As a guy who has had relations with both sexes, I feel like I'm in a unique position to help train my wife to do what she's obligated to do in our sex life.  Rejecting oral, rejecting cum in her mouth/swallowing, rejecting the very idea of anal...it's just wrong.  If I said to her "hey, I know it's my responsibility and duty to fuck you in the pussy...but I'd rather just disrespect you and jerk off onto your leg every time we have sex" she'd think I was a total douche and feel terrible about our sex life.

It's such a goddamned doublestandard.  I throw myself into sex...doing everything I can to pleasure her and honor her...but if I want her to submit and swallow my seed, that's just asking too much.  

Arrgghh, so frustrating.