I don't look it but I'm going to be 40 soon, and that has both been a long crawl and something that has snuck up on me. I've always tried to live life - maybe not to it's fullest but - to my fullest. Years earlier, I would have rarely shied away from challenges, and experimentation with sexual concepts has been a staple of my life, often with fantastic memories. Yet like most of my middle-aged ilk, I got complacent and a little lazy at some point - and now I'm really grateful that my metabolism is as strong as it is.

I've been fortunate enough to have checked off a lot of sexuals boxes before: being locked in a bedroom all weekend with a someone who simply asked that I try everything I've ever wanted to; I've had sex on cars in rainstorms, against trees in winter snows and in forests under stars; and now, my wife is gorgeous and indulges many of my favourite fantasies, and whatever she won't/can't do, she happily lets my girlfriend take over - and her squirting abilities keep me well hydrated. No complaints there...

I find myself thinking now though: If I were to believe general public perception and 40 is supposed to be both an impressive milestone for your life and an introspective milestone for your mortality, what have I left undone? What's my Turning Forty bucket list? I don't need to do everything on that list because I've done quite a bit, but I've definitely thought of some more than others lately. 

This is the sort of concept that both excites me - fulfilling fantasies and the like - and makes me feel like a real pervert. I shouldn't sexualize some of these things like it's a sophomoric scavenger hunt - but I'm still gunna. Some of these things are fantasies that I've always had and some have pushed me to great distraction at the worst times. So I shouldn't pursue them? I sure as hell do want to organize a big foot party so I can enjoy participating too; I'll slip away in a public place with you and your friend to do dirty things just because the moment was right; and holy crap, I just don't know how I could top some of the beautiful BDSM scenes running through my head right now.

Honestly, I don't hear a ticking cock pushing me to do this right now, and turning 40 is just an arbitrary point in my life to make the attempt(s). Damnit though, I live in a free country, I have a supportive and sexually liberated wife and girlfriend, and I can think of a few great ways to spend my birthday this year! Plans must be put in motion, people must be called, tarps must be laid down, but in the lead to it, I think it's experimentation time again. Ottawa may not be the biggest kink city, but I know you're out there.

If you care to know more, suggest a great idea for what I could do for my 40th birthday, or share something you did for yours, comment away. I don't know if this will turn into a regular thing, but this was something I needed to do today.