I've been contacted by a former partner, S , who's coming up to the City and wanted to visit, catch up, and spend some time.

 I have very fond memories of our relationship, as he was kind and gentle and generous and also hung like a scotsman, and as has happened before, we only drited apart as work took us in different directions. He never did want to try anal though.

M is not possessive, and knows that I'm totally obsessive about being clean and safe, sexually - being brought up with an avalanche of aids warnings means I always use barrier protection, when not in a fully monogamous relationship.

 Having become considerably kinkier over the years, I'm wondering whether to entice him into my increasingly perverted way, play it cool, or just see where things lead.

Not everyone responds well to finding out you're wearing a rubber dildo harness to dinner...