Freedom Through Submission: Finding Liberty In Surrender

By: K Lynn Carlisle
07/15/2021

I welcome anyone that is in a long-term Dom/Sub Relationship can give their feed-back and critique. Open to correction and advise on how to make this summary better. I'm a Submissive and the following are just my thoughts (opinions).

Being a submissive has freedom through the liberty of being free to let go and surrender. The result is being loved more than you'll ever think and believe. Through the pain you release emotionally.

You can find empowerment through the intimacy of submission to a dominant love interest. The allowance of being dominated can enhance the intimacy between two lovers can explode beyond belief and expectations. Communication in any type of relationship is utmost and key, more so in a Dom/Sub Relationship. The submissive may find him or herself in an emotional roller-coaster for some time in dealing with the surrender because giving up control of decisions and in some alternate forms of a Dom/Sub Relationship ownership of one's body. The initial fears of rejection by one's lover when one decides that they desire to be in this type of relationship. The freight of how the other might react can be a nightmare. Being a nagger and begging is not good. Being persuasive in scuttle ways can help you achieve you goals of being in a Dom/Sub Relationship. Most of us remember how we were treated by our mother or father. Even the hidden desires of wanting a Mommy or Daddy and we desire to be treated that way by our lover. Giving hints and even just laying face down over your lover's knees presenting your booty for discipline might work in your favor. Again, communications will develop and don't worry too much because worry can interfere with your current relationship form. If you can, get your lover to engage in playing little games. Even letting yourself be tickled and you acting out as a little boy and little girl brat will peek his or her interest. Having realistic expectations but never stop dreaming.
All of this said, being honest with yourself and being honest with your lover will lead to a more meaningful relationship; this will help ease worries, fears, and anxieties. Once you establish yourself and your relationship within the relationship of a Dom/Sub you will find it easier to surrender. During your surrender you'll find that liberation and release of your emotions comes explosively. Crying comes natural because you may be disciplined (bare ass-booty spanking) might sting or hurt but through the pain brings a warm orgasmic ecstasy that will take you to a whole new level. Once your lover witnesses the dramatic change in you he or she will work off you and the moments to become a better Dominant partner and will become a much better person themselves along with help you to become a better Sub partner and a much better person. The sky, nope, the universe of a Dom/Sub Relationship is yours to conquer. Go boldly where you haven't gone before. Love, conquer, and let your little booty be destroyed in loving discipline.

I hope you have found this encouraging and enlightening.
Remember, let yourself surrender and allow your emotions to be released. Love each other and don't never go to bed angry with each other.
Peace and Many Spankings,
K Lynn Carlisle
7/15/2021

I welcome anyone that is in a long-term Dom/Sub Relationship can give their feed-back and critique. Open to correction and advise on how to make this summary better. I'm a Submissive and the following are just my thoughts (opinions).
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So, He Wears Feminine Things

This is addressed to the wife, partner, girlfriend or other who has just discovered that the man in your life secretly wears feminine lingerie at times. Quite how you discovered this is not important, so much as how you react to it. That in turn will depend on a number of variables including your upbringing, your faith, your education, and your expectations of your relationship.

The revelation is probably a shock and leaves you with a turmoil of feelings and questions. Is he gay? Is he having an affair. Does he not love me?

First, calm down and realize that it is unlikely to be the end of your world or the end of your relationship. Your man cross dresses, expressing a deep seated feminine side of him that you did not know about because he has endeavored to keep it a secret from you, fearing to damage a relationship he holds as very important to him.

Interestingly, men who cross dress are far more common than one would think. It is not a perversion but an expression of something that is a part of him, something he probably realized as a teen or young man and something that he has likely been ambivalent about ever since, cycling through guilt and grudging acceptance several times over.

There is in fact a wide scale between what our culture has tended to simplify as a binary system of ‘male’ and ‘female’. Your man is a little way along that scale, to all intents and purposes a male and comfortable to be so, but with an added feminine component which our culture provides very little way for him to express. Ironically, women in our modern culture can dress either in frilly feminine clothes or very masculine clothing without comment. The same latitude is not given to men, and should they publicly wear anything that is in the slightest feminine, they are called ‘sissies’, ‘queers’ or other insulting names. Cruelly, our culture has defined ‘men’ in a very narrow and confining way.

Interestingly, our native, indigenous culture has long recognized ‘Two Spirit’ people, further recognizing that such people have value among them as those with an empathy for, respect for and understanding of both primary genders. Such people are respected, not reviled.

Is he having an affair? No, those feminine items are not souvenirs of some sordid affair. He likely bought these things, one by one, on those rare occasions that the opportunity arose. He keeps these things hidden somewhere, fearing your reaction if discovered.

Is he gay? Some cross dressers are, but most are not so inclined. However, cross dressers are often attracted to other men who cross dress, when dressed, though not to men dressed as men. There is a long term for this condition, likely odd to you.

Does he still love you? Yes. Ironically, statistics show that the majority of cross dressers in a steady relationship greatly value their relationship with their partner. This increases

their fear of damaging this relationship. Most cross dressers yearn to be better understood by their partners

The worst thing you can do is to insist your man throw away his stash of feminine clothes and promise never to even think of doing such a thing ever again. He will promise. He values you highly. He will try to keep such a promise. But he will not be able to in the long run. You will simply have driven him further into the depths of the closet.

The better alternative is to accept the situation, recognizing that this is not going to go away and that there is some wisdom in the old adage ‘if you can’t beat them, join them’. The vast majority of cross dressers are ‘sometimes’ dressers, with no wish to live full time as women.

One response could be to accept that your man needs to occasionally express his feminine side, give him specific opportunities to do so, but state that you do not wish to be directly involved. It would likely be a huge relief for him to shed the cloak of secrecy, no longer fearing your unexpected early return home and the trauma of discovery.

Another response is to take an active role. Some partners help their men when shopping for clothes, either in the store or online. Some partners enjoy secretly knowing what their man is wearing under male outer clothes while out visiting with friends or at dinner and a show. Some couples buy matching sets of underwear or nightwear and enjoy wearing them together. Some incorporate cross dressing into their sex life, role playing and enjoying sex while fully or partly dressed. The range of possible responses is wide. Outright rejection is an unwise choice and will inevitably sour or ultimately ruin your relationship.

That your man is less of a man than other men you know is a false supposition. Think of him as more than a man. The current terminology is ill defined and confusing, but think of him as a man who has a female persona beneath the surface, perhaps well hidden but yearning to be expressed.

Yes, there is a risk in opening any door into your relationship. A few cross dressing men ultimately cross a threshold and seek to live full time as women, perhaps entering new relationships with others similarly inclined. A few may even commit to surgical procedures that confirm their new gender identity.

But, this essay addresses the vast majority of men who seek ‘sometimes’ to express a feminine side of themselves that is suppressed by our western culture. They seek to be better understood, not vilified. Please give them space to be who they fully are.

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