I may lead a life that makes 50 Shades Of Grey look like a children's colouring book, but even I am not adverse to a nice good old fashioned sex session.

But I always have my ropes or cuffs nearby.

I'm not the huge stud with limitless stamina I was at 18, and am further handicapped in the thrusting department by having had my left leg amputated above the knee. So I have developed pretty substantial skills in stimulating women with more then the meat between my thighs.

Yeah we all understand the importance of foreplay, and I'm not laying any claim to some extraordinary expertise on the subject just a greater reliance on it then the average guy. NOT to blow my own trumpet, that's her job  , but my years as a Dom and Sadist have given me a good grounding in the female body and psyche. 

No dammit, if I'm honest I am better then average. I take great pride in the knowledge I spent years gaining as an active (and respected) member of the BDSM comunity, and in my patience and inventiveness. If you think that makes me a big headed prick, then that's YOUR opinion, and you're welcome to keep it to yourself.

But getting back on subject. I'm well aware of the effect of slowly building a woman to a peak, but not taking her straight to orgasm. Orgasms can be "banked", and given time to bring a woman to the right peak the result is hard multiple orgasms on her part. In many cases this will be her first experience of multiples. She may squirt for her first time, and she may even be so overwhelmed by pleasure that her eyes roll back, and lose consciousness briefly. All of which gives me a great sense of satisfaction, and very grateful reciprocation.

The problem I usually face is because I deny instant gratification as part of the process then if the ladies don't already indulge in the pleasures of bondage then they tend to get a bit inpatient. She will either start grabbing at me and trying to get my cock in her, or start mauling at herself.

Now I don't blame them for loss of self control (it shows I'm doing it right), but I really need them to keep their hands out of the way. This is when it becomes quite easy to persuade a bondage virgin to accept artificial restraint. 

It depends on the girl as to whether I whip the cuffs out, or make it look less contrived by improvising something, but once I have her comfortably restrained, which ideally is spread arms rather then hands behind the back, I can take her that much further.

Once a woman (and I imagine most guys) have experienced pleasure beyond their normal tolerance, the restraint becomes part of the pleasure, and they become willing to explore even more restrictive restraint.

So keep those cuffs, ropes and manacles handy (or maybe just a few silk scarfs). You can only regret not having them to hand when you really want them.

Always remember Informed Consent.