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Orgasm denial
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What is orgasm denial? Well, orgasm denial is basically a part of the
BDSM culture, although many other people do it as well, sometimes even
without knowing what it's called. It's basically a form of pleasure
delay. And as you might've thought, the more you delay the pleasure, the
more eager you get to have that pleasure. And that's exactly what
orgasm denial is about.
But not cumming isn't very much of a turn on, if you're not being
stimulated. For some it is, but for most it isn't. So an important part
of orgasm denial, is making sure that the person you do it to, or with,
or to yourself if you don't have a partner for it, is all about
stimulation, but stopping before the orgasm comes. This may sound weird
to some of you out there, but if you stop masturbating, for instance,
just before you cum, and cool off for a moment, and then start again to
make yourself finally cum, your orgasm feels much more gratifying and
stronger then it would before. Now the idea obviously is, the longer and
more often you delay it, the more powerful your orgasm becomes. Up to
the moment where some people even pass out during their orgasm, or have
an orgasm so heavy, they almost get inhuman strenghts, and are able to
bend or move things, which previously would not have been possible, due
to the powerful feeling of the final release.
Now oppose to what some of you might think, orgasm denial is mostly
about mental control. Sure enough, the orgasm denial and teasing that
happens is physical, but it really is more about the mental aspect of
it. Let me try and explain it to you this way.
In the movie Inception, there's a scene about the origins of an original
idea, and about why inception wouldn't be possible. The scene mentions a
common fenomenon, which goes like this: If you're told not to think
about a pink elephant. What do you think about? Exactly! A pink
elephant!
And the exact same thing happens with orgasm denial, which makes it more
of a mental challenge or control. When you're in orgasm denial for a
longer period (let's just say 24 hours), changes are, that the you will
be very horny after a couple of teases. So, now you're thinking, okay,
let's just not think about my orgasm or being horny. Guess what you'll
be thinking about all the time? Exactly, your orgasm and how horny you
are, which only makes you feel even hornier. And then, at the end of
that day, even though you wheren't teased the rest of that day after the
first couple of times, you're horny as hell, which makes you want it
even more, and makes your orgasm even more powerful.
In BDSM, orgasm denial gets used by dominant people to control their
subs or slaves, to control their actions, their orgasms, but also as a
mind game. Because they will be thinking all day about their denial,
they'll also be thinking about the one who gave them that task, their
dominant partner, and in that way, the dominant person is even in their
minds when they're not around, simply by orgasm denial. But that's not
the best thing. Submissive people are there to please their dominant,
not themselves, and by orgasm denial is a perfect good way to implement
that in the submissive's mind. It's not about their orgasm, their
plesure, but about the dominant's pleasure.
And here comes the very best part. Because someone is in orgasm denial,
they'll be hornier then ever before. But also more willing to do things,
in hopes it might earn them their orgasm. They'll be more willing to
things, almost anything. And because they want it so bad, and it kept
them horny for so long, the sex is amazing for both sides, both the
submissive and dominant. The submissive finally gets some stimulation
that might help them reach their orgasm. And the dominant gets to enjoy
the full lust and horniness of their submissive.
Imagine: a girl so wet and horny, because she's in orgasm denial. She'll
do your homework, does the dishes, the household, anything you want, in
hopes of you giving her permission to cum. And when you fuck her,
she'll be hornier then ever and extremely wet, because she was in orgasm
denial. And when she finally cums, you feel her cunt contracting around
your cock so hard, it's impossible to to shoot your load inside her.
She loves it, because you gave her the best orgasm ever. And you'll love
it, because you got the horniest girlfriend ever, and she does whatever
you want her to do, in hopes she might earn her orgasm. Doesn't that
sound like a good deal for both?
Now of course, their might be some people out there, who might have
trouble to keep their hands of themselves, and orgasm without
permission. And when that happens, the orgasm denial doesn't have any
effect. If you want orgasm denial to work, you have to make sure the
person doesn't finish it by masturbating. And for this purpose, a lot of
BDSM people use a chasity belt. A great way of controling someone's
orgasm, and very frustrating for the one wearing it. They can't touch
themselves. And frustration is what orgasm denial is all about. The
bigger the frustration and desire to cum, the better the orgasm. Some
chasitybelts even have the ability, or have built-in, dildo's, buttplugs
and vibrators, to make sure they get the stimalation, but can't control
it. Also a vibrating egg might help if the chasitybelt doesn't have an
option for a dildo or vibrator inside. There are today even vibrating
eggs, that work on cellphones.
Imagine having your girlfriend wear an orgasm denial, after you teased
her endlessly the night before, making her beg for an orgasm. She's
wearing a chasitybelt with inside her pussy a remote controlled
vibrating egg. One push of a button on your cellphone, and you'll buzz
her into pleasure, keeping her horny and wetter then ever. But she can't
finish herself off, because she can't touch herself through the
chasitybelt. Buzz her while she's at work in the office, or during a
dinner in a restaurant. See her struggle, as she's so horny, but wants
to hide it from the people around her. It's almost like you're saying:
come on, don't be shy, why don't you show everyone what a horny little
slut you are? Why hide who you truly are?
And some dominant people do use it this way, to 'crack' their submissives into exploiting them publicly.
I've heard from women who where in chasitybelts, with toys inside them
on a daily base, and they where denied their orgasm for an entire week,
that at the end of the week they didn't even need anymore stimulation.
They where so horny, and so wet, their nipples just stayed hard all day
long, without any touching, or any stimulation at all. They where just
horny as fuck. They described a tingling sensation throughout the day in
their nipples and pussy, as a result of being so horny for so long
without any orgasm.
I'd like to reach that point. That point where my nipples are hard all
day long. My clit is tingling by default. It must make each single touch
a breathtaking experience. Making every touch on your body extremely
sensitive. Making your body more senstive and arousing. That even with
the slightest touches, you could get an orgasm. Imagine the feeling of
when you masturbate, or having sex, but then all day long, every minute,
every second. Wouldn't you love that? I sure as hell would.
So please guys and girls, deny it to me one more day. But remember,
orgasm denial only works if you're capable of turning the other person
on. Otherwise it's just stupid. They have to want it, crave it. So it's
important that you know exactly what and how to turn the other person
on.
The other day I was talking to a beginning dominant. He just started
ordering things around, like most beginners do. The trick to each good
dominant, is to really get to know the other person. Get to know what
turns them on. How to tease them. You need to able to sense when they're
close to orgasm. To feel when you need to quit something. And to know
when to continue something.
You want to reach that point, of just before they orgasm, that edge, and
then make them stop. If you can do that, then the orgasm denial works.
Otherwise it's just frustrating, and not a turn on, and you'll scare
them, and make them hate orgasm denial. And truth is, you can't hate
orgasm denial. You can only hate people sucking at it.
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Posted on : May 23, 2013
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