Does it not sound like a term a college evolution biology professor would utter when teaching about the mating rituals of a pair of penguins?...at least that's what first came to my mind when I first saw the term "copulatory vocalizations". The term actually refers to sex noises and orgasm screams humans make during sex.

If you watch enough porn, you will know that women can and will fake moans and groans (as the saying goes, the louder the fakier). So it will come as no surprise to most of you that a 2011 research (http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2011/08/12/womens- sex-noises-and-orgasm-screams-voluntary-or-not/) by two researchers from the University of Central Lancashire, in Preston, England concluded that "women appear to vocalize during sex not to express their own enjoyment so much as to help the man reach climax." Shocking, I know. The survey of 71 sexually active women found that they were least likely to experience orgasm during penetration by a man. They were more likely to have an orgasm after self-manipulation, manipulation by their partner or oral sex, in that order.

I don't know about other guys but personally I don't really get off from the moans or groans women make, especially when I know they are fake. I don't mind the occasional ohhhs and ahhhs but when it becomes too excessive and over the top I actually lose my sex desire. I once had sex with this one girl who immediately begin moaning as soon as I penatrated her and the moans were as fake as Kim Kardashian's marriage. I know she meant no harm as she was obviously doing it to get me aroused but by doing so she actually caused the opposite effect. Needless to say, it killed my sex drive for the rest of the night, I never came and we never saw each other again.

So what's the moral of the story? COMMUNICATION is key!!!! After years of sex, I have finally figured it out (sorry folks, I'm a bit slow and a bit shy in bed). Good sex can happen when we find partners we are physically attracted to. Great sex happens when we express clearly to our partner our needs, fantasies, desires, likes, dislikes, etc. It is unfair to expect our partner to be a mind-reader and prove that they care by somehow knowing what we want without our having to tell them. Healthy sex comes out of healthy communication.

 2011-11-14 02:15:07