The search for images that match my fantasies has made me realise that there are like-minded people out there but also a whole load of people for whom femdom is means something different.

The themes I like are women taking advantage of unconfident men, often expressed through coerced crossdressing (when it implies arousal rather than dressing up for the sake of it) and pegging.

Searching for this is harder than you might think, because the bulk of femdom art incorporates themes I dislike: pain, chastity, cuckolding, incest, shemales, forced homosexuality and adult baby fetish.

Quite often an Imagefap user will add one of my galleries as a favourite and I will click their username in hope of finding other collections like mine, only to see images of men being forced to suck cock or wear nappies.

It's interesting that these themes are all lumped together. What links them? Shame, primarily. A way for the guilt we feel about sex to be sublimated into something else.

I just wish there was a way of separating them again.