I thought about this question when I was trying to decide which images from my collection I would share with the users of this site.

Being “sexy” has nothing whatsoever, I concluded, with what a person looks like – not their body shape, the colour of their hair or eyes, the size of their breasts or bum. If it was all to do with physical appearance then there would be very, very many lonely people around who didn't fit into some particular mould.

No, being “sexy” is far more to do with the mind. It is how one comes across to another. It is a smile, a twinkle in the eye, a wiggle in the walk. It is a presence; it is ethereal, not physical.

Judging by appearance is for the shallow, the narrow-minded, those who think everybody should fit the aforementioned mould and that anybody who doesn't is some freak of nature best ignored so that they'll, hopefully, go away.

Well, it is my experience that those shallow and narrow-minded individuals frequently end up with what they deserve – a partner who is equally shallow and narrow-minded, completely two-dimensional.

Over the 35 years I have been sexually active, I have never limited my choice of partner by physical considerations. I have been with older women, younger women; I have happily been intimate with petite and supersizer, those considered pretty and those considered unattractive.

My two wives were as different as chalk and cheese – the first was tall and slim, the second was short and cuddly. I have had various “friends with benefits” - one was in her late 50s when I was 30 at the time, one was an amputee who had had one leg removed above the knee, and another was a trans-sexual whom I had known from school and whom I watched transform from an awkward eleven year old boy to a confident, attractive woman by the time she was twenty. But, the one who touched me the most was a friend with whom I spent a weekend, just three weeks before she passed away from cancer, after her scumbag husband dumped her for another woman after she was told she had three months left to live. Her final words to me will stay with me forever: “Thank you for wanting me.”

“Sexy” has very little to do with the physical, it just “is” and nobody has to fit any set pattern to be “sexy”. I hope my selections will reflect this.