I've had many letters from people asking me about my friend Dora, and the Mother Superior stuff. We spoke on the phone last night, and talked about Pattie (We're doing great BTW.) and some investments she is getting into in South America. I told her about my blog and captioning. She was a bit surprised, but gave me permission to continue as long as I don't identify her, and keep things a little over-the-top.
She looked at some of the captions based on her and we had a good laugh, and then we started talking Femdom war stories, and some of the crazy stuff we did together, and one thing led to another, and I'll be going to see her in Mexico City in two weeks. I love Pattie, and I don't really want to change him...much. But talking with Dora last night set my inner bitch to craving some hard fun, and Dora has a cute little Guatemalan sub that is much too arrogant, and much too pretty to ever be a man.
According to Dora...He (who will in the coming months be a she) needs a good 48 hours of our ‘loving' attention, and I even get to name her. Dora is such a bitch; she knew exactly how to get me to get off my ass and visit. Now I can't think of anything else.
Dora read the little piece on my blog about emasculating a man and she thought it was shallow and superficial. She told me I knew nothing about really emasculating a man, and then proceeded to tell me the story of her second husband. What followed was a story so utterly dark and hateful that I had trouble processing it. Needless to say, Dora's first marriage in California was so painful, and abusive that she made a vow to never go through that again, and she happily admits that the lessons learned in her 1st marriage is what set her course in Femdom, and BDSM.
I will not relate the actual story here, but I will give you a brief summary of what Dora considers really emasculating a man. Something she did to her 2nd husband for 9 years before divorcing him and leaving him penniless in Juarez Mexico. Surprisingly, there isn't much physical stuff, yet it's so mentally cruel and dark that I hesitated to write it. I have told those who have asked, that my friend Dora is a bit of a villain. I meant what I said.

(1) Discredit and make fun of what he does for a living: Do this on a daily basis in small and subtle ways. Always compare him unfavorably with others, especially those who are in actuality not doing as well as he is.

(2) Ask him for help at every opportunity, then do it your own way: When he tries to help you laugh at his efforts, and incompetency. Tell him how much you wish (fill in the blank) was there to make things easier, and to do things right.

(3) Insult him publically, in front of his friends, and family: Never miss an opportunity to embarrass him publically, insult his lack of manhood, or his competency as a man. Always do this in a way to present yourself as a long suffering victim of his stupidity. This is important because if you do this correctly, his own family and friends will begin to have empathy for you, and start to chastise him.

(4) Micromanage his life: As he begins to feel less and less capable of ever doing anything right, begin to micro-manage what he does, he will eventually be grateful for this, which will further degrade any sense of confidence in himself.

(5) Form relationships with some of his ‘appropriate' friends: Not sexually (at first), just invite them over to help you with things while he is present. Say things like; "I know you are close with my husband but he just can't do anything right, and he told me that were great at fixing....(fill in the blank). By degrading your husband, and flattering select friends at the same time, you will have his own friends seeing him in a different light. They will be less supportive of him and more supportive of you.

(6) Isolation, Isolation, Isolation: Your husband will always have some friends and family members who will back him and support him 100%. You must isolate him from these sources of support. Start by telling him that his most supportive friends have made inappropriate comments or strange looks. Tell him you always feel like they're undressing you with their eyes, etc. Rather than attack those friends and family who would support him, make him suspicious of them and he'll do all the work for you. Eventually the relationship with his only sources of support will be severed.

(7) Get in shape: This is good advice for a lot of reasons, but even more so in this type of relationship. Body image is important to a man, and it makes you more desirable, which also strangely makes you less obtainable. As you grow stronger and more beautiful physically, he will find himself feeling unworthy. You will also feel more powerful, more energetic, and good about yourself. Subtly discourage fitness in him, give him so much to do that it becomes impossible for him to exercise, while at the same time insult his own body and lack of fitness.

(8) Attack his sexual performance: Never let him see you cum or show pleasure when his penis is involved. Complain about his size, his endurance, and his overall performance. Tell him how important good sex is to you, and that he needs to try harder. While he is having sex with you try to break the mood with heavy dissatisfied sighs. Tell him that you were talking on the phone with (one of his friend's wives), and how satisfied he makes her and the things he does for her. Once a male ‘tries' to consciously control his sexual performance it tends to shut down his ability. The harder he tries the worse it will become.

(9) Offer him a substitute for his sexual failure: Once he is locked into a death spiral of performance anxiety, and can no longer perform sexually, offer him alternatives which are pleasing to you, but degrading to him. His desire to finally do something right, to somehow miraculously please you will drive him to do whatever you wish. Ensure that whatever he does is personally embarrassing for him.

(10) Start dating other men: No matter how hard he tries to please you in whatever limited capacity he is capable of, it is not enough. Explain to him that you are a woman and deserve to be satisfied. Frame the argument exposing his inadequacies, and make him not only agree that you should date other men, make him actively support it. He will see this as a necessary sacrifice to ease your lack of satisfaction caused by his own failure. This twisted piece of mind fuckery works surprisingly well on males, who are deep down problem solvers.

(11) Make him legally change his last name to yours: After a few years of degrading him, his family, and his family name, he will be ready for this step. This might seem overly dramatic but it works wonders in his own mind. It also further distances him from his own family. It puts you symbolically, and legally, as the head of the household.

(12) Name your own children, and give them your last name: If you decide to have children early in the relationship before you have shattered his sexuality, then he should have no involvement in the naming of your children. Making him feel that he is little more than a sperm donor and a caretaker is an important step in breaking down any annoying thoughts of fatherhood. You will be your children's only parent.

(13) He is never allowed to discipline the children or even raise his voice: All discipline comes from you. This is something that is made abundantly clear early on. Any failure on his part to adhere to this principle should be immediately punished, and it should be in front of the children. They should be taught to respect both you and other adults, but never him. When they see him being slapped, and verbally abused for every infraction, it breaks any bonds of authority he may have over the children.

(14) Slap him and reprimand him in public often: Preferably in front of the children. Never let him say or do anything that even slightly displeases you. Whatever public image he would like to convey, shatter it. Show him that he can never hide what he is. Not from you, his family, his friends, not even the public. He is an utter failure as a man, a broken little loser whose only blessing is having you to guide him through life.

(15) Completely control his finances and his ability to make choices: Having money or control of money is the same as having choices. He should have none. All of the money he makes should go directly into your account. Never give him any money unless it is to purchase something for you, or run an errand. When purchasing something for him such as clothing always ask his opinion on a selection, and do precisely the opposite. If he likes the red shirt tell him he'll be much more satisfied with the blue. Always purchase clothing for pure functionality. He should never feel well dressed, or good about himself. When eating at a restaurant, always order for him. This works better when it's done in front of friends, family, and children.

(16) Make you're the master bedroom your inner sanctum. Your colors, your design, your bed, your stuff. Your husband should only be invited there to clean it, or receive discipline. He should associate your Master Bedroom as a feminine and forbidden place where all he receives is pain. The only sex that should ever occur on your bed is with other men. He should never be allowed to sleep there.

(17) Make his bedroom uncomfortable and unsecure: There should be no lock on the door, and you should inspect his room weekly. He should have few personal items and they should all be from you. All colors, decorations, furniture, and his bed should be selected by you. All sex toys and sex products should be stored here, and prominently displayed. (If you have children then they should be locked away.) All sexual activities with your husband will occur on his small bed. Visiting him at inconvenient times and when he's resting for hard sex and discipline is encouraged. Try to always leave his room dirty and require that it be kept spotlessly clean. (Dora loves peeing...and worse, on men. She told me that she always made him sleep the night on wet and filthy sheets, and then made him clean them and make the room spotless before he left for work.)

(18) When entertaining never allow him to speak unless asked a direct question: When he speaks it should always be in a soft and submissive voice. Reprimand him and send him to his room like a child if he fails in this. Explain his behavior as mild mental retardation for those guests who don't know about your lifestyle.

(19) Never allow him to participate in activities that could be seen as masculine or adult: Never allow him to smoke, or consume alcohol. He should not be allowed to participate in adult sports, physical games, or anything where he could express himself. During get-togethers, parties, picnics, and other social function he should serve food, drinks, and watch the children.

(20) Castrate him and leave him: When enough years have passed and to spice things up. start talking to him about castration, and how it would please you. Make it your goal to get him to not only agree to the idea, but also to see it as his best option. If you're cuckolding him try to involve your lover in the process. Finding a doctor to perform this procedure is difficult, but it's best done by someone with training. (Apparently in Mexico you can get a doctor to do anything if you have cash). Once it's done, his little empty sack will shrivel up over the next few months becoming a little walnut sized lump of vestigial scar tissue. Once you've drained him of all entertainment value, then drain any final assets he has, kick him out of your house, and divorce him.

Needless to say Dora hasn't been married since. She says she's having too much fun to even consider it. She did say that she likes the fact that she turned the little boring motherfucker (her words) into a ball-less bitch who is still running around Juarez telling anyone who will listen what his wife did to him.