My love for bondage as part of my D/s scenes is described in
my previous posts.So it should be no
surprise that I am also a big fan of selfbondage.I encourage my sub partners to learn and
practice selfbondage because it gives us additional opportunities for control, instructions/tasks,
and mutual pleasure.
When I cannot be with my sub, I often leave instructions for
her to gag and tie herself at a specified time and for a certain length of
time.When that time arrives, I am aroused
with the knowledge that, even in my absence, my wonderful sub is following my
wishes.The instructions always include
a crotch rope and breast bondage.Sometimes I am specific about the bondage position.Other times I leave the choice to my sub and require
her to email me afterwards with a detailed description of the position and her
experience.I give directions about use
of toys or not and whether she may cum or not.Selfbondage is also fun when my sub and I are apart and engage in phone
sex or cam play.
Selfbondage is an excellent way to begin a D/s scene.I often tell my sub partner when I will
arrive and instruct her to be in selfbondage for a specified period of time
beforehand, usually thirty minutes.I
always leave the choice of position up to my sub as long as her mouth, pussy,
and ass are readily accessible.I
require her to find ways to pleasure herself while in the selfbondage but deny
her permission to orgasm until I am present to give it.
The sight of my precious sub aroused and in bondage as I
enter always gets me hard instantly.Imagine the questions in her mind at that moment."Will Sir let me cum or will He tease me
further?""Which will Sir use
first: mouth, pussy, or ass?""Will Sir touch me right away or will He sit, relax, and stroke His
cock while watching me squirm?"When I sometimes require my sub to add a blindfold, there is an added
element of uncertainty/fear until I speak.
For those who have never tried selfbondage, a common concern
is how to release him/herself.There are
many sites and sources of information on that topic.I forget where I discovered the method I
teach to my sub partners and will describe now.
1. Get a short piece of rope, 3-4 feet long.A bathrobe sash works well.
2. Make a loop about 6 inches in diameter.
3. Complete the loop with a knot that will NOT slip.A square or granny knot is best.This is critical because any type of slipknot
will tighten beyond control.
4. Put both hands through the loop so that the loop is
around the wrists.
5. Twist the right hand/wrist around and around, and the
loop will tighten itself.
6. Stop twisting when hands are secure and still
comfortable.Be aware and do not cut off
circulation.
7. Release the hands by twisting the right hand in the
opposite direction from Step 5, and the loop will loosen.
8. This method works equally well to tie hands in front or
behind the back.
I practiced this method on myself before using it with my
sub partners.Because it allows choice
of release, it does not provide a sense of complete helplessness that some
selfbondagers desire.I prefer that my
subs err on the side of caution.
Do any other Doms use selfbondage with their subs?
Presented below is a script for a favorite scene that I have
done with each of my submissive partners.I am committed to
safe, sane, and consensual D\s play.All
of the actions performed by the sub in the scene are discussed with and
approved by her before we start.Even
so, my sub partners always have a safe word and a safe gesture they can use at
any time to immediately stop play.
I am sitting in a comfortable chair wearing just a pair of
briefs.As the scene progresses, I free
my cock and stroke it while watching my sub follow each instruction as I read
them to her.I also watch the clock for
timed tasks.All items/toys needed for
the scene are on a table nearby.Before
she arrives, I have told her to wear panties, bra, thigh high stockings, front
button blouse, knee length skirt, and heels.
1.Stand and face me.Remember that you must ask for permission to
cum even when gagged.
2.Get the scarf and
gag yourself with a thick cleave gag.
3.Take off the
skirt.
4. Unbutton the blouse and open it, but leave it on.
5.Take your tits out
of the bra cups, but keep the bra on.
6.Take off the
panties and spread your legs wide apart.
7.Spread your pussylips
wide apart with your hands and hold them open for thirty seconds.
8.Move both hands to
play with your tits for two minutes.Squeeze, pinch, and slap your tits and nipples.
9. Leave one hand to play with your tits.Move the other hand down to play with your
pussy.Stroke your clit for one minute.Fuck your pussy with one, then two, then
three fingers for total of two minutes.Lick your fingers when done.
10.Get three
clothespins.Put one on your right
nipple so that the clothespin stands straight out.Put the next on your left nipple straight
out.Put the third on your clit straight
out.
11.Without removing
the clothespin, take the right clothespin and pull your nipple straight out for
ten seconds.Twist the clothespin, hold
for five seconds, and let go of the clothespin.
12.Repeat the
actions of Step 11 with the left clothespin.
13.Repeat the
actions of Step 11 again with the clit clothespin.
14.Hold the right
clothespin, twist it for five seconds, and take it off.
15.Repeat step 14
with the left clothespin.
16.Repeat step 14
with the clit clothespin.
17.Take off the
blouse and the bra.
18.Take off the
cleave gag and replace it with the ballgag.
19.Get two short
pieces of clothesline rope.Tie your
right tit and then your left tit.
20. Get the medium
size buttplug and lube.Face away from me,
spread your legs wide, and bend at the waist.
21.Lube your asshole
and the plug. Move one hand to stroke and play with your clit until this task
is completed. With the other hand, push the tip of the plug in, hold for thirty
seconds and take it out. Push half of
the plug in, hold thirty seconds, and take it out.Push the plug all the way in.
22.Get the long
piece of clothesline rope for the crotch rope.Facing me, double it and tie your pussy.Make sure the ropes are pulled tight enough to disappear between your
pussylips.
23.Spread your legs
wide.Use the double rope to spread and
hold your pussylips wide open.Stand
straight, put your hands behind your back, and hold that pose for two minutes.
24.Turn and face
away.Spread your legs wide and bend at
the waist. Make sure the ropes are still holding your pussy open. Put your hands behind your backHold the pose for two minutes.
25.Get the long,
thick dildo and lube.Face me.Make sure the ropes are still holding your
pussy open.
26.Move one hand to
stroke and play with your clit until this task is completed. With the other
hand, push the tip of the dildo in, hold for one minute and take it out.Push half of the dildo in, hold one minute,
and take it out.Push the dildo all the
way in and move the crotch ropes over the end to hold it in place.
27.Play with your
tits and clipped nipples, your pussy and clit until I say stop or until you
need to cum.Remember to ask permission
as best you can through the ballgag.
28.Turn and face
away.Spread your legs wide.Put your hands behind your back and bend at
the waist.Hold the pose while I move
around you touching, squeezing, pinching, and playing with plug and dildo as I
please.
29Continue to hold
the pose while I move in front of you, take out the ballgag, put my cock in
your mouth.
30.Suck, lick, and
swallow my cock until I cum.
I hope you enjoyed this scene as much as we did.Please use it with your Dom or sub but only
after discussing and mutually agreeing on what will happen in keeping with
safe, sane, and consensual play.I would
be glad to hear comments and suggestions for changes/improvements from both
Doms and subs.Thanks for reading.
I
have used a mix of traditional titles and my own names for the bondage
positions described in this article.
Positions
I like best
Presentation:This is a basic position that begins many of
my D/s scenes.My sub is gagged and standing
with hands tied behind her back and legs tied apart to a spreader bar.A variation would be her arms tied over her
head and/or for her to be suspended with legs tied apart.This position allows me to see all of my sub
and to touch her or discipline her anywhere and any way I want.If she is clothed, I fondle over and under
her clothing and/or partially undress her.If she is nude wearing only stockings and heels (most often), I can see
her arousal and play freely with her tits/pussy/ass, bending her at the waist for a standing fuck if I wish.I can also easily add a crotch rope.
Y
Spreadeagle:My sub is gagged and lying
face up nude on a bed.Her wrists are
tied over her head and are attached to the headboard or a strap around the
mattress.Her legs are spread widely with
ankles tied to the corner bedposts or strap around the mattress.Her breasts, pussy and clit are clearly
displayed and accessible for oral stimulation and/or discipline with flogger or
riding crop.A pillow/cushion under her
ass can be added for fucking. This is a variation of
the more commonly known X spreadeagle where the arms are spread and tied to the
corner bedposts or mattress strap.I
prefer the Y spreadeagle because I can untie my sub's ankles and turn her over
for a doggy style fuck in pussy or ass while she is still gagged with hands
tied to the bed.
Frogtie:My sub is nude and gagged with her hands tied
behind her back and her ankles tied to her thighs.She is upright sitting/kneeling with her
thighs spread.This is a good position
for her to give me head if I have used a ring gag.She can also be positioned facedown with
knees, chest and head on the bed/floor for pussy/anal play and/or fucking.A variation with hands bound to her waist allows
her to be positioned on her back for breast/pussy/anal play and/or fucking.
Damsel
in Distress:My sub is lying on a
bed/sofa/floor.She is gagged, hands
tied behind her back, and ankles tied together.She may be clothed or nude.If
clothed, I fondle and partially undress her.If nude, she has a crotch rope.I
enjoy watching my sub squirming/rolling in her bondage and listening to her
muffled noises.
I
have not yet discussed several traditional bondage positions: pole tie, chair
tie, and hogtie.I use these less
frequently because I feel they limit access to my sub, and they limit her
ability to squirm for me as I enjoy.I
know that others may find these, and many other positions not mentioned,
enjoyable.
As
always, I speak for myself in my blog entries, and I request feedback/comments
so I can learn from the thoughts and experiences of others.Thank you for reading.
Scenes
with my submissive almost always include tying her shaved pussy.For me it is another symbol of my control,
and the sight of the material disappearing between the labia is intensely arousing
to me.For her the friction between her
pussylips and across her clit allows stimulation that can build toward climax
as she squirms.In addition the material
can hold a dildo or vibrator in her pussy and/or a buttplug in her ass for
increased pleasure.
When
I discuss "crotch ropes", I mean any type of material that is pulled
between a woman's asscheeks, through her legs, up between her labia, and across
her clit.The traditional material used
is rope.Another possibility is a robe
sash.My favorite is nylon or silk
stockings.I use the term "crotch
tie" to mean any type of material.
The
easiest way to tie a pussy is to double a length of rope and put it around the
waist.Put the loose ends through the
looped end and pull the loose ends between the legs and up under the waist rope
on the other side.The rope is pulled
into the pussy until just snug enough to cause pleasurable stimulation from the
friction.The rope is then tied off to
the waist rope.A benefit of the doubled
rope is that the two pieces can be used to pull and hold the pussylips
open.A variation is to fashion a knot in
the rope that is positioned over the clit for added stimulation.
My
preferred method for tying a pussy is to use nylon or silk stockings.The fabric is softer and smoother than rope
and makes the friction more erotic.To
use stockings, a belt is fastened snugly around the waist.The thigh ends of the two stockings are tied
to the belt over the buckle.The
stockings are stretched down across the clit, between the labia, between the
legs and up between the asscheeks to be tied to the belt in back.As with rope, the stockings will hold toys in
the pussy and ass, and they also can be used to spread and hold open the
pussylips.
"Crotch
ropes" can be tied on a woman, or a woman can tie up her own pussy.I often instruct my submissive to tie her
pussy for me.Sometimes it is in preparation
for posing in front of me.Other times
when we are apart, I tell her to go to work or out to do errands with her pussy
tied under her skirt/dress.The secret
knowledge of the crotch tie is arousing to both of us.
I
can increase the possibility of pleasing friction/tugging in several ways.Hands tied behind the back can be attached to
the crotch tie.Bound feet pulled up
into a hogtie can be attached to the crotch tie.A long enough rope/cord can be used to tie a
sub's breasts and then pulled down into a crotch tie.All of these methods give a woman more
control over the action of the material on her clit and on her pussy as she squirms.
Thank
you for reading my blog.Please share
your comments about my ideas or describe your own experiences with crotch
ropes.
My satisfaction and pleasure will be derived from your
submissiveness and the pleasure you get from being my submissive. A key element
of our mutual satisfaction will be honesty about our reactions/feelings to our
D/s scenes.I want your pleasure and
orgasms to be real so I expect you to tell me if any of our activities are not
truly stimulating and for you to help me understand what changes to make so
that you do climax.I will give you the
same honesty about my reactions.
The following are my desires for our D/s scenes:
Bondage: I will tie you up and gag you. To me, there is nothing
more arousing than the sight of my submissive tied up and squirming helplessly
for me to do as I please unless it is her muffled noises/words through the gag.
I will tie you hand and foot, spreadeagle, standing, sitting in a chair with
legs over chair arms and many other ways. I will use cleave gags, ball gags,
tape gags, and others. I will fuck you
while you are tied. I very much enjoy tying up my submissive's pussy with a
tight crotchrope. I will take you out in public with the crotchrope on under
your clothes. Adult toys of all types would be used.
Breasts/Nipples:
I will tie up your tits with rope, nylon stockings or elastic bands as toys for
me to lick, suck, slap, and fuck. I will take you out in public with your tits
tied up under your clothes. I will ask you to wear tube tops, halter tops, and
other clothing that allows easy access to your tits.I will use fingers, nipple clamps and
clothspins to pinch your pretty nips. I will tie your nipples with string or
small elastic bands. Adult toys of many types would be used.
Instructions:
You will have to ask my permission before you can
cum. I like to tease so I may not allow your release right away. I will
give you instructions during our play together and for times we are apart. These may include but are not limited to: what
to wear or not wear, how to strip for me, whether or not you may play with
yourself and how, when you may or may not cum, and questions that I expect you
to answer completely and honestly. I believe in the
importance of discipline, and I will expect that my instructions be followed completely
and immediately. Failure to do so will result in penalties that include use of
a riding crop and/or orgasm denial. I do believe in safe, consensual play so
you would have a safeword that I would respect without question.
First questions
I
would like to know more about you and your desires before continuing your
education as my submissive. I expect your answers to be complete and detailed.
Your goal is to make my cock rock hard and make me spray my jism everywhere as
I would over your bound body.
1. Describe how long you have been interested/involved in BDSM activities.
2.
Tell me when and how you first knew you were submissive.
3.
Describe the first time you were tied up. If it is a different event, also tell
me about the first time you were fucked in bondage.If you have never actually been
tied up, tell me your first bondage fantasy.
4.
Finally, I want you to be playing with your tits, nipples, pussy and clit while
you compose your answers to my requests, and I want you to tell me how many
times you came.
I
chose this picture as my avatar because it displays a nude woman bound and
gagged, wearing stockings with a crotch rope through her shaved pussy.In other words, all of the visual interests
that make me hard.
At
age 13 I saw my first image of a woman bound and gagged.It was a paperback book cover of a clothed
female with hands and feet tied, a cleave gag in her mouth, and ropes tied
across her chest.I remember feeling a naughty,
guilty thrill.My masturbatory fantasies
featured tied and gagged women from then on.A couple years later I found a Hustler magazine that included two
articles about bondage and BDSM.This
was a revelation because I realized I was not alone in my fascination with
gagging and tying women for sexual pleasure.After I turned 18, I went to adult bookstores and bought bondage
magazines that expanded my knowledge of bondage positions, different types of
gags, and introduced me to the wonders of crotch ropes.
To
me a gag symbolizes the ultimate female submission.The muffled sounds of a gagged woman struggling
against her bonds, begging for permission to cum, and then climaxing are the
most erotic parts of a bondage session.I
enjoy the look of a woman's Venus mound, vulva, and clitoris. A shaved pussy allows a clear view and
symbolizes vulnerability.I require that
my submissive partners shave their pussy for me. A pussy tied with a crotch rope or stockings is a symbol of violation/control and domination. I like to pull the rope/stocking up into my sub's pussy and then watch as she squirms in her bonds to rub herself against the crotch tie.
There is something naughty about a partially
clothed woman in bondage.I like a woman
is stay up stockings or garter belt and stockings for that reason.I abhor pantyhose because they block the
pussy from view and easy access.