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initiating sex
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I'm constantly surprised by how much men appreciate a woman who initiates sex. Simply saying "come and get it" seems to be magical enough to get him hard. I wonder if it's a result of reducing broad womanizing/sexism as a society, and guys are afraid to inititate for fear of being considered pushy/sleazy/rapist etc? Simply reminding him occasionally at a random time (say during brunch) that's he's good in bed, I like his cock, or feeling up his balls under the table is so easy, yet I have to be reminded occasionally how important it can be for a happy marriage. We're pretty conditioned that it has to be the guy and it takes some effort to break it...
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Posted on : Dec 27, 2015
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Commented on Jan 2, 2016
hey, thanks for the feedback guys :) Yes, words seem mightier than skin in giving himan erection (and getting good sex!).
GP, the instance where I showed some desire for sex and he isnt able to respond are very rare - although I admit if it happens twice in a row I do freak out a bit. However I don't think I deserve much credit, it's not like the world of women is unaware that dirty talk/initiating works (ever peeked at women's mags in a grocery store? I think every single issue has a variation of this :) I'm just surprised how effective and important it is!
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Commented on Jan 1, 2016
Well said. I can get harder faster by the seductive words of a woman than just seeing a woman naked.
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Commented on Dec 31, 2015
It is an equal opportunity world now.
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Commented on Dec 30, 2015
.....and I would add that it's probably critical that we men show consistent strong desire for you to give the women in our lives the confidence to initiate once in a while and know that we will immediately respond.
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Commented on Dec 29, 2015
From at least this man's perspective, you are right on target. I think it can be too easy to get into a pattern of the man's job being the pursuer, assuming that if he wants sex he'll initiate, and if he doesn't initiate he must not want it. It is so incredibly important for any relationship -- most importantly a marriage -- for a man to get the message once in a while that he is desired, and that the woman he is with craves him. This can be as simple as a caress on the shoulder to a bold spontaneous reach into his pants from behind to coming home and finding our spouse naked and on all fours. The fact is that we almost always want it, but to your point about shifting societal norms, we don't always push it if we don't get a sense that are partners are willing to play along. Plus, we can go from 0 to 60 in about 3 1/2 seconds. Great post, and bravo for being a woman and recognizing this.
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Commented on Dec 28, 2015
good post x
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