I suppose that, on a porn site which has themes of degrading others, calls women "fuck meat", and expresses themes of alienation from the sensabilities of others, it might be thought strange to talk about sex as connection; the only worthwhile sex for me.

There is an old Bob Dylan song that says, "I don't want to hurt nobody/don't want to be hurt. Don't want to treat nobody like they was dirt." I used to, with my last partner, belong to a circle of "Lifestyle" friends and couples. These were some of the most loving, caring, open and fearless people I have ever met. Living in Costa Rica now (originly from Vancouver Canada), these last seven years, I sorely miss those friends and the connections we shared. I also have enjoyed two long-term polyamorous relationships.Again, real connections with amazing sex. 

I am not being critical of others whose sex means other things. It is my "bend" that the very best sex involves the heart and soul. That can be with a person who is just passing through for the night (but a fondness has developed) with a couple with whom you enjoy dancing, or a partner of many years. 

A couple of nights ago (see earlier post) we went to bed with a woman who is visiting our B and B, and with whom J and I deeply connected. In the couple of days since, we have formed a very deep bond, and are all sort of falling in love with each other. She has decided to move to our town, has found a house and a school for her wonderful daughter, and is open to exploring a longer term, heart and respect based relationship with us. 

Tonight, I am going to have wonderful, exciting, caring and intense sex, with my wife and potential new partner. I am looking forward to the kissing as much as the cumming. 

Sex as an expression of exploration and connection is my kind of sex!