A for a male to achieve a completely female appearance is no small accomplishment, but appearance is superficial. If a person looks like a female but acts like a male, the illusion is blown. Appearnce makes the impression, but deportment sells it. Deportment is how one carries themself. Body languiage, movement, gestures, facial espression, speech, attitude and mannerisms are all part of deportment. Male and female deportment are entirely different, and aspiring females need to understand this, and that it takes awareness and conditioning to replace their natural habits and tendencies with those of the fair sex.

 First is the mindset. Imagine that you have never been big or strong, and cannot physically defend yourself. How would you behave? You certainly wouldnt provoke, confront, challenge or be aggressive in any way, nor would you be bold, aggressive, loud or demonstrative. You would stand quietly to the side, be tolerant and patient, stay pleasant and agreeable and yeilding. The female mindset is one not only devoid of outward expressions of power, it is softened by the maternal instincts of care, nurturing and compassion. Males hurt and fight and destroy, females soothe and heal and make peace. Males build things and females grow things. Males are analytical and females are intuiative. Males enjoy order, females enjoy beauty. When you condition yourself to the female way of thinking you will begin to behave like a female. This is the key to deportment.

 Attitude is a major component of beauty and appeal. Nobody likes a surly jerk, egomaniac, braggart, show off, know it all, complainer etc. Be pleasant, smile and compliment others. Dont be snide, cynical or sarcastic, be kind, considerate and helpful. Stay positive, upbeat and respectful. Dont talk about yourself or try to draw attention. Be willing to listen and make small talk. Be courteous and self effacing. What type of woman do you find appealing? Be that woman. Dont just look soft and pretty, think and act soft and pretty.

 Physical deportment includes body language, movement, gestures, stances, repose, posture, ettiquitte speech and facial expression among other things, and requires study and practice to modify. It is a matter of learning, then conditioning through practice and repetition.I see hundreds of pics of crossdressers who have done a nice job with makeup and outfit, but lose all their appeal because of their pose and/or facial expression. Any male who really wants to go female should be a student of female behavior. Watch how women walk and stand and gesture and emulate it. Perfect posture is not critical, it is a must. ALWAYS stand or sit up straight, shoulders back and head high. Posture is elegance and grace. It is class and polish. Never slump, stoop or lean against anything. Perfect posture is beautiful, practice it. Walking. Walking can be broken down into stride, gait, balance, sway and poses. Males are at a physiological disadvantage  when it comes to a sexy walk because their pelvis and spine are formed differently from females, so some work is required here. 

Stride - Walk lightly and take small steps. In heels, land on heel and toe at the same time. In casual shoes land slightly heel first and roll the foot smoothly. Dont rush or hurry. Gait - Men walk with feet about a shoulder width apart, so dont do that. There should be no more than a hands witdh of space between your inside ankles when you walk. Bringing the foot around to a tighter gait causes the hips to swivel, and with practice you can learn to control and exaggerate your hip action. For a sexy "kitty cat" gait, walk heel - toe, as if you are walking along the stripe in a parking lot. Practice this walk in heels. If you get it right the effect is awesome. Balance - balance is something that can be improved with practice, and good balance is required to walk sexy and/or in heels. You wont look very hot wobbling along in your 5" pumps, so work on improving your balance. Sway - This puts sex into your walk. Sway is proper gait and stride plus the aforementioned hip action, combined with complimenting arm shoulder and head motion. Your shoulders should move counter to your hips and much more subtle. If left hip is back, right shoulder is forward. Arm swing should be slight, but dont keep arms motionless, everything has to have a little movement to get a fluid, sexy sway. As you walk you should scan the room, making only momentary eye contact while maintaining a slightly bored expression. Always return a smile. Poses - My mom was a professional model and she taught us,among other things, that every time you stop is a pose, so the pose is part of your walk. Make it subtle and demure and graceful. A good one is feet close together with toes of one foot pointing slightly out, with that knee slightly bent. A hand placed on your chest or hair works well, as does holdin hands together or two hands on purse. Observe and copy and develop you own poses.

 Ok this has gotten far longer than i intended, so i will continue with another blog. To all you guys who love to be girls, i love you.

shannon