I have thought this for a while now but the moment that made me deside to put this out there online was seeing a story about how a woman was conned out of 400k by a dating scammer. It put the fact that findoms, in most instances, just prey on the desperatly lonely and people with mental health problems.

The often then make the men (in the standard dynamic) feel more loney and less worth while while taking their money. It is purely abuse. 

I do feel the same way about men who find, typically younger, women with serious anxiety and depression and break their egos until they think they are only good to be shit on boots.

Don't get me wrong. some people can be into that and still maintain a good sense of self. But I have never met a man who is being findommed who is anything other than a broken person.