Most men don't take the time to study the female anatomy. Yes, we orgasm and many times in multiples. That doesn't mean we don't need time for our happy ending to happen. A man who is concerned only with his own orgasm cannot be a good lover. By learning to control your orgasms, you can learn to become a better lover. While many men tell me they've been told size doesn't matter, truth is it does. But there's such a thing as a man with an adequate to above average cock who's a lousy lover due to the lack of consideration he shows his partner. These men think having an adequate cock excludes them from something more important, stamina. It takes time for a woman to reach her peak, no matter the size. Sure, a larger cock makes it easier for her to get there, but that's for another day. Learning to control your orgasms will endear you to your lover, trust me.

How do you learn orgasm control?

A male who's truly interested in learning to control his orgasms will work hard to hold back. How do you learn to do that, you ask? Edging is a wonderful tool for pushing your penis to its limits. An easy way to build stamina is to stroke yourself until you feel your testicles tighten, then let go right before you cum. You wait a few minutes then for your cock to calm down, then begin stroking again. Edging can be repeated as many times as you can stand. After a few weeks of delaying or denying your orgasm, you'll learn when you're too close to the point of no return and you'll pause and wait to give your partner a chance to get hers for once. After your first period of orgasm control, you'll find another surprise. Your orgasms are much more intense after a period of constant teasing and denial. You'll find your balls shoot more and the feeling of the orgasm lasts much longer. So don't think she's getting all the benefits of your hard work. After the first time you experience a full body orgasm, you'll be glad you learned to control your orgasm.

What's a ruined orgasm?

A ruined orgasm occurs when you stop a little too late during an edging session. While it doesn't provide the full release of a normal orgasm, it does provide a very erotic type of frustration that leaves you a bit drained and blue balled at the same time. Ruined orgasms are often used by femdoms as a type of punishment when her male submissive has disappointed her in some way. Many male submissives find a ruined orgasm very humiliating whether they've done it on their own or a Mistress has coerced them into it. If it was a solo ruined orgasm, the submissive feels like he lacks control and often confesses his sexual sin to his mistress. When a ruined orgasm is given to him by his femdom, he realizes her capacity to punish him for his wrongdoings. It humiliates, punishes and leaves the male submissive horny as ever with no hope for release. Ruined orgasms are a perfect punishment.

How do men learn to control their orgasms even further?

There's a muscle inside the penis called the Kegal Muscle. This muscle regulates the rate of urine flow as it exits the penis. To find it, go to the bathroom and pee. Squeeze your muscles in midstream that stop the flow. Feel that? That's your Kegal Muscle. To "work out" your penis, make a conscious effort to practice stopping and starting your flow each time you go to the bathroom. Not only will this give you a finer control of your penis and make it harder for your semen to "accidentally" release, it gives the male a power behind his thrusting that pleases his sexual partner even more.

So why should I care about orgasm control?

No matter how good a lover you think you are, you're a bad fuck away from becoming a cuckold like so many others, maybe you are already. What can you do to make sure your lady is satisfied with your lovemaking skills? Learn some new tricks, you old doggy, you! Learn to control your cock so it doesn't control you. Build stamina and learn some humility. Focus on your female, your cock isn't important except when it's pleasing her. Cock control and orgasm control will make you a better lover and who wouldn't want to be a better lover?

I'm sure you have lots of questions concerning what you can do to practice your newfound cock control skills. I know you want to understand exactly what it is you need to do to satisfy the ladies. For cock control, orgasm control and orgasm denial training, call Ms Lauren and we'll discuss just what it is you need to make you the very best lover (or at least stroker boy!) that you can be!

 What is Male Orgasm Denial?

While most males feel it's the right to stroke themselves off anytime they please, real men know holding back makes eventual release volcanic. Erotic male sexual denial and orgasm denial is a sexual practice and form of total power exchange in which the male submissive gives complete control over his orgasms over to a higher power, his Mistress. The purpose of denial is to keep the male submissive aroused, titillated and pushed to the edge constantly with no hope for sexual release. Chastity is a sure fire way of keeping the male submissive denied. I've found that mental chastity or conditioning the slave to understand orgasm is not his choice works just as well as physical chastity devices like the CB6000. When fantasy orgasm denial is the game, the male may get his release at the end of the session after extended periods of tease and denial.

What is the goal of orgasm denial?

Unable to touch the part of him that he thinks makes him a man emasculates the submissive male. While he might not have been a masturbator before, the taboo of touching what his Mistress has effectively banned him from makes him much more aware of his penis. Ironically, this usually makes the male submissive determined to stimulate himself, thinking his Mistress will never know. Most male submissives are caught in this arrogant and selfish act and are punished accordingly, usually with even more time tacked onto their chastity sentence. For incorrigible slaves such as these who can't be trusted with mental chastity. A chastity belt is often required to train the male submissive to his true place in life.

What is Chastity?

Chastity occurs when a male follows through on his promise to his femdom not to touch himself or if edging is required, not to bring himself to orgasm. While most orgasmically denied males do fine with mental chastity, some of the tougher cases need physical reinforcement. Chastity Belts come in a wide variety of styles and shapes to conform to most any anatomy. A key holder is a Mistress who holds the key to the chastity device. Some of them have an additional surprise, a butt plug that nestles between the male's cheeks while his penis is locked away in bondage. Males in chastity become very dependent on their key holder. She becomes the pinnacle of their sexual existence and he will soon move heaven and earth to please his Queen, his Goddess, his Mistress. Chastity is usually only used as an orgasm denial tool after Mistress/slave ownership has been firmly established.

Won't orgasm denial cause lack of interest in sex?

To the contrary, orgasm denial makes the male submissive much more aware of what he's missing out on. Not only do his thoughts wander sexually more often, but he begins to sexualize the femdom who holds his key. As he moves deeper into his submission, be it a physical or mental, those random thoughts that were disrespectful change so he venerates and begins to worship the superior sex, females. The chaste, orgasm denied male sexualizes the woman who holds control over his orgasms and treats any woman he meets with the utmost diffidence. His Mistress controls that most personal, private act and he loves her for it. And the women he meets in his daily life also hold the potential to emasculate him even further, so that respect extends to all women. Far from being less sexual, this state of mind makes him to look at sex in a completely different way... a way in which he is the submissive partner and the women he meets are his Mistresses.

What are the effects of orgasm denial?

Obviously, a male can't go forever without orgasm. Not only is that unhealthy, it gives him nothing to look forward to. But spacing orgasms far apart insures they don't become commonplace, but a type of "holiday" that your male looks forward to. To drain a male submissive between orgasms, techniques such as prostate milking and ruined orgasms serve to keep him hungry and aching whilst giving little relief. These orgasms can also be used to insure he does as he's told, else his orgasm be delayed, ruined or eliminated altogether. Orgasm denial can turn a male chauvinist pig into a pussy whipped partner any Mistress would be proud to own.

I'm not going to begin by asking if you've ever done something completely stupid for a woman. Why? I already know the answer to that one. My question is different. What's the stupidest thing you've ever done to please a woman? Don't be coy, we all know men will do anything for the most subtle sniff of pussy. While we're told time in and time out that there's a lack of equality among men and women, well, I beg to differ. The lack of equality comes from silly women not understanding how to use the power of their pussy to their advantage. Luckily for you, I'm not one of those women. I know exactly the power I have over not only wankers like you, but men I meet out in the world every single day. Don't pretend it's not happened to you, we both know you'd be lying!

With summer coming up, clothes keep getting skimpier and the blood flow that should be fueling your brain keeps moving straight to your icky sticky. That hot blonde in line at the grocery the other day? I know you let her cut so you could stare at her ass in her cutoffs. I'll bet if she'd ran short, you'd have paid the difference for her, wouldn't you? Do you think she'd have been grateful enough to take you home, lol? I think not. Oh, she might have hugged you, pushed those pillowy tits of hers against you while she whispered "thank you" in your ear with the cutest little giggle. Now there you are, all hard, aching in your pants and she's walking away. Not only are you too horny for words, your wallet's quite a bit lighter. This is a prime example of tease and denial. It's not that your cock is being actively denied or controlled, but you'll never, ever get any of that... so you're just as effectively denied as your chaste or cock controlled brethren.

"No, that's not me, I'm not that stupid!" you say, do you think you have me fooled. What about the girl at the bar the other night. She led you on a little, didn't she. You'd buy her a drink and she'd dance with you, let you pull her oh, so close. Before you know it, you're spent out and she's moved on. See her sitting on that studly guy's lap over there. He's going to get the benefit of all the drinks you've paid for. She's lit, horny and she's going home with him. You didn't even rate a second look. Them's the breaks, babe... and guess what? You've been teased and denied and never even saw it coming!

All those sexy young girls know you'd do anything for the slightest hint they MIGHT be interested in you. Do you think they don't use it to their advantage? If you were in the position, you'd do the same. You just weren't blessed with an angel's face, a body to die for and the ability to play men for the fools they are. The tease and denial artist knows just how far she can push her mark, how far he'll go to make her happy without becoming pushing and expecting more than she's prepared to give. When you hit that point, when you start expecting things in return, off she goes to the next victim. Teasing and denial is her trap and you fell right in, didn't you?

Even now, all it would take was a smile, a kiss on the cheek, small caresses that mean absolutely nothing and you'd move heaven and earth to make her happy. Too bad you don't have what it takes to make her happy always, that's too much for you. You're merely a means to an end whilst she runs off into the sunset with a manly man who could mop the floor with your wimpy ass. Tease and denial is your destiny, better get used to it!

Want to talk about your desire to be used and abused, teased and denied? I love the sound of your shuddering pleas as you beg me for your orgasm... did I mention no was my favorite word, giggle?