Okay, so my inner nerd will be coming out in this blog entry. Remember I love movies, fantasy, cosplay, and the like; be warned. Most of us have an imaginative inner nerd if you ask me. More importantly for those of us that do, if you can tap into the erotic nature of this then your sex-life will be even more intense and incredible, believe me.

I have developed my own personal theory when it comes to a woman’s sexual energy. I believe we are able to define this erotic sexuality in terms of four forces, all complimentary but having two sets representing polar ends of the erotic spectrum. Embracing my inner geekness, I have associated these to the four primal elemental forces: earth, air, fire and water.

Earth, the green flowing life-force of nature, represents a woman’s inner sexuality. This is the private her; her own thoughts, feelings, and erotic sensations that may be described to another but ultimately reside solely within her mind and spirit. This is the place of the deep-rooted orgasm, where all her sexual energy is stored. It is also represented in her private, personal acts such as masturbation. These beautiful moments, shared only with herself, is the nature of the grounding earth element. Here the woman can explore her sexual energies with a free will and dedication to her own pleasure like no other situation allows. She performs for no one; all her sexual energy is consumed for her own desires. And honestly, for as much as we all obsess about sex, how often to we have sex with another compared to how often most people masturbate? A woman needs to embrace this sexual energy as a solid base for the rest of the energies or lose her identity within her own sexuality.

On the other side of the sexual spectrum we have Air. This element represents a woman’s overt sexuality that she presents to the world. This energy is shared with all those she encounters. It’s that aura that we can feel emanating off women when they are feeling sexy or wanted. This energy is what guides women in the desire to look attractive and to please the eye of others. Unlike the earth element, which is purely internal, the air element requires that connection to another’s interest in the woman’s sexual energy. In its subtle forms it manifests itself in how we dress and act to be alluring and interesting. It’s in how we walk, talk and present ourselves. But as a woman fully embraces this sexual energy you see it presents itself even more intensely. Things like nudism, flashing, exhibitionism, erotic dance, and other sexual performances begin to manifest. Look at the huge increase in naughty selfies and amateur strip teasing videos surfacing on the net in the recent years. Fully committing to this erotic element allows a woman vibrancy and great release of her sexual energies and persona.

Then we have Fire. This sexual energy of the woman is directed towards men. It is the heat and passion that women have. It is the lust to have a man deep inside her, to feel the thrusting intensity of being taken in such a primal manner. “Fucking” is filled with the consuming elemental fire. This energy is the most primitive and easy to understand. It is also the seat of submission. Not that women have to be as submissive as say I am, but the fire energy requires a surrender of herself to fully bring the experience to an explosive head (no pun intended, well kind of). Men fuck, women are fucked. This is not a demeaning thing; this is the natural process of the woman giving herself to the man. And in return she opens herself fully to all the sexual delights and feelings that this element brings. Turn to the dark side and feel the heated grunting lust of two bodies entwined in deep passion. Also rooted in this heat and submission of the fire element, this is the seat for the sexual energies associated with bondage play, spankings, and the like.

Last, but certainly not least by any means, is Water. This sexual elemental force is at the other end of the spectrum as Fire. It is as soft as fire is intense. The water element, the nectar of life, is “loving” where fire is “fucking”. The seat of this sexual energy rests solely in the feminine as much as fire rests in the masculine. Sadly, this is the one element often underdeveloped in women, and without it no woman could ever consider her sexuality complete and whole. This sexuality is present in a woman’s attraction to other women. When fully embraced it is the sexual energy of a lesbian. But no woman can deny this energy exists in them. Even when they can’t come to terms with it, the water energy subtlety surfaces. You see it in a woman’s deep friendships with other women; intimacies between each other that men will never understand. It’s why we can share such private moments and emotions with other women, why we can hug them and tell them how much we love them. Sorry, deny it if you wish, but this wonderful sexual energy directed towards other women is in all us ladies. Embrace it like I have, and many others, and your sexuality will intensify in great (watery blue) depths like you never imagined.

I fully believe in these four sexual energies – Earth (masturbation), Air (exhibitionism), Fire (primal lust), and Water (Lesbianism). I represent these symbolically with rare gems: emerald, diamond, ruby, and sapphire, respectively in order.  I eventually hope to afford much larger expensive gems, but for now I have all four, under 0.1 carat each, mounted on a four-band puzzle ring. I wear this on my wedding finger, which confuses the hell out of people greatly. But I certainly feel I’m bound to my energies in this way, almost married to them. My sexuality if my life partner.

Please dream of me,

Stacy