As his counselor and confidant, I had a unique window into the progression of this affair between a tenured married professor and an aggressive 19 yo coed.  I informed him in no uncertain terms that the procedures are in place to protect him and the student from just this sort of situation. That he needed to report this through the correct channels, or that I could if he gave me permission.

 He agian declined on both counts. I didn't see him again for several weeks. After that, we talked in confidance about how to get him out of his new affair without ruining his job or marriage.

He also shared with me the moment, in his mind, that he broke. It was a very personal moment of vivid realization for him. It was the moment that he realized he could no longer prevent what she wanted from happening.

This personal moment happened for him at 3am on his knees on the tile floor of his wife's bathroom. She was sleeping, and he was jizzing agian for the third time that night to a picture she had texted to him:

No. It wasn't even fair.