I sense that all human suffering arises from alienation and separateness. Our entire human paradigm perpetuates this. Even the state dictates to us how we can love. (I feel joy to be from a country that now legally recognizes three parent families!) We are taught that we must enter exclusive relationships but to love, or include another, or others, is at minimum misguided, and to many the ultimate betrayal. We are told that love is impossible unless we contractually give up our sovereignty and the freedom to explore this existence as we are led. "Forsaking all others"... and ourselves. To be conscious, and though one may explore this exclusivity for a time, is to realize that this is a deal with the devil. At best one has created a new unit of alienation, the couple, at worst, we experience the double bitterness of being alienated in the very thing that was supposed to provide our heart's connection. I am utterly convinced of the logic, the sanity, the goodness and the healing of polyamory. And Jan agrees. When love making is an expression (a fun one to be sure) of love, and for me, it is not engaging unless it is that, then a community of love, is a community that celebrates love making! Absolute personal sovereignty, expressed as absolute freedom, supported by each other in absolute love, this is my dream. This is the dream that burns and will not die.