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Understanding that pain is needed to look good.
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There is so much pain associated with beauty. So much work is needed to maintain or even do away with the days worth of ugliness that we put in our mouth. My Fiancee wants me to look good and there is a drive to look great for him, but the amount of work needed is more than i can take. what if my metabolic rate drops and i start to decline. one can only imagine.
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Posted on : Feb 11, 2018
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Commented on May 27, 2020
You looooooook great...
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Commented on Jul 25, 2018
Please sweetie don't try to imagine and live as long as you can by the moment. Yes you are beautiful and i think you don't have to worried for years about your beauty and even as an old lady your beauty shall get men dropped at your feet to admire the earth you walk. If the works takes more than you can take you should slow down otherwise your mental health go down. You are obviously more than in love with your fiancee that you put yourself through this hell. If i was him i would not mind that you slow down at the gym and get those calories burned having fun together all the time.
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Commented on Feb 13, 2018
Everyone's bodies change over time.
Through our memories (sometimes helped by photographs, films, recordings, etc.) the momentary, fleeting physical beauty we might achieve at times can be captured.
So if you work hard to achieve physical beauty, you have to realize that the permanent result is not "archived" in your physical body itself. Instead, it is the memories and images of that beauty that endure.
Most of the "art" that people create throughout their lives is not permanent. Instead, it consists of moments, often known only to one, or perhaps a few people, where they've brought joy to themselves and especially those around them.
Some lucky people create enduring works of art that end up being appreciated by larger numbers of people. Physical art such as music, sculpture, painting, film, etc., can last a very long time. But most of the "art" we all create is fleeting, and known only to a few. But that doesn't make it any less valid or valuable.
I look at movies and photos, or listen to music from "stars" from years ago, and realize that although their bodies have aged, as we all must age, their gifts of physical beauty, entertaining or endearing mannerisms, voices and skill at performing, or even their sexual attractiveness have been captured by their films, photos, recordings, etc. And in those cases, those films, photos, or recordings are not only what has preserved that beauty, but what has made it possible for me and millions of others to have enjoyed those moments both then and now.
But everywhere, all of the time, people are creating momentary beauty and fleeting "art" through their actions, help, small things they do, caring, joking, craftsmanship, skill, and yes, their physical beauty. And it's always good to realize that any beauty we create may or may not ever be seen or appreciated by anyone else at all.
And our physical beauty very often is not something many people, and maybe especially ourselves, will ever appreciate. But there may be someone, perhaps even a few others, who find how we look or how we move, or how we sound, or what we do to be beautiful.
Think of your work on creating physical perfection in yourself as a sculptor or painter might think of perfecting their craft at creating a physical representation of what they see in their mind's eye. Or as a composer writing music might feel about setting down what they hear in their mind.
But realize also, as a musician or other performer must, that the performance itself may only be seen or heard by a few people, and only for that moment.
If captured by audio recording, or film, or photo, etc., that fleeting performance may well be appreciated by many, and enjoyed over a long period of time. But the moment of the performance itself is, of course gone in an instant, just as any particular way we look is.
We change, in many ways. Some of that can be captured and a lot of it remembered. But maybe the real art is in how we accomplish these things and live our lives. And in that way, we all create "art" many times every day in how we affect ourselves and those around us.
I often think that the way we pet, scratch, or caress a dog or cat, and bring momentary pleasure to them and us at the same time is a good example of that sort of art. The same is true of the acts of lovemaking we experience with other people. It might be fleeting, but we're still creating beauty.
Maybe those acts leave traces of some sort beyond the memories and temporary good feelings we and they experience. And maybe the same is true of the pleasure we might bring to ourselves and others through our own efforts at achieving what we see as physical beauty in ourselves or in the way we adore what we see as physical beauty in them.
I don't think any of this is wasted even if the results are temporary, as long as we enjoy the process, or at least find that the momentary results have been worth the work both through what we ourselves get out of it and especially through what others might get from it.
I find your physical beauty, captured and made available to me by your photos, to be exceptional. And you should have no doubt that seeing those pictures of you brings me great pleasure. So the work you've done to achieve the way you look right now has not been wasted. It is the photos you've taken that has allowed this momentary beauty to be preserved and enjoyed by me and many others. But those photos are not necessary for your fiancée and other people lucky enough to meet you in person.
Your fiancée gets to enjoy your physical beauty right now, and gets to remember so much about you. We're all able to be your audience at this moment. We can enjoy and appreciate the results of your artistry and gifts.
We all change. But often, the things that make us attractive to others, and often just a few (or even one) particular other(s), are impossible for us to see ourselves. We'll never know exactly what it is that any one other person finds beautiful about us.
I admit being physically attracted to what I consider to be beauty in many of the women I see. But often, I think they would be very surprised to find that I'm attracted to them. For me, and I suspect many others, what we find sexy and beautiful in others is impossible to define, and thus impossible to achieve.
And that's a good thing! If there was one ideal for beauty, the world would be boring. It is the infinite variety in nature and, thus, in people, that makes the world beautiful. As you evolve, the characteristics that make you attractive will evolve. No problem.
And remember that what you see as physical beauty in yourself is somewhat irrelevant. What others find attractive in you might be far off from what you imagine.
Ever listen to any John Hartford music? Find a tune of his called "You Don't Have To Do That". I think it sums it all up in a way. I hope your fiancée ends up with the attitude expressed in that excellent song as the years go by.
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