It's been a while since I've been on image fap, and there's a thing that happens on a fairly regular basis, which I find a little unfortunate. A woman -- submissive in her desires -- will send me a message, and will then dissapear/close her account in the next couple of days.

I'm not talking about the spammers, mind you. Those are easy enough to recognized and ignore. The profiles are often empty, the messages are generic, and they are cleary solliciting something. I take it that the powers that be at IF hunt for and shut those down on a regular basis.

I'm also not talking about the fakes. Clearly, not every profile on IF is verified, not every profile is real, and there is a sizeable lot of impersonators out there (often males pretending to be females).  You have to expect that from time to time, some loser who is not the person he/she claims claims is reaching out under false pretense for any number of reasons: for kicks, curiosity, ill intentions, whatever.

Again, you have to accept that this is part of life.

In the other cases though, cases where a genuine woman with (apparently) genuine interest, appears and dissapears, I can only surmise that cold feet are the reason for the dissapearing act.

It's actually broader than that. Maybe the woman in question has a situation at home that is not condusive to corresponding with a Dominant, and is only now realizing this. Maybe the profile was created spur-of-the-moment, and now the woman worries or regrets. Maybe the woman in question is ashamed for her desires to a certain extent, creating the profile to explore these feelings, and then changing her mind.

I'm not going to turn this blog entry into a rant. I'm not going to bitch about how some women appear indicisive and send messages, only to vanish before a response to the message is even sent.  Those of us who are in D/s and BDSM in real life understand that consent is crucial to everything we do. The right to change one's mind about anything, including correspondence with a Dominant for whatever reason, is a foundation of the lifestyle. There should be no ciriticism of that.

What I'm trying to say to those women is this: in the case of correspondence, don't worry. Don't be afraid to search out a safe space to explore the feelings you have. While some assholes online may set off alarm bells, you can always find respectful Dominants who won't crowd you, won't make you afraid, and won't make you ashamed of what you feel. It sucks that this is not immediately obvious, and that most women likely have very negative experiences online before they can find someone trustworthy to speak to/talk to, but it is possible

I guess what I'm tring to  say is, don't be afraid of what you feel and what you yearn for. There's a reason you created the profile, so embrace it. Don't shy away from it. We are just talking here, and talking is good. :)

Good luck ladies.