In a place of fantasy like this, I do want to let my inner desires out-but I also want to be considerate of everyone here because we always bring many pieces of ourselves from the outside world. The last few days have been a learning experience for me. The lesson is to find a balance with my frankenstein like sex-drive and to make sure that I communicate what I would like to share inbefore I cross more deeply into topics and across the boundaries of someone else.

Being fair and kind - which probably sounds ridiculous for a man with BDSM fantasies running 24/7 - means taking care when I'm chatting, commenting, etc to take only as much as I give. I was lucky enough to find a gracious person who illustrated things to me in a very practical way. So, I will know to handle conversations with more humanity and thinking a little despite being aroused. Rules I need, even in a make-believe world.