"Sex is for the Woman's Pleasure"

"I have been in a Female dominated marriage with a younger man for the past eight years. I am Forty-one and my husband is Twenty-nine. I was married once before but got divorced. That marriage only lasted five years and I was pretty hurt. When I was thirty-two, I began to date a
twenty year old man. He was actually the mister of a woman I use to work with. It is a long story about how I ended up going out with this boy but to make it short, I found myself in a relationship with a man that was twelve years younger. Not only was he only twenty years old but he was also still a virgin. We went out just as friends in the beginning and as we became attracted to each other, I made up my mind that I was not about to relax with him. I figured that this relationship would never last and since I knew his Mother, I did not want to be the one who took his virginity. His Mother was Ok with us dating because I told her we were only going to movies and dinner as friends.

This young man fell for me and I enjoyed being the dominant partner in a relationship. My maturity automatically made me the dominant one. I was attracted to him and the sexual temptations began to become strong. We began to kiss and make out passionately but I told him that I was not about to have sex with him unless we were married. I did not want to take his virginity.

He would beg me for sex and I came to enjoy denying him. That is when something totally unexpected happened to me. I developed a bit of a fetish in teasing and denying this young man. We would kiss and he would get rock hard and I would take him to the edge and then make him back off. The problem was that I was getting so excited, after my dates with him, I found myself masturbating at home alone with my vibrator. I started to desire to have sex with him but I also was enjoying this power I had in teasing and tempting this virgin boy. I thought something was wrong with me and I kept my self-perceived perverted fetish to myself. I could not seem to contain my desires and my arousal when I teased this virgin boy. I began to dress more provocative for our dates and I loved to make out with him. I would rub his hard penis through his jeans, take his hands and allow him to fondle my breasts through my bra, get him to the edge and then tell him that we must stop because he must remain a virgin until marriage. I would then go home and pleasure myself with my vibrator as I fantasized about my virgin boy.

Our dates grew to the place where not only did I allow him to fondle my breasts, but I began to allow him to suck my nipples and eventually, I even allowed him to orally pleasure me. My fetish could not be contained within the recesses of my mind and I became so excited that I needed sexual relief and I desired his touch and tongue. I taught him how to orally please a woman and how to bring me to orgasms but I stayed true to my commitment and did not permit him intercourse. My original motives in keeping him a virgin were pure, as I was doing this because of my relationship with his Mother. But it developed into this strong fetish. I literally got off in denying him sex while he had to pleasure me.

He did not know the pleasure I was getting within my mind by denying him and he thought I was making him stop short of intercourse for morality reamisters. We continued to date and eventually we became engaged. I stayed true to my commitment even after we became engaged. His lady was surprised at our engagement but she saw how happy her mister was so she actually gave us her blessing for our marriage. She assumed her mister and I were in a traditional and vanilla relationship. My goal was to keep him a virgin until our wedding night. Somehow my fetish and sexuality became so strong that I almost needed for him to be a virgin. I can't explain it but I felt so in control and so powerful making him pleasure me while I denied him. He had accidents and climaxed a few times as we were making out. I even stroked him to orgasm on a few occasions but I would not permit him to penetrate me.

I became so turned on about the thought of a virgin boy performing cunnilingus and worshipping my body. I experienced many orgasms as he would eat me and I would often pleasure myself with my vibrator when I was by myself as I pondered this power dynamic in my mind. I enjoyed this intense mental stimulation so much that I realized that as soon as he lost his virginity, this power dynamic would be gone forever and I worried if I would still enjoy sex with him. Strange, I know, but I could not help what was occurring with my sexuality.

A few weeks before our wedding, I asked him if he would be willing to remain a virgin after our wedding. He said "No" but I was so use to being the dominant partner and I was so accustomed to getting my way, that I threatened him by saying that perhaps he should find someone else to marry. He was stunned and devastated so he begged me to marry him and he agreed to abide by any terms and conditions I decided to set. This excited me even further.

I found myself researching feminism and female domination. I began to desire to really control and dominate my soon to be new husband. I tried to learn about my fetish but could not find anything on this type of desire. Eventually, I discovered material about female domination and D&S. I went to a fetish store and talked to the female owner. I told her about my fetish and my situation. She gave me some books about Leather sex and S&M and she told me about chastity devices. I really became excited. I gave my soon to be young husband my terms for our marriage and he reluctantly agreed to those terms. He became excited about Leather sex and Female Domination and he agreed to remain a virgin as long as I wanted.

We agreed not to engage in intercourse until our fifth wedding anniversary and if it went well, it would then become a regular part of our sex life. He agreed and we were wed as planned. Shortly after we were married, I had him fitted for a chastity device. Our marriage has become a totally FemDom marriage and I incorporated spankings, discipline, strap-on play and other D&S sex into our marriage. My young husband orally pleases me as much as I demand and his orgasms are supervised and determined by me. I love being married to a young virgin and denying him. I knew what intercourse was all about from my first marriage and my past dating experiences but I was not tempted to have it with my new husband. When I want penetration, I make him pleasure me with my dildo.

Due to our D&S lifestyle and the power I have by keeping him a virgin, he has become even more submissive toward me with each passing year. Once our fifth year anniversary approached, I asked him if he still wanted to lose his virginity or could we expand it for five additional years. He wanted to lose it but I still was not ready to surrender this power.

My control over him is so complete that I convinced him to go five additional years. So the plan now is for me to allow him intercourse two years from now on our tenth wedding anniversary. I plan on staying true to my promise because a part of me does want him to experience what intercourse with a woman is like. He will be thirty-one when it finally happens. But I know it will change things some. I still get wet thinking about being married and denying a thirty-year old virgin. It drives my sexuality and makes me horny every time I think about it, which is often.