Love and sex to any thinking mind are seperate things. From my experinces in life thus far, I have seen people really abuse the concept of love and sex. Many seem to seperate them as if they are mutualy exclusive and can never meet. If you do that, then you have the problem of a lack of balance.
Love and sex (lust) is dependant of the other to have a successful relationship that will last and be strong. One's mate ideally should be nearly or exactly equal to your desires and libido levels...as well as sexual limits, if any.
And to some extent this is what we try to look for, maybe subconsiously, thinking consiously that you are being picky. YES BE PICKY! There is a very good reason for that... one is genetics. To choose someone who "feels" right or the sexiest. Scientifly proven to be at the core of why we choose at all To find the perfect mate to well mate with and create ofspring to amke stroinger people. It's very normal. But it is treated as a selfish thing. Denying all animal experssoin denies a very impoirtant part of humankind We are not some superior being. Nor are we equal to animals. we are unique in the sense that we have choices. We can choose the degrees of limits we wish on ourselves. We choose how far we go in life. Often such choices are clouded or stunted by fears. Let go those fears and you will become free. Not to do evil. I enver suggest that, but it is to be strong and full of willpower. To be come MORE equal to everyone.
I believe I am in good company with the BSDM couples out there who may do rape-play or other violent type of role plays. It is all about power exchange, not damage or fear. Such things can be done safely. It is all about intimate realities, using a story to spice things up. I hesistate to call it fantasy...whiel it is, that deminishes hte true spirit , the true meaning of thistype of play. Play is the perfect wordfor it..neither real nor unreal. It just is. It is a meeting point, a comfortabel and arousing place two people can meet and enjoy all.
So how does this fit into love? You power exhange people know this very well hehe. Very likely these people have very healthy and lively relatoinships with thier partner. BECASUE the wild spirit within is NOT stiffled. It is set free to be what it is, the true you. Love comes into it by the mere fact that while sexualy enjoying one another, love fills the space. Fills your bodies...at that moment you can feel both lust and love yet they are seperate. Over time (and much practice, hehe) you can tell the difference adn enjoy both qualities and understand how htey work together. If you feel that, I guarantee anything less wil jsut not do. Those who understand my words know exactly the feeling. It is a feelign of complete oneness of the couple (or threesome, whatever ;)) It is an ultimate free love. (not to be confused with hippy "free love" lol) It binds a couple closer htan ever. It creates its own energy, excitment. Encourages you to experiment adn do more , different things. Not alwyas to top the last, but to prvide variety in a more natural way. Remember hte word perverse is a hate word. It is a fear word. It merely means not of the norm. And god forbid we try to be unique and different lol :P
To conclude, that oneness fills you compeltely. Feeling light and happy, almost euphoric in nature. That's what it is, Nature released. Primal desire let loose to enhance an already beautifual expereince into a work of orgasmic art.
LIFE IS ART, THUS ALL WITHIN IS AN ART. THE EVIL AND HTE GOOD ADN THE INBETWEEN. LIVE IN THE INBETWEEN AND WALK ENAR HTE EDGES OF THAT LINE SAFELY MY FREINDS. YOU WIL ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF IT
I hope my words have been of some enetertaining value at leas, and maybe give you someting to think about , at most.
Ok now that I have been here for a few months..it's time I get myself a girlfriend. Not just any girlfriend of coures...I'm sick of conventional...sick of the usual..sick of "normal", whatever that is.Just pain sick of one night stands and meaningless sex...I want to make love to my girl(s) Keep them around and use them as they wish to be used (different meaning of used in this case. More positive. More on love and sex in a future post.
Morals are for the uptight and scared. For sheep. I am a wolf. Hungry and voracious, especialy when it comes to sex and depravity. I never hear it but I am told that at times I sound like a wolf, thrusting into my tiny prey..lust consuming my every cell.
Self-restraint while you hold all the power is all the morals I need. I have discipline and fully intend to use it on my girl, whomever that may be.
We all know what is right and wrong...and for most who has the true willpower, we dont need any book to tell us basics we should already know. Books can lie and manipulate us just as well as the people who write them. Old doesn't always mean better or more wise.
Its all in how close you are willing to get to those lines before stopping. I get pretty damn close, and in some cases, if it is all good for all invovled, I may step across, as in ancient times before, where it may not have been taboo or illegal or immoral....
Morals change, the human spirit never does...it knows what is needed and should have and deserve or not. Just as the body will suffer if it is denied proper nourishment, so does the spirit if denied its sustanence.
[EDIT: Grammer and spelling corrections ... I really shouldn't type this stuff when dead tired lol]
