I know I'm in no way an expert, nor do I claim to be, but one thing that I have learned over time is the power of the Dom/Sub relationship.  I'm not trying to come down on people who like to play, for that is why we are here and if people enjoy, enjoy.  I just want to speak a reminder to those that don't truly know the deep meaning of the Dom or the Sub.  These are not roles for fun or something to take lightly.  Not when it is done seriously. 

     They say all the power lies with the Sub and that he or she must trust their Master completely. 

          This is true.

     However, the Dom must trust their Sub just as much if not more.  

     The Slave must trust their Master to take care of them, to give themselves completely over to another person, to place their very wellbeing in their hands and allow their Master to guide them, to teach them, the allow them to reach deeply into themselves and bring their true being out, all the while the Master is encouraging and coaxing them to reach beyond their own limits, keeping them safe and letting their charges be true and open, and always listening to them and trusting them to speak out if it becomes too much.

     Too much hype and Hollywood makes light of this relationship.  It is one that, if you really take it seriously, can reward you beyond measure.  I only fear that there are those out there that do not realize the bond inherent.    

     I'm sorry if I'm too preachy right now.  It's late, I haven't had much sleep lately, and I have seen too many friends and associates try to go to far without understanding what is needed.  The love, the holding, the comforting of a charge, letting them know that they are a part of you as much as you are of them, is MORE important that the hold of dominance or the submission to one's will.  If you have the trust, the obedience comes naturally, and THAT is the true beauty of the relationship.  

    Ok, rambling over.  I'll probably reread this in the morning and cringe.  Oh, well. 

Paul the Big Bear

P.S.: I'd love to hear any comments or suggestions.  All I ask is politeness.  If I'm wrong, tell me.  Don't degrade to insults.  A true man can cut more being polite than an cursing oaf.