hand Finish. If you’re not ready to taste him, substitute your hand for your mouth without missing a beat.
Lip Finish. With your lips over his head, press your tongue against his peehole. As you stroke him with your hand, let his spurts ricochet left and right off your tongue.
Mouth Finish. If you’re ready for him to come inside your mouth, but you don’t want to swallow, try this: aim him toward the inside of your cheek and use the back of your tongue to close off your throat.
First Licks. Ready? Let’s start with the basics for giving mind-blowing oral sex.
Lip Gloss. Flood your puckered lips with saliva, then glide them gently up and down and all around his shaft. Swirl around the head, too.
All-Day Sucker. Push your lips outward and create a gently suction on his shaft. Now suck ‘n glide up and down without losing the vacuum.
Laplander. With your tongue full, wide and relaxed, lick his penis upward like a melting ice cream cone.
Skin Flicks. Flutter and flick the tip of your tongue from the top of his penis all the way to the bottom of his balls.
Exotic Variations.
Flick Off. With his head in your mouth, flick or roll your tongue around the top. Try flattening your tongue to create more surface area.
Fruit Juicer. Twist your neck left and right so it feels like your mouth is swiveling on his penis as you go up and down. Add in the Flick Off and listen to him moan.
Ivory Hunt. Break the no-teeth rule—gently! Glide your teeth down the length of his shaft, or run the head of his penis over the broad-surfaced molars in the back of your mouth—with a feather-light touch! Say When. Slowly run your finger up the underside of his penis. Tell him to say “There!” when you reach the most sensitive spot. Now make love to that spot by licking, nibbling and teasing.
If you decide you do want to shave your pubic area, here is a comprehensive how-to guide in 10 easy steps.
1. Go shopping for the appropriate supplies. You will need:
A pair of sharp scissors
A new razor (not disposable or dull)
Female shaving cream* for your skin type, soft baby oil, and aloe vera cream (preferably with vitamin E added to it).
Using either an electric razor is not recommended. If you can’t find specialized creams for female shaving, use the mildest, non-perfumed male variety. For aftercare, use the baby oil to prevent pimples and the aloe vera cream to calm inflamed skin. Do not use male aftershave of any kind. Also, tweezers and hair conditioner are optional supplies. You can use the hair conditioner to help soften the hair before shaving if it is especially coarse. The tweezers can be used for stray or hard-to-reach hairs.
2. Use the scissors to clip as much of the pubic hair as possible. This way the actual shaving will be less painful and more effective.
3. After cropping as much hair as possible, make sure the pubic area is soft and smooth by soaking in a hot bath or shower for at least three minutes. This will allow you to achieve a closer shave, as well as avoid pimples and irritated skin later.
4. After the soak, dry off and wait a few minutes. This allows the skin to recuperate a little.
5. Apply generous amounts of female shaving creamspecific to your skin type, or the mildest, non-perfumed male cream. Do not use soap! Let the shaving cream sit for a few minutes.
6. Use a safety razor to begin shaving—no switch-blades or disposable razors. If possible, use a razor with moisturizing strips and “micro-fins” or cushions, etc. These help with extra protection from nicks and cuts.
7. When shaving, pull the skin tight with your free hand andshave without applying pressure. If you have to apply pressure, your razor is too dull.
8. Move slowly over the skin in the counter-direction of the hair. In the pubic area, this means shaving upward. For people who are prone to ingrown hairs or razor burn, it is recommended you shave in the direction of the hair growth. As you shave, feel free to keep applying shaving cream.
9. When you’re done shaving, wash the area generously withlots of warm water.
10. Apply aftercare: Use soft baby oil*** to keep skin smooth and free of pimples, use aloe vera to soothe sensitive skin. Do not use male aftershave; it will sting terribly!
Sucking a man’s penis is one of the pure pleasures in life. It’s sad to think that many women don’t appreciate just how much fun it can be. The reason for this is they don’t know how to do it correctly and so it doesn’t end up being much fun because if you mess up, you don’t get your reward. The penis doesn’t get hard, the man doesn’t have a good time and the woman feels like a failure.
But here’s the good news: It’s easy to learn how to be a terrific cock sucker. And I’m going to tell you exactly how. It doesn’t matter what setting you choose, you can be home in bed or parked on Sunset Boulevard, but seek whatever level of privacy you need to feel relaxed and sexy. For the purpose of this guide, let’s say you’re on a couch. You’re with a man you like and you know he’d love to have a good blow job about now. Slip down on the floor between his legs and open his fly. Reach in and touch his penis. If he’s hot for you, it will already be hard. If he’s nervous, it may still be bent up inside his shorts. Grab hold of his cock and lean up to his face and kiss him. See if you can feel a response down below. Any movement is a good sign. Now pull it out and see how it stands. If it’s straight up, you’re doing great, otherwise, here’s what to do: Pull his balls out. If the pants are too tight, pull them down. Now hold his balls in your left hand and his cock in your right. Squeeze it gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet and look into your man’s face. He wants to watch you suck him off. Men love to watch. Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite your man and come very close to his cock. Breathe on him, blow on him with your hot breath. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him.
Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, very gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. A wet cock looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus, or even to run your fingers over his anus very lightly. Since the muscles that cause erection originate back there, this will produce a reaction in his cock. After you’ve licked his shaft lots of times and it’s all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don’t start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you’re taking things too far. Teasing is great…to a point. A little experience in giving blowjobs will educate you as to just when that point has been reached.
On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don’t stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his cock, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don’t suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive, but not all men! That’s one thing a good cock sucker has to learn to do, as soon as you’re comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his penis. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to your partner. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that penis head like it was chocolate icecream and take the whole knob into your hot mouth. Hold it there. Listen to him moan. Now down quickly and take as much of his cock as you can get into your mouth. Don’t worry, you won’t choke. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the cock down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. This can be almost as luscious as having one in your vagina. It grows on you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the penis and flick your tongue against it. Your man will be getting antsy now, wanting you to deep-throat him some more. But don’t let him bully you. If he had his way, it’d be over in two minutes and what fun is that? Moving as fast as he can handle it (don’t let him come yet), slide up and down on his cock as if you’re having intercourse. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can’t get all the way down to the bottom of his penis, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you’ve got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking.
That’s another thing. Besides just mouthing the penis, you can suck it which is quite different. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel great. Your man may have a preference, however, so watch his reactions. Taking just the knob in your mouth, suck it as if it were a nipple or a straw. This feels so good to the man, it makes me hot just thinking about it. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you take the whole cock and suck it all the way up like you would a popsicle and then go back and do it again, sucking on the way down as well.
Here is an important thing to know: Any of these moves will feel great the first few times or more, but after a while, it’s as if the cock gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, it’s time to move onto your next play. You don’t want the penis to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated, almost, but not quite, to the point of orgasm, which is just about where we are now. You’ve got a raging hard-on in your right hand and some tight balls in your left. Lean back and take a look at it. It’s beautiful, isn’t it? Move your right hand all the way to the base of the cock and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob, will be shining and smooth. Continue to take the penis into your mouth and suck and try out all your various moves until you know the man can’t stand anymore and he’s going to blast off.
What you do now is between you and your lover. Personally, I like to watch it shoot. It gives me visual images for my wet dreams and besides, it’s a thrill to see the spurting cum. It’s amazing how much of that stuff comes out and how far it shoots. If you want to watch, you’ll feel it coming with your right hand and know when to back off. You can even try to catch some on your tongue if you’re fast. You might want to swallow it, some girls do, and lots of guys like to have it swallowed. Be careful to back up a little when it goes off though or you’ll gag on it and that’s not too romantic. Take it into your mouth and hold it there and then swallow it.
Another solution, and this is a nice one too, unless you’re making love where you can’t make a mess, is to let the warm, wonderful juices gush into your mouth and then slide around the already wet cock. It make it so slippery and delightful to touch! You’ll want to run your hands through it, feeling that hard cock all the way up, smoothing the glistening cum over the knob. This makes a great sensual image too, for you and for your man. Now you’ve given your man a blow job that he’ll not forget. Believe me, if you follow my instructions, this guy will want to see a lot more of you.
I’ve heard from men that one woman in fifty knows how to give a good blowjob. The rest act like it’s a big favor, which is another point I should make. If you don’t like to give blowjobs and you’ve tried to learn to like it and it still doesn’t work, don’t give up. Maybe you’ll like it more as you grow older. Men say older women are much better at giving head. But I should warn you, there are a lot of us out here who love to give head and we’re going to be stiff competition for you shy ones. I know women who can even have orgasms sucking cock.
One final note, this time for the men: Don’t push it. There’s nothing more deadly than having a man push your head down there. Just wait. If she’s into it, she’ll get around to it, sometimes not until the second time you make love. And if you give her time, she’ll learn to like it. If she doesn’t enjoy it, perhaps your next lover will. Now go out and get ‘em!
When you have relaxed your body lie on a bed, or sit in a comfortable chair, and explore your nude or semi-nude body. Run your fingers and hands across your body. Explore your breasts and play with your nipples; caress your legs and thighs. Cup your vulva in your hand and gently rub in small circles. Stimulate your body, but do not try to reach orgasm. Make yourself feel good. If you feel yourself get tense, stop what you are doing, breath deeply and relax. Do this exercise as often as possible, but for no longer than 20 minutes per session. Do not tire or stress yourself out. The point of this exercise is to make you feel good while staying relaxed, not to have an orgasm. You want to feel a little aroused, but at peace - not compelled to go further.
After you become comfortable exploring and touching your body you will want to try more direct means of stimulating your vulva. Slip your fingers between the folds of your vulva and massage and play with your inner labia, perhaps pulling on them lightly or firmly. Slip your fingers up to the top of your vulva and place them on top of your clitoris. Gently move your fingers up and down, around, and perhaps even wildly jiggle them. Make the loose tissue covering your clitoris slide across the body and glans of your clitoris. If you feel a need to be filled, insert a finger or two into your vagina. You want to make yourself feel really good, but you do not want to intentionally try to have an orgasm. If an orgasm occurs, you want it to be a total surprise. If you are thinking about having an orgasm, you need to slow down, relax, and redirect your thoughts. You do not want your brain to know you are about to have an orgasm.
You may not experience orgasm the first few times, so do not try to. Just enjoy the pleasures of touching yourself. If you get to a point where you suddenly find your body is super-tense, you are trying too hard. Try to enjoy yourself, not orgasm. You want to surprise yourself with an orgasm. If you feel yourself on the verge of orgasm, but cannot get there, you are probably trying too hard; you cannot force your body to have an orgasm. The more you concentrate on trying to have an orgasm, the less likely you are to have one.
Clitoral Stimulation
Using your hands and fingers, stimulate (rub, stroke, pinch, etc) the clitoris with one or more fingers or the palm of your hand. Some find direct contact with the clitoris too intense, and prefer stimulation near or around the clitoris. Others prefer to have a layer of clothing or some other fabric between the hand and clitoris. Try it both ways and see what works best for you.
G-Spot Stimulation
Inserting a vibrator or dildo into the vagina can help locate and stimulate your G-spot and offers a feeling of fullness in the vagina. You can locate your G-spot with your fingers, but it’s difficult to provide adequate stimulation through manual masturbation. Women who enjoy stimulation of the G-spot usually employ sexual toys to make it easier and more enjoyable.
Vibrators
Vibrators are used primarily for clitoral stimulation, though many women also use them for vaginal or anal stimulation. They also may be combined with other toys and used in any number of positions. A good, discrete alternative to a vibrator for clitoral or anal stimulation is a massage wand. However, massage wands cannot be used for vaginal or anal penetration.
Common, Everyday Objects
Rub your clitoris against any soft, non-abrasive object (e.g., a pillow, the corner of a couch, etc.) and see if you enjoy the stimulation it provides.
Showers
A detachable shower-head can be quite scintillating for just about any woman. The best shower available is the ones with the versatile control that switches the water from a steady stream to a pulsating jet spray. In hot tubs, avoid sending strong streams of water into the vagina; in extreme cases this can cause fatal air embolism!
Kiss your way down her body and tease her thighs and buttocks for a while before you make contact with any part of her genitalia. This will turn her on before you start the real action. Get close so that she thinks you’re going to zero in on her at any second, but don’t give in immediately.
2- Warm her up
Before you remove her underwear, breathe hot air through it against her genital area. Breathe softly but warmly for short bursts at a time. You can alternate between doing this and kissing her thighs and stomach.
3- Don’t dive in
When you begin to kiss and lick her vulva, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by licking the outer edges of the outer lips (labia), then very slowly spread them, and lick and kiss the inner lips, and around the vagina. Do this gently, as though you were still teasing her. You’ll work your way up to more intense action eventually.
4- Wait for the clitoris
Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clitoris for as long as you can, even as you kiss her labia and vagina. When you do begin to lick it, do it softly, and focus on the clitoral hood (just above the clitoris), since most women prefer indirect clitoral contact before they’re fully aroused.
5- Lick the alphabet
If you’re not sure which strokes are best to approach the clitoris, try Sam Kinison’s famous suggestion and lick the shape of every letter in the alphabet as a means of offering a wide variety of approaches. Make them wide from time to time to cover the whole genital area, and make them small at other times, centering on the clitoris itself.
6- Suck it up
As she becomes more aroused, you can gently suck her clitoris into your mouth and flick your tongue over it. This combines suction with a much faster rhythm. Women like that.
7- Listen for her reaction
Listen carefully to what she says and the sounds she makes. If she sounds excited, keep doing what you’re doing for as long as you can. When she seems to respond less, it’s time to try a new stroke.
8- Hum
You’ve heard of fellatio being called a “hummer,” but it works just as well if you close your mouth and hum against her clitoris every once in a while too.
9- Grab hold
Hold on to her thighs or her backside so you can rub yourself against her well. From there you can also reach up and caress her breasts or, if she likes, place your hands near her mouth so she can suck on your fingers.
10- Get your whole face into it
Someone once said that if your eyelids aren’t sticky after giving a woman oral sex, you didn’t do all you could to please her. Use your nose, cheeks and chin (clean shaven; no one wants sandpaper down there), and move them around. Even if you’re just using your mouth, shaking your face from side to side and up and down will enhance friction in a great way.
11- Use your fingers
Penetrating your woman with one finger and making a “come here” motion is a great way to locate her G-spot, which will raise the ante of her orgasm. Even if you don’t know where her G-spot is (it’s good to have some experience with it beforehand), just penetrating her as you lick her. You can also alternate between penetrating her with your penis and pleasuring her orally.
12- Maintain eye contact
You may lose track of what you’re doing in the excitement of it all, but it’s good to make eye contact with your lover, and give her a smile and a look that says, “There’s nowhere else I’d rather be.”
13- Know when to continue
When your woman gets close to orgasm, make sure you do everything she wants you to. No matter if you have a kink in your neck or your arm’s falling asleep, keep doing exactly what you’re doing until you’re sure she’s had her orgasm.
14- Know when to stop
The clitoris is extremely sensitive after climax, so when her orgasm is over, you don’t want to keep licking it as intensely as you were before she reached orgasm. As she climaxes, continue licking, but gently taper off as her reaction begins to mellow.
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While all of these are useful ideas, the real magic of oral pleasure is doing the unexpected, so as you put these ideas to use, remember to be spontaneous as often as you can.
And keep in mind that you must be enthusiastic at all times — if you want her to go down on you willingly, then she deserves the same in return.
One of the secrets of great manual sex is varying your hand motions. Here are a few indispensable techniques
SWITCH HITTER
Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don’t get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good. Get him to the point where he’s singing out, “I second that hand motion!”
DOUBLE WHAMMY
How about going double or nothing! Bring both well-lubricated hands down on his shaft. Some cocks are so big they require both hands. If your partner’s doesn’t, then use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you’re holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There’s no doubt that two hands are better than one.
THE ANVIL STROKE
Bring one hand down, letting it stroke the penis from the top all the way to the bottom. When it hits the bottom, release it. Meanwhile you’re bringing your corresponding hand down to the top of the shaft, creating an alternating beating motion, hence the name “anvil stroke.” Think of those blacksmith duos who keep up a double beat pounding motion as they beat that rod of iron on a piping-hot anvil.
THE SHUTTLE COCK
Not many people have heard of the “shuttle cock,” but it’s one of the best. Take the penis in both hands, fingers lightly touching the sides of the shaft. In order to visualize the position, think of yourself holding a clarinet. Now flick the penis back and forth between your two hands by holding on to the loose skin of the shaft. Shuttling it back and forth in this manner may not seem incredibly thrilling to him at first, but pretty soon, as it builds up momentum, it will drive him out of his mind. Orgasms encountered via this method are sometimes messy, but always memorable.
THE BOOKENDS
Place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.
THE FLAME
Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you’re a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you’ll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.
THE BASE CLUTCH
Tighten your thumb and forefinger around the base of the shaft, pressing down on the balls. This will cut off the blood (acting as an impromptu cock ring) and help you steady the shaft in your hand. If the skin on it is slick and immutable, you can stroke the penis with more friction, thereby enhancing the excruciating experience.
THE LOVE TUG
As you are stroking him, lightly pull on the wispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles. Don’t pull so hard that you remove them, but tease them gently, lovingly. This will make him holler with delight and awe at your inventiveness.
THE TWO-TIMER
Tickle his balls with one hand while the other jerks him up and down.
THE THIGH-SWATTER
Use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs.
BEST FIST FORWARD
Place your fist against his perineum as you’re stroking him. He’ll probably start opening his legs a little wider, giving you more space to press against. Guaranteed to drive him wild.
As always, it is the psychological impact of what you are doing that makes the sex so satisfying. Let your mind escape into the uncharted wilderness of fantasy. As a sexual pioneer, it is your manifest destiny to explore the outer limits of your sensuality.
THE MILKER
Opposite of the Anvil - Hands alternate ‘milking’ up the penis, starting at the base and working all the way up past the tip.
THE PERPETUAL PENETRATION
Like the Anvil, but rather than just grabbing the penis at the top, let his penis ‘penetrate’ into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous for best results. Try faster or slower to taste.
THE PALM SWIRL
Use your open palm to swirl around the head, the way your tongue would lick an ice cream cone. This sensitizes the head, and will make it get larger and turn (even more) red. Try reversing direction for a surprise.
TINY CIRCLES
As in “The Palm Swirl”, use your open palm on his glans, but stop at each “hour of the clock”, and make circular motions with your open palm. This will make this part of the head EXTREMELY sensitive, so move to the next hour after a few circles.
THE RING
Make a ring with your thumb and forefinger, and pump up and down with this ring. When you get to the top, close the ring, then make him squeeze his way in as you slide back down to the bottom.
THE DOOR KNOB
Turn the head of his penis like a you’re trying to open a door knob coated with grease. It won’t turn, but he may flip. Now try turning the other way. Repeat.
THE SHAFT
Stroke only his shaft, ignoring the head. You will notice it swelling and turning red. When it’s bright red and rock hard, use the Door Knob, the Palm Swirl, or the Perpetual Penetration.
THE SPOT PINCH
Lightly and slowly run a finger up the under side of his cock. Ask him to tell you where the most sensitive spot is. Pinch it, squeeze it, nibble it, tease it. This is a good spot to pinch to turn a soft cock rock solid.
When you have relaxed your body lie on a bed, or sit in a comfortable chair, and explore your nude or semi-nude body. Run your fingers and hands across your body. Explore your breasts and play with your nipples; caress your legs and thighs. Cup your vulva in your hand and gently rub in small circles. Stimulate your body, but do not try to reach orgasm. Make yourself feel good. If you feel yourself get tense, stop what you are doing, breath deeply and relax. Do this exercise as often as possible, but for no longer than 20 minutes per session. Do not tire or stress yourself out. The point of this exercise is to make you feel good while staying relaxed, not to have an orgasm. You want to feel a little aroused, but at peace - not compelled to go further.
After you become comfortable exploring and touching your body you will want to try more direct means of stimulating your vulva. Slip your fingers between the folds of your vulva and massage and play with your inner labia, perhaps pulling on them lightly or firmly. Slip your fingers up to the top of your vulva and place them on top of your clitoris. Gently move your fingers up and down, around, and perhaps even wildly jiggle them. Make the loose tissue covering your clitoris slide across the body and glans of your clitoris. If you feel a need to be filled, insert a finger or two into your vagina. You want to make yourself feel really good, but you do not want to intentionally try to have an orgasm. If an orgasm occurs, you want it to be a total surprise. If you are thinking about having an orgasm, you need to slow down, relax, and redirect your thoughts. You do not want your brain to know you are about to have an orgasm.
You may not experience orgasm the first few times, so do not try to. Just enjoy the pleasures of touching yourself. If you get to a point where you suddenly find your body is super-tense, you are trying too hard. Try to enjoy yourself, not orgasm. You want to surprise yourself with an orgasm. If you feel yourself on the verge of orgasm, but cannot get there, you are probably trying too hard; you cannot force your body to have an orgasm. The more you concentrate on trying to have an orgasm, the less likely you are to have one.
