Most married CD men i talk to would like to include their wives but are afraid it will freak them out. CD men who do it with their wives say that having her involved makes it much better. The good news is that most women have a positive attitude toward crossdressing, and if you have a sound marriage and open minded wife she will probably be ok with it, in fact the wives i have talked to are avid participants, mostly in the dominant role. But watch out, give a female a dick and you create a monster. It is very important that you reveal your femmy side the right way, and that requires knowing what her concerns are.

1) She needs to know that you are not gay or turning gay, that this is an expression of your inner self and not part of some coming out process.

2) She needs to know that you arent trying to become a female, that you are happy as you are but have this femininity that you need to express.

3) She needs to know that you arent planning to go public or take it out of the house. Assure her that the bedroom is as far as you need to take it.

4) She needs to know that you arent a jekyl and hyde personality and that this is still you, only with a female twist.

5) Most of all she needs to know that you are happy with her and still love her and want to include her, that this wont come between you.

Do's and Dont's

* DONT wear her stuff. Thats the quickest way to make her dislike the whole thing.

* DONT surprise her by jumping out fully dressed, you will get a very bad reaction.

* DO prepare her with subtle comments that make her suspect you lean that way. Then when she finds out she wont be shocked, she will think "i thought so", and you know how women love to be right.

* DO start out gradually and monitor her reaction carefully. Gradually let her see the full extent in stages, and dont move to the next stage until you are sure she is ready.

* DO give her the chance to cross over, and make it easy on her by getting a realistic cock and harness she can wear. If she gets to do it too, then its not just about you, and she will probably really like having a dick, i know i do.

* DO tell her that if it bothers in any way you will drop it completely (whether you actually can or not is another story) she needs to feel like she has the power to pull the plug if she needs to.

good luck!

shannon