Turning every woman into an object to be consumed at your whim is a dangerous path. Porn itself is addictive and objectifying. If you treat random women as fancies to be plucked, there is a grave danger your ability to relate to women in real life will be damaged.

I wrestle badly enough with helping people visualize women they know and love in sexual situations. When I find a young man like so many on here whose sexual identity is forming and who seems already seduced by the idea of women as disposable pluckable objects, I always feel desperately sad.

They, and all of us, should strive for self-awareness about what this place is doing to us. We should acknlowedge that chemical effects - the surges of dopamine that seeing "transgressive" images gives us. These younger men (and some women) should try to break the addiction before it is too late. It is never too late to wean yourself off this fake pleasure burst and rebuild your empathy for women as rounded human beings, not just disposable objects for creating those chemical shots.

Understanding the inevitable feelings os sadness, emptiness and guilt after consuming porn (or in my case making fakes) is an important first step. The sadness and guilt should be recognized and understood as part of the same high - it is literally the come-down from the dopamine high - from using porn.

When I am breaking free, I find exercise helps, especially when I feel the urge to log on. But mostly staying offline for a day or two or only going online in the company of other people is a good way. Within a couple of days, the urges subside. I also find talking to women helps reframe my understanding of what they are - complete people with free will and their own complex needs and desires. They are not non-sexual, but they are also not objects for sexual fulfilment of men. That helps break the sense of needing to control them.

You might try also reddit.com/r/nofap and reddit.com/r/pornfree

I am starting a fast at the end of today and hope to last at least one month. Good luck if you also wish to exert more control over this most dangerous hobby.

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