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Sexual liberation and denial
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Women have much more latitude than men when it comes to acccepted sexual behaviors. Dress code, bisexuality, displays of affection and emotion, passivity, gentleness and sensuality are areas where females have relative freedom, but are restricted or prohibited for males, but why?
My guess is that it has something to do with the male obsession with appearing tough and manly (that shit gets old, ask any woman), and the mistaken notion that being gentle, passive or sensitive makes one less of a man. Whatever the case, men are going to endure sexual oppression until they can start being honest about what they feel and what they want.
Most men have some degree or curiosity if not outright desire for cock. The popularity of traps and the shemale phenomenon would seem to bear this out. Yet talk to a guy who likes traps and he will invariably deny that cock has anything to do with it. Really? Why not a woman instead of a man imitating a woman then? The only answer is that lots of men are interested in cock but cant say so. I maintain that if you want to be able to do it then you have to quit denying that you want it.
Women got their permissions in part because they are honest about how they feel and open about what they desire. Male sexual liberation is overdue. Guys help your own cause and quit the denial. Or at least dont badmouth things that you secretly want to do. It may be more common than you think.
Shannon
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Posted on : Aug 5, 2013
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Commented on Oct 30, 2013
Wow. Well said. I've always had a secret fantasy of being "Trapped" and its really been raging recently. Your right. I need to be comfortable with the things I like. Thanks for the blog. :)
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Commented on Aug 31, 2013
Great thoughts here. The macho aspect of western masculine identity (and worldwide) is definitely an inhibiting factor.
I will admit I love penises. They can easily be as sexy and fun as a nice vagina.
I think it is tough for men in some ways because feminism is experienced by many (in ignorance) as a threat to their masculinity - which it absolutely is- by following the lead of feminists in starting to deconstruct gender, men can seize the tools to smash the chains which bind them to this ‘identity’.
I wonder if women have been able to liberate themselves sexually to a further extent than men because they were historically more sexually oppressed. Questioning what you are told you are supposed to do is a process which builds on itself. Because men have generally had an acceptable outlet for their sexuality(in the identity of virile, 'pussy-conquering' masculinity), there has been less impetus for them to question the social construct of masculinity.
I apologize for being a bit rambly, its late, and shall we just say that I am far from sober.
I admire your politics
karatakos
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Commented on Aug 12, 2013
yes I have noticed that males who try to break the mold are persecuted as deviants, but I also see progress for males. It is ok for males to to shave any part of the body now which is much more attractive and will ultimately make bisexuality easier and more common for men. Men also wear more jewelry, pastel colors and now its almost more common for the male to be wearing a fragrance rather than the female. There will be those small minded bigots who dont accept the need for change. Ill say it again, a good first step would be to refrain from talking bad about something you secretly want to do. No need to confess anything, just dont spread negativity.
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Commented on Aug 7, 2013
Well done Shannon for you are quite correct in your suppositions for men are the most oppressed where their oppressor is themselves and they are doing themselves no favours in their denial for as females are progressing leaps and bounds into a more civilised and honest existence men on the other hand are becoming more Victorian in their mentality, that is prim and proper on the surface but riddled with sleaze when they think no one is watching.
You see I am not a typical male but because I look like one, I am expected to be one and females yes, I like females they also expect me to be a typical male where as said, I am not and believe me I have tried to be over the years but that extra female sex chromosome I have seems to say no.where it can make for a lot of confusion and well yes loneliness
But have you noticed the males that are in the process of setting themselves free, society labels them as deviants?
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Commented on Aug 6, 2013
I realize that men arent going to suddenly be able to say what they feel, it is a process that will take time. I think a good first step that wont get anyone in trouble is to just refrain from badmouthing things that you are secretly interested in. At least that would ease the homophobia somewhat and it is a painless first step.
shannon
PS i love men, thats why i write these things
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Commented on Aug 5, 2013
well said! my feelings exactly but i will remain "in the closet!"
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Commented on Aug 5, 2013
Not to rain on your pronouncement, but most men are not going to admit that. Any large group of people (not just men, but people) will isolate and belittle any member of the group who appears the easiest target.
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Commented on Aug 5, 2013
Hi Shannon, I wish you to know that what you've observed is accurate in male sexuality. We, as sexual creatures have tendencies towards what we are naturally attracted to. There are varying degrees of sexual attraction and that is why in both genders, we may be attracted to certain sexual characteristics. It's really refreshing to read a well thought out expression like the writing you posted here.
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