Who You Callin’ A Sissy?

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‘I may be wearing a dress, but I still pull my panties on one leg at a time, if you know what I mean’

- Denise Bryson, Twin Peaks

Let me say for a moment that I am not directing the following comments against those Transvestites and Crossdressers who have, by their own volition, chose to refer to themselves as ‘sissies’; they have their thing which makes them happy (presumably), and I have mine. Instead they are directed at the apparently vast majority of people who think that crossdressing men are inferior to so-called ‘manly men’.

Now, I could fill a book with thoughts about what being a ‘man’ really means, and intend to in the fullness of time. But let us, for a moment consider the following points:

Now, I understand that this may not be the universal case. But I say that any man who wants to understand women ‘from the inside’ as it were, will be more sensitive to their needs. This does not mean that they will necessarily be submissive…anyone who thinks that doing what their partner wants is submissive probably needs some sex lessons. Also, the general act of dressing sexually is adopting the mindset that sex requires effort, and that effort includes pleasing a partner.

The ‘manly men’ of cuckhold and sissy stories, comics etc. have big cocks, we are all led to believe. However sexperts say that a big cock and an ability to ‘keep going’ for hours on end as with Viagra-addicts is actually a hindrance as far as being a good lover is concerned. Every media source in the world tells the guy with the monster cock that they have it sorted from day one, and so there is no need to try. CDs and TVs, in touch with their feminine side, may know better.

I would argue, for both men and women. However, for men even more so.

This is based on three undeniable truths

- Women’s clothes in the west are more sexual than men’s

- If you are confident you are in your sexuality and you body, you can communicate this through your clothes

- Men are not encouraged to appear as objects of desire by dressing sexually

Therefore, when a man reveals his body sexually through clothing it is an act of empowerment, demonstrating a sexuality that it usually hidden. Think of the incredible Frank N Furter of the Rocky Horror Picture Show, probably the best example of how you can remain very masculine and still be somehow feminine at the same time.

1) That femininity itself denotes weakness and therefore women are weaker than men. Men who display this quality are automatically weaker and also deviant from ‘correct’ behavior. In fact, a man being feminine is the less of three- below manly men and feminine women, despite the fact that it is what Aristotle would called ‘The Golden Mean’, a point of synthesis between to extremes. I have actually read, on a gay site, one poster saying that
Even when female mistresses punish TVs, their insults refer to qualities undesirable in women, such as ‘slut’, ‘whore’, etc. I’m not saying that it isn’t good occasionally…I personally enjoying being called a slut when I am feeling in a passive mood, but again I feel that being a slut is a positive, powerful thing in sex. As an example of how wrong this view is, I quote this fantastically up-his-own-ass bit of gay misogyny from scatboi.com:

‘Being versatile I topped men who are less masculine than me and bottomed for the really manly types...a tranny's mouth as well as its ass are default cunts as well as urinals for Us Men to use as We see fit. If Tops meet a tranny and succeed in using it for Your urinal, persuade it to bottom for scat if You feel like doing it. Of course, Never take any shit off anyone who is less masculine than you are, especially a tranny, unless you're a bottom tranny yourself’

Yeah, thanks for ‘telling it like is’ there. Dickhead.

2) That a certain method of dress or self-presentation is inherently feminine. Whilst I have often tried to look more like a woman by dressing like women dress, I also know the history of fashion. Let’s not forget that in Georgian times, men were supposed to be pale and wear beauty spots, and that since the Plantagenets and the Tudors, men wore stockings and hoes. The Men of the Wodaabe tribe of Africa paint their faces and look stunning to scare their enemies and win the hearts of women. The Spartan men, despite what crazy-once-talented-comic-book-mentalist Frank Miller may say, had long and beautiful hair which they would preen for hours before battle, to present a godlike beauty to their enemies. And, what’s more, before Victorian times, male babies were dressed in pink (red blood and white cleanliness) and females in blue (virginity). In another hundred years, they make look back on all forms of dress in our society, and our attitudes to it, as ridiculous. And in many cases they would be absolutely right.

So, there is a bit of my argument. As I say, there will be a book one day, when I have the time and money, but for now you can enjoy the bite-sized version.

I know that there are hundreds of people who get of on abusing people, women, men and all of us in-between…but I think it is time for some of us to rise up and say:

‘No Ma’am, Sir…I ain’t no goddarn sissy’

Peace out.