For a good number of years now, i've been in a polyamorous relationship with 2-3 men.

For most of those years, it was relatively easy... my Daddy and my partner and me.

The last year and half has had some added complexities, as i started dating one of my partner's friends.  It developed into something of a relationship and we found ourselves calling each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend".

Now, i don't claim to be a spokeswoman for what Polyamory is or should be, but there is a certain structure that we created for ourselves which really helped everyone understand their place in the relationship, their responsibilities and their limits.

First and foremost, my Daddy is my owner.  When i'm with him, he has the last say in decisions and helps guide the overall relationship.

Secondly is my partner, whom i refer to as my "primary" partner.  I live with him and he's as close to a "husband" as i think i'll ever have.  When my Daddy isn't present, he has the control and the decision making power.

Lastly is my boyfriend.  He's still very much an Alpha male, and demands a certain sense of submissiveness from me but he respects the fact that my Daddy and my primary partner have decision making power over my relationship with him.

This might make you wonder what sort of decision-making there would be that might conflict with one relationship or the other.  Well, for instance, it's everything from allocating days and times with which i can spend with each person.  My primary partner prefers to see me as much as possible when he's not away from home for work.  When he goes away, i'm allowed to go see my boyfriend.  There's also occasions when the 3 of us will hang out together.

My Daddy lives further away, so i don't get to see him as often as either of us would like.  If he would like me to come visit, it takes priority over anything else i've got going on.  My primary partner recognizes this and there is no arguing or setting limits or anything... if Daddy wants me to come stay for a week, i go stay for a week.

The decision making responsibilities mostly get shared in a way that keeps everyone happy.  Obviously there's times when it can create a bit of friction, for instance, if my primary partner and I go to visit my Daddy and Daddy decides he wants me all to himself... or wants to make a point of reminding us both who i belong to.  

For the most part, my partner is very open-minded and usually is happy to share me or to let Daddy take control.  Lately though, it seems like it's becoming harder to please everybody.

My boyfriend is the easiest... he knows there's 2 men ahead of him and he understands that my relationship with him is about having fun and just making the most of whatever time we can spend together.  He tends to make up for his lower-status in bed, being very dominant and controlling and taking advantage of my submissiveness as much as he can.

My Daddy is usually very content with our relationship, except that i know he wants to have me around more.  He knows he's at the top of the food chain and he knows that I belong to him.  He demonstrates a lot of understanding by letting me live my life when we're not together.  He wants to be there to support me in whatever i do and wants to make sure i'm being kept safe and cared for.

I think my partner has a tough job, and i think it's starting to show.  He gets to have me every day, every week, most weekends.  He's been the main person in my life for a long time, taking care of me in some rough times and helping me become the woman i am today.

He's not really what you'd call a "cuckold", even though he likes sharing me and watching me be submissive to other men... he just genuinely loves me and wants me to be happy.  It turns him on to see me turned on and he knows that reconnecting with my Daddy was a hugely important part of my life and something that i needed for many reasons.

Lately we've been having more conversations about the nature of control, and how even though i call him my "primary" partner, it's actually my Daddy who is my primary.  It's not about the title, it's just the fact that he feels like him and i spend the most time together and i think there's occasions when he has trouble letting go of me in the presence of my Daddy.

He used to love when i'd come home after visiting my Daddy and he'd want to know all the details... i'd usually sit and stroke and lick and kiss his cock while i told him about what Daddy and i did and we'd fuck slowly while he asked me questions about my visit.

Most of the time i'd go visit my Daddy alone, taking the bus for a 3 or 4 day visit.  My partner started driving me down, and Daddy would let us both stay at his house, me and Daddy in Daddy's bed, my partner in the spare room.

At first, my partner and i had talked about all these naughty things that i knew Daddy wanted me to do... things like just casually sucking Daddy's cock while we all hung out, or fucking Daddy while my partner could only listen.

We all get along quite well, so it's not like they don't like each other or anything, but each visit Daddy would assert his ownership of me, and I always want to show my devotion, appreciation and my love and I found it extremely arousing to show my partner what a good girl i was for my Daddy.  It was something i knew my partner enjoyed watching... or at least, used to enjoy.

The last time i visited my Daddy with my partner, a few weeks ago, I could sense that my partner wasn't enjoying it as much.  Daddy and I hadn't seen each other for quite a while, so almost immediately as soon as we got to his house, Daddy took control and we fucked for hours by ourselves in his bedroom before really even acknowledging my partner.  I was lost in my arousal, and it was Daddy who finally said "Maybe we should go show 'B' some hospitality"... 

During that particular visit, Daddy decided i needed some firm training, since it'd been so long since i'd last seen him and since i'd forgotten some of the little rules and guidelines that Daddy has... so it was to be a sort of punishment.  Sometimes i'm his princess, sometimes i'm his dirty little whore, and this visit was definitely more "dirty little whore" than princess.

My partner ended up going for walks outside at times, which he doesn't usually do, and I didn't even witness him masturbate, which he usually will do quite a lot whenever Daddy is playing with me.

When we got home, my partner asked me to shave my little landing strip of hair, but i told him i couldn't because Daddy had asked me to grow it.  That started a long conversation about how he feels like I connect more deeply with my Daddy than i do with him and how differently i act with my Daddy... in a way that i think he wishes i would act more with him.

I think the thing that keeps him satisfied is still having more control than my boyfriend has, and i've noticed lately that my primary partner is sort of imitating some of the things that my Daddy does with me... things like making me wear lingerie and a collar and leash any time we're all hanging out, or letting me only give my boyfriend handjobs or blowjobs instead of fucking when we're together.

It's definitely the sort of situation that can get kind of complex.  It's not easy to try and please everybody and it really depends on everyone knowing their place, their role in the overall scheme of things. 

My boyfriend knows what would happen if he ever gave me the ultimatum of "me or him"... likewise, my primary partner knows as well. 

I really do love the men in my life and i really do hope that my partner is only going through a bit of a phase and that we're able to work through it.

I've offered to help find him a girlfriend, but he doesn't seem that interested.  I mean, he loves the idea of having another girl to join us from time to time but he's made it clear that he doesn't have the same needs that i do.

I just wanted to share a bit of my story, for those who might be interested.