I need my hands tied behind my back and a man's hands firmly gripping my hair or it isn't a proper blowjob. I don't want to be "empowered" or "in control of his pleasure" or any of that romance novel bullshit; if you like that, fine, but a blowjob to me is an act of submission and obedience. I don't want to feel empowered, I want to feel desired, then used. It's his cock in my mouth, so he controls me.