Men have a feminine side, just as women have a masculine side, but theres an unfortunate double standard when it comes to expressing ones inner transgender identity. Women are allowed to be as male as they want in dress and behavior, but males who display the tiniest bit of femininity risk getting tarred and feathered by their peers. It is especially risky for those who go public, and males who make the lifestyle switch to female are often rejected by friends and family.

 Ive met quite a few T girls online and in r/l, and have heard firsthand about the challenges they face, mostly alone. and it has made me sympathetic and supportive toward not just males who turn female, but all males who aspire to femininity in any degree. Who can blame them for wanting to be a member of the true superior gender? As far as I am concerned they are on the path of enlightenment, and deserving of help.

GOING PUBLIC

(If you want to go public and dont care if people know you are really male, this doesnt apply to you)

 The dream of most CD men is to be able to walk through a crowded mall as a hot female, without anyone suspecting a thing. Most also know that this is an impossible dream and never actually consider it. Males who are totally passable are an elite few who have 2 things going for them. 1) Nature has given them the physical attributes that make it possible and 2) They are young. Before you think about going public you must do a brutally honest assessment of your potential. CD's always see themselves in a very forgiving way, and thats ok when you are alone looking in the mirror. Unless you dont mind the trauma and humiliation of being exposed publically, you need to be honest with yourself.

 male vs female: physiology

When viewed from the side women have a pronounced curve in their spine that makes their butt stick out, and puts their torso toward the front of the pelvis. A mans torso is directly over his pelvis, with little curve. This translates into motion and body language that are common to the gender, something to be aware of.

 If you have large hands and/or feet, a large frame, wide shoulders and/or chest, are muscular in general, have pronounced veins, excessive body hair, heavy beard, obvious adams apple, masculine face or are over 6 feet tall or 200 lbs, forget it. If you are over 30 you are also at a disadvantage. Dont just use the mirror, take pics or videos of yourself from different angles, in all different positions and dont ignore any flaws you see. If it cant be fixed then you cant do it.

 When you look at pictures of these incredibly beautiful traps who look totally female, look at their age. They are all very young. The elite traps have natures favor and youth on their side, but that alone is rarely enough. Intense hormone therapy is required to reshape the body and smoothe the skin. A strict diet and workout regimen must be followed. Grooming must be immaculate. Skills in fashion, makeup and hair must be learned. 

 Most important of all is deportment, which too many overlook, and will be the subject of my next blog