Welcome to the Library For Kinksters. Check back often as the library is updated frequently.

Aftercare

• Aftercare 101
• Aftercare For Dominants
• Aftercare Kits
• Coping With Emotional Subdrop
• Different Kinds Of Aftercare
• Dom Drop
• How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
• Online Aftercare
• Providing aftercare to your Dominant/Top
• Some thoughts on aftercare
• sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
• Subdrop and Aftercare
• Subspace and Aftercare

Consent

• 50 Facts About Rape
• Consent & BDSM
• Guide to Consent
• What Is Consent (video)

Doms, Daddies & Masters

• 7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
• 10 Considerations for Aspiring Dominants
• 10 Reasons you Suck as a Dom
• 10 Things We Subs Need From You But Won’t Say Out Loud
• 12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
• 25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
• 30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
• 45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For
• 50 Rules for Daddies
• 50 things a Caregiver could do for their little!
• 100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
• 101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
• Alternative Names For “Daddy”
• Alternative Domme Titles
• Aspects Of Control
• Asserting Ownership - Rules
• Conditioning Submissives
• Daddy Up!
• Defining A Daddy Dom
• Dominance and Self-Control
• Dominants Need Training Also
• Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
• Help For New Doms
• How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
• How To Be A Good Dominant
• How to Find a Submissive
• Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
• New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
• Observations On Doms By A Submissive
• So You Think You Are A Daddy Dom?
• So you want to be a Dom?
• So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
• Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
• The Daddy Dominant’s Creed
• The Dominants Creed
• The Dom Commandments
• Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
• Tips for Taking Care of a Little When They’re Sick
• What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective
• What does the title Daddy mean?
• What is a Daddy Dom?
• What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
• What is a Dominant & how to be a good one
• What It Means To Be A Dominant
• What Makes A Good Dominant
• What To Do When Your Little Has The Grumps!

Littles, Subs & Slaves

• 6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
• 7 Common Types of Submissives
• 10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
• 10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
• 11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
• 12 Things Every Submissive Should Know
• 16 Things That Make Me Feel Little
• 26 Baby Girl Jobs
• 50 Great Rewards For Your Little Princess
• 50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
• A Bottom’s Responsibility
• A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive
• A Man Who Knows You…
• A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
• Acid Test For Subs
• Ask A Million And One Questions
• Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective
• Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
• Becoming A Sub: The Starter Guide
• Care and feeding of Daddies
• Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
• Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
• Feminist Submissive
• Finding Your Dominant
• Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
• Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
• How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
• “How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.
• How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
• How To Find A Dom
• How to Interview a Dom/Master Prospect
• How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
• I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
• Littles vs Ageplayers: Why they aren’t the same
• Novice Submissives
• On Being a Woman and a Little
• Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
• Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’
• Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
• Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
• Submissive Pride
• Submissive Traits - Intelligence
• Submissive Traits - Leadership
• Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
• What is a Little?
• What is a Middle?
• What is the definition of a Baby Girl?
• When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.
• Why I call him Daddy
• Your Rights As A Submissive

Long Distance Relationships

• 10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
• Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
• How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
• Kink And The World Of Warcraft
• Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
• Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
• The Long Distance D/s Relationship
• Things To Help Long Distance Relationships

Relationships

• 10 Habits of Happy Couples
• 10 Old Fashioned Dating Habits We Should Make Cool Again
• 10 Top Communication Mistakes
• 10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
• 12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
• 50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”
• BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
• BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
• Building Trust in Relationships
• Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
• Communication Is Key
• Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
• Daddy Doms and their little girls
• Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
• Dangers of Dom/Sub Gravity
• Date Night In A Jar
• DD/lg In Public
• D/s and Domestication
• Factors That Make A Relationship
• Finding Love When You Least Expect It
• Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
• Forming A D/s Relationship
• Great Idea For All DDlg & CGl Relationships When You’re Together
• Green Flags For Relationships
• Importance Of Communication
• Is Your Partner Having A Bad Day? Here’s How To Help
• How To Be Present In Your Relationships
• How To Build A Healthy Relationship
• How to Create a Winning Relationship
• How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
• How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”
• How to Recover from a Broken Heart
• How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
• Importance Of Confidence In Relationships
• Importance Of Trust In A Relationship
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner - Part 1
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2 - My Partner is Not Interested
• Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!
• Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
• Managing decreasing libido in D/S
• Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
• Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
• Searching for a D/s partner?
• Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
• Stop Arguments Before They Start
• The Faces of D/s
• The Rewards of a Submissive
• Types Of Relationship Insecurity
• Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
• What Is Real Love?
• When He Doesn’t Call
• Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better

Rope Tutorials

• Shibari Tutorial: Box Tie
• Shibari Tutorial: Coin Basket Harness
• Shibari Tutorial: Consequence Collar & Cuff
• Shibari Tutorial: Corset Harness
• Shibari Tutorial: Dragonfly Sleeve
• Shibari Tutorial: Frog Tie
• Shibari Tutorial: Hand Ties
• Shibari Tutorial: Hitachi Harness
• Shibari Tutorial: Hog Tie
• Shibari Tutorial: Lover’s Harness
• Shibari Tutorial: Pearl Harness & Wrist Cuffs
• Shibari Tutorial: Rope Ladder
• Shibari Tutorial: Side-arm Harness
• Shibari Tutorial: Samurai Tie
• Shibari Tutorial: Tortoise Shell Body Suit

Safety

• Another life ruined because of the morality police
• BDSM & the Law
• Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
• DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
• Infographic: Difference Between BDSM & Abuse
• Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t
• Limits in BDSM
• Red Flags in BDSM
• Safety when looking for a Potential Dom/me
• "Tumblr dom" versus Daddy Dom
• What is Emotional Abuse?

Self Improvement

• 21 Tips to Keep Your Shit Together When You’re Depressed
• 7 Tips for Leading a Fulfilling Life
• 8 Powerful Steps to Positive Thinking
• 10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
• 10 Steps To Positive Body Image
• 10 Steps To Self Care
• 10 Truths To Live By
• 10 Ways To Be Happy
• 10 Ways To Show Love To Someone With Depression
• 35 Practical Tools for Men to Further Feminist Revolution
• Battling the complications of varying emotional states
• BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers
• Body image & BDSM
• Characteristics of Genuinely Low Self-Esteem
• Do You Love Someone With Depression?
• Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
• How to be Yourself
• How to Cope with Test Anxiety
• How To Deal With Mental Illness
• How To Deal With Your Enemies
• How to Get Over Feeling Sad
• How To Ignore Haters
• How To Increase Your Patience
• How to Let Go of Fear of Abandonment
• How to Overcome Apathy
• How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
• How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
• How to Succeed at School
• Is BDSM normal?
• Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
• Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
• Meditation And Mindfulness
• On Cutting
• Self Help Masterpost
• Slut Shaming Explained
• Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
• Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
• Tips for Overcoming Shyness
• Tips for Recovering from Codependency
• Tips for Showing Kindness
• Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
• What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
• What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
• When You Feel Fed Up
• Why Do I Feel Unloveable?

Sex

• 10 Traits of a Blowjob Queen
• 50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
• Anal Sex - An Owner’s Manual
• Basics of Breath Play
• Changing the way your cum tastes
• Contraceptive Masterpost
• Disability and Sexuality Resources
• D/s or Kinky Sex?
• Fetishes Explained
• How to Have a Female Orgasm That Lasts 15-Minutes
• How To Make A Girl Squirt
• How To Tell Your Son About Sex
• Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
• Managing decreasing libido in D/S
• Sensual Biting
• Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
• Sex: Practical Details
• Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
• So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
• Squirting Educational Video
• Squirting Notes

Toys

• Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
• All About Violet Wands
• BDSM on a budget
• Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
• How to make an ice dildo
• Kink On A Budget
• Safety Guide to The Violet Wand
• Vaginal Juicers: A Buyer’s Guide

Training

• 10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
• 15 Points of a BDSM relationship
• 30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
• 40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
• An Instructional Guide to Kinks, Fetishes and the World of BDSM
• Age Play: A Short Guide
• Asserting Ownership - Posing
• Basics of Domination and Submission
• BDSM Contracts
• BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
• BDSM Roles
• Collar of Consideration
• Common BDSM Roles
• Discipline & Punishment
• D/s and Kink
• Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
• Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
• Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
• Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
• Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 3 - Structure and Discipline
• Glossary of BDSM Terms
• Guide to Behaviour Modification
• Guide To Blood Play
• Guide To Bruising
• Guide To Jelqing
• Guide To Spanking & Impact Play
• Guide To Subspace
• Guide To Talking Dirty
• Guide To Wax Play
• Hazards of Ignoring in a D/s Relationship
• How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
• How to Choose and Use a Safeword
• How to Lace Up Your Corset - A Helpful Infographic
• How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
• How To Make A Comfort Box
• Ignoring your sub is an act of abuse
• Infographic: Anatomy Of A Spanking
• Infographic: Tips On Breath Play
• Introducing your partner to a new fetish
• Introduction To BDSM
• Mixing Vanilla with the D/s Spice - Opening Pandora’s Box of the Heart
• Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting
• Pet Play: How Kittens Can Annoy Their Owners
• Pet Play: How To Make Pet Food For Your Pet
• Punishments in BDSM Relationships
• Rape Fantasy & Resistance Play
• Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
• Remission, Revitalization and anchoring of life through D/S
• S&M for beginners: Easing into a new situation
• Should you mix personal fetishes into punishments?
• Some Thoughts On Rules
• SubmissiveFeminist’s Guide to Behaviour Modification
• The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
• The Need For Rules and Discipline
• Thoughts on Correction
• Thoughts on Protocol - “The Invisible Leash”
• Topping from the bottom
• Trust and D/s
• Wax Play Tips
• What is collaring?