Men especially tend to boast about sex. They about how much they want, how much they can handle, etc.  So when a 19 year old first year student sits down in my office and tells me in confidance that he is having 'too much sex' it piques my interest!

The certain young man expressed to me his concerns and the difficulty he feels he is having in relationships because of it. Apparently he began the first year of college last fall by essentially couch surfing (paying for couch space) at an older professional woman's home. The couch sleeping arrangements, in his words, lasted exactly two nights and he's been 'sleeping' on a pillow top king size mattress ever since. 

Apparently, the sex started in August of last year and hasn't really relented in all this time! By all accounts, this woman has a voracious appetite and has made it a near-daily routine to include him in some form of sex. Often times quite vigorous and inreasingly prolongued sex.

While this doesn't sound like a problem, for the young man, he says that he really would like to feel like he can meet and get involved with women his age. He has had several opportunities but felt that he has to hold them at arm's length because of their arrangement. 

And then there's his concern that, if he dates someone else, the sex with his 'room mate' would stop. Sex which he has grown to 'need' in his words. He went on to describe his relationship with her as a process through which she essentially encouraged and teased him to the point of near madness before beginning to offer sex. And then it has been some combination of vaginal / anal / oral sex often without protection in ever increasing levels of intensity. 

In my professional opinion, she sounds like she falls somewhere on the 'sex-addiction' spectrum and has been trying to bring him into it with her. 

I asked him if he had ever tried slowing things down. Even refusing sex at least some of the time. His answer:

 
"Yes but I have to sleep sometime... pretty much every time I just wake up and she's sucking me off or already on top of me with my dick inside her all hard."

I asked if he could make alternative living arrangements. He sighed and said he already has his own apartment but is just so horny lately he ends up staying with his lover anyway. 

Apparently he has choices to make. And his penis is currently making all of them.