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Sexual fear and denial
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Men are terrified of gay, yet the popularity of traps and shemales shows that men want cock, if its on a female looking body.
Its great that men seem to finally be on the road to sexual liberation, but part of this liberation should be elimination of this irrational fear and denial of homosexuality. When a male has sex with another male, even if that male looks totally female, it is a homosexual act, period. All of the rationalizations in the world wont change that.
But men go to ridiculous lengths to deny that this is the case. One of the best examples is something i saw here on imagefap. "straight guys for shemale cock" If we must resort to nonsense to deny the obvious, then so be it, right? Such silliness has its roots in a popular misconception held by males, that a single sex act with another male makes you gay. Try it once and you become a giant fag.
Can we tone down the hysteria a little? Few things in life are black and white, and this certainly is not one of them. Sexuality in particular is all shades of gray. To illustrate this point, lets call heterosexual white and homosexual black. If you prefer women but have had some kind of sex with another male once or twice, you become a very light shade of gray. Take comfort that you are still far away from the other end of the spectrum.
The gray area is called bisexuality, something that females came to terms with long ago. Male bisexuality is a fact. By denying it men only delay its acceptance. Even if you cant cop to it, try to make peace with your inner desires. Its normal, common and no more evil than any other kind of sex.
shannon
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Posted on : Nov 4, 2013
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Commented on Nov 6, 2013
desk in my room ,youre cute
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Commented on Nov 6, 2013
Thanks for adding excellent input on this issue, both of you. There is much I dont know, but i can learn by stimulating conversation that draws the type of considered response that you kind gentlemen have given. This format is really cool because i talk to lots of guys in total anonymity, which allows them to be honest to a egree that would be impossible face to face. As you both point out social pressures and stigmae are very real, and the male/gay stigma is particularly harsh. I understand i cant change anything, but the machismo thing can be unfortunate, because men are really very caring and sensitive inside, but are sometimes forced to act like dolts. Thanks for your replies
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Commented on Nov 4, 2013
I have stated previously that sexual orientation and sexual desire are not the same thing. In my mind being homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual has more to do with who you are attracted to on an emotional level as opposed to mere sexual attraction. After all you can only spend so much time in bed (or the floor, shower, kitchen table or tied up in the garage!) The rest of your time with someone is spent working on household budgets, shopping, fighting for sink room in the bathroom, taking out the garbage and so forth.
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Commented on Nov 4, 2013
I enjoy your viewpoint on the matter but feel you are being short sighted. There has and always will be in place a stigma of machismo men must adhere to if they are to be accepted in society. It is pathetic that that is the case, but it is. Women have their pressures, men have them too. They are trying to expand their desires in a way with plausible deniability. Besides, there are always guys just looking to see where their own limits are.
There is a rather twisted phrase that I've heard many times on the subject "It's not gay if you're on top." Men will often do anything they can to maintain dignity, as it is the main thing they are forced to live up to. It's the same reason that trans men (female-male) have such an easy time in society, being as they are perceived to be heightening themselves, compared to trans women (men-women) who get more attention because they are perceived as lessening themselves.
As for the concept of a grey area, science agrees with you. There is a sadly little known study done by Alfred Kinsey about sex and sexuality. One of its major conclusions was on this topic. With the stigma out of the way and full honesty enabled for his research he found that most people had a very complex desire of sexuality in regards to gender alone. Reducing it down to 7 scales. 0-6. 0 being totally heterosexual, 6, totally homosexual.
The sad thing is because this system isn't widely known it isn't integrated and people are unable to identify as anything more than strait, bi, or gay. when that leaves a large number of people unsure where they truly sit. I myself find I am a 2. A category not allowed by current media understanding of sexuality.
It is an interesting concept to want a dick but not a man, but I understand it. It is as simple as wanting someone for specific features, but not liking others. Hair but not eyes, legs but not arms. So why not preferring dicks on soft bodies, or vaginas on hard ones?
The more we try to categorize how peoples desires work, the more we are limiting those desires from ever coming true.
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