I'm not answering anybody's questions this time, just blowing off steam. But I would be interested in feedback if anybody cares to comment.

This Saturday we are having one of our "green door" parties to celebrate Valentine's Day. Whenever I send out invitations by e-mail, I ask our regulars to RSVP and let us know if they will be bringing any guests. This is because we always provide food, like sandwiches, salads, desserts, etc., and we need to know how much to buy.

Today I got a reply from a husband who has been coming to our swinger parties for years. He told me he and his wife would not be attending our party on Saturday, or any future party for that matter. I was very surprised and e-mailed to ask why. He wrote back and was very apologetic about it, but basically the problem is that his wife is not comfortable with the fact that my daughter participates. She does not like that I allow Jenn to be used sexually and according to the husband "it creeps her out" that I enjoy watching my own daughter being fucked, bound, whipped, and whatever else happens to be going on that night.

Reading this blew me away because this couple has been to at least a half dozen parties we have held since Jenn turned 18 and began joining us. Also because the husband has fucked her himself maybe 4-5 times. It turns out his wife has been uncomfortable about this situation all along and it finally reached "critical mass" for her. I wrote him back a couple hours ago and said how sorry we were that they felt this way and how much we would miss them.

I have spent the last couple hours sitting around and stewing in my own juice about this. At first I was sorry to be losing a pair of friends, but the more I think about it the more pissed off I've gotten. Jenn is now 19. Legally she is an adult. She has chosen of her own free will to be a part of the lifestyle her mom and I have enjoyed since before she was born. I have been a dom and Gail has been my sub for as long as we've been together,even before we got married. Jenn also knows I am a huge fan and student of de Sade's writings, and she knows what that means. I admit she has maybe grown up with a skewed attitude because of the environment she was raised in, but by the time she turned 18 she knew what is expected of a sub. It was not long after she turned "legal" that we discussed the possibility of her taking part in our parties. Her mother and I made it very clear that if she did, she would do it knowing I would expect her to submit to any of our guests, just as I expect her mom to do.  Jenn knows I get pleasure from watching her being used hard and she has accepted her role in our lifestyle.

Basically what this comes down to is, Jenn is an adult who has made her own choice. I realize our unusual family arrangement is something few people would choose, but I can't help being annoyed that other swingers (who by the way consider themselves very kinky and open-minded) would judge people who are consenting adults. Yes, Jenn is my daughter, but she attends our green door parties as a swinger who is there to interact with other consenting adults.  She knows the drill, she is a sub and expects to be dominated. She also knows I have Sadean tastes and will exploit her for my pleasure. It's all baked into the cake. I guess it just annoys me that supposedly kinky people have such a hard time believing that a young woman would willingly make the choice to become part of her parents' "extreme" lifestyle.

Of course our (former) friends and swinging partners are entitled to their opinions. Although in this case I know it's the wife who has the problem, not the husband.  But that's her call, so I get it.  Okay, end of rant.