My wife then girlfriend and I were engaged briefly due to pregnancy and then she broke it off. She wanted me to go out

and have sex with other women and she had every intention of sowing her wild oats as well.

She wanted us to revisit our relationship after a complete review. She offered to be a Wednesday

night date if neither of us found another person for a "committed relationship".

I still do not buy her explaination that she just wanted me to get more "experience" and

look at our relationship and a mutual choice we made towards each other, not just

something that existed due to circumstance.

OK, thankfully still had my own place. I had no choice in the matter anyway.

So, a week or so later she calls me at work, wanted to take care of what few money

issues remained between us, I swung by her place after work, a bit later than we both

expected. She answers the door in red fishnets, shorts looking really punky skanky...not her style.

"I am have a date picking me up in 20 minutes, here is the check, she then sat down at the table

with me and went over all of the money issues which was really minimal.

She asked if I had dated anyone yet, No, I have not, no luck at all.

"Well, do not stop for me. I am not stopping for you. I love you but this

is a better path for both of us right now".  Go out there...get aggressive,

find someone better than me....that is why we are doing this.

I said, yea, tried not to show my tears, went out to the car and cried.

For the next six months, we talked on a regular basis, shared our

dating stories. In the process discovered who she really was under

that warm funny exterior. A careful planner, cold and kinda mean

in how she viewed men. She thought and behaved more like a "typical

man" than I do. I like relationships, she liked one night stands and bootie

calls. Discovered that she is more than willing to dress up sexy for guys

if they ask the right way. She used to say that she found wearing pantyhose

for me disturbing because I made it "creepy"...by her dating other people, she

revealed to me how to ask her, how to make her feel sexy. 

Those months were fun, yea, I did find girls. If I didn't my now wife

would have just dropped me entirely.  It was a learning experience

sad, gut wrenching, fun learning experience.

Where can one buy red fishnets? I look around now and then. She promised

to wear them for me.