I've had a ton of fun messaging people on here so far! I've been asked a lot of questions and I'm loving all the conversations that have come up with you guys. I just wanted to kind of give some answers to some of the questions I've gotten so far for anyone interested. Not that I'm trying to put anyone off from messaging me and starting a conversation. Please keep the messages coming!
I get a few just genereal questions about myself so I'll give a brief little bio that the "about me" doesn't really allow room for. I'm an RN at an assisted living facility. I've also worked in a clinic for the health department. I do like my job, it's rewarding and I genuinely enjoy helping those who need a little extra help. I grew up in a smallish town in Illinois and moved to more of a small city close by when I was in Jr High. Now I live in a tiny little town in the same area. I like the quiet small town life and I'm not far from the city where I work and went to high school for the rare occassion when looking for something a little more exciting to do. I have a sister who's 4 years younger than me. I'm not currently in a relationship (at the time I'm writing this, there is a guy I met a little while ago who I've hung out with a few times and he's a lot of fun to be around, maybe something might develope there, maybe not lol).
Hobbies:
Believe it or not, a few people have asked me about what kind of things I like to do outside of the bedroom lol. My answers always feel generic (such is the life of a basic bitch lol). Books, movies, TV, music, all that good stuff. I go on a lot of walks around town and in the country. There's a few kind of quaint little towns in the area with cool downtowns and I like wandering into the coffee shops and like antique or consignment shops even though I usually don't buy anything lol. I do some crafting from time to time but nothing crazy.
Sex:
What am I into? In real life, it's a pretty simple answer. I'm usually pretty vanilla. I feel like that's kind of looked down on and seen as weird now which is weird to me because vanilla sex with someone you have a personal and emotional connection to is so so so much better than casual sex with just some dude whether there's some kink involved or not. That said, I do like some of the lighter kinky things when the mood strikes. Spanking and choking can be a lot of fun. When I feel like being more of a dirty lil slut, anal sex can be some good nasty fun lol. I'm on birth control but I absolutely melt when a man tells me he's gonna put his baby in me and cums inside of me. Most of the harder kinks are a definite no for me.
Does size matter/What's the perfect size? Yes, size does matter to an extent. Not all women can orgasm from penetration, but I'm one of the lucky ones that usually can. With a smaller penis, it doesn't happen for me as often if it all, average or big dicks make it a lot easier for me. Anything over a certain size is painful but not always necessarily bad. I know most guys add at least an inch when they say how big it is lol but I'm pretty good at actually guessing the size of things just from having to know measurements for some things with my job and some of the crafty stuff I like to do. I'd say around 7 or 7.5 inches and a little thicker than average is like perfect for me but like 6-8 is usually good and as long as it's over 5 inches and not like pencil thin it can be very good. I've been with a guy that was huge, over 9 inches (he actually had a pic with a tape measure lmao) and he wasn't very good. Someone more skilled might have been able to make it work out great but it was painful and just not enough pleasure with him. Seen and touching it and giving him head was a major tun on for me, though. Smaller guys can be good in bed if they know how to turn me on and are good at oral and hand stuff. Thickness is more important, I like feeling the pressure and just a little bit of feeling like I'm being stretched out. Huge dicks are mostly just amusing and fun to look at and play with (kind of like how guys are with big tits lol).
What kind of porn am I into? This is where I get more adventurous. I mostly like homemade or like amateur style porn lately (I've been into watching a lot of videos from pornstars's onlyfans just like shot on a cell phone or whatever recently. It feels more authentic and easier to kind of imagine yourself in the action I guess). I've watched a lot of professional stuff in the past and some of it is incredible, especially the Vixen/Blacked/Tushy all those super high quality videos. I pretty much just roll with whatever videos/pics I stumble across that seem interesting most of the time, just nothing that's like overly extreme. I'm typically more drawn to interracial stuff because the contrast is so hot to me. Usually black men and pale white women (I think a lot of that is just because there's soooo much of it) but white men and black women and basically any combination of races is good too. I think the kind of "taboo" aspect that comes with being from a small town full of white people plays into it too. Some of the things that I'm not interested in actually doing in real life but turn me on in porn are like gangbangs, group sex with bisexual or gay men, lesbian porn can be pretty hot although I wouldn't even really consider myself even bi, cuckold porn can be insanely fucking hot if I'm in the right mood for it. I like reading erotica and kind of lean toward some of the sci-fi stuff like mind control, so obviously nothing I'm going to be doing in real life lol.
How often do I masturbate? I'd say probably more than the average person. Usually like 3-5 times a week but I'll go on stretches of only doing it like a few times over 2 or 3 weeks or so. Sometimes if I don't have anything going on all weekend I'll light candles and all that and just goon the fuck out 4 times a day 2 days in a row lol. A lot of it depends on whether or not I'm sexually active at the time. Even if I'm having regular sex, I tend to masturbate the morning after a lot. I like to draw things out a bit and kind of tease myself by slowing down or stopping completely when I get close to orgasm. A guy I dated in college introduced me to that and the orgasms are so intense and mind-blowing when things build up like that.
What's on my sexual bucket list? Three-ways. I stop in quiet little hole-in-the-wall bars sometimes when I'm trying to kill time before meeting up with friends or whatever and I remember talking to a married couple where were both pretty hot and tipsy as fuck a few years ago. We had a conversation that got kind of flirty and ultimately ended up going nowhere but sometimes I think about how hot it would have been to go home with them and fuck them both. I also think it could be hot to involve another woman if I'm with a man kind of as a special thing to do for him moreso than myself. I kind of want to mess around in like semi-public areas. When I was in college I brought a guy back to my dorm pretty late after partying one night when I lived on like the 12th floor of the building and I pulled his cock out and jacked him off a little in the elevator. It was hot because there was that rush of being in a public place but not really risking being caught because there's plenty of time to react to it stopping before the doors open. If someone else got on they woulda just seen me and a guy with a pretty big boner sticking out in his pants, which it would have been pretty obvious we were going to hook up anyway lol. Just that kind of stuff where there's a rush of being in public but not really a risk of being caught and arrested lol. I don't know if I really keep much of a bucket list otherwise lol.
What got me into the whole BBC thing? I'm going to apologize now for the fucking thesis I'm probably about to write but I actually thought about this some lately before I even signed up here and I've gotten a surprising amount of messages about my interest in black men and interracial sex/relationships. First off, I feel like it's super important to separate the kink from the person. Like an interest in black men is just a preference on a level similar to an interest in tall men or blonde hair or curvy women. BBC is more of a stereotype (although, there is usually some truth behind stereotypes and that's how they get started) and obviously not always true and shouldn't be the expectation when dating a black man. As far as when the interest started, I can remember back to just talking with friends and one of the girls in my friend group just liked dating some of the black guys from another school (since we didn't really have any lol) and for her she just said it was because they were hotter and I guess usually just cooler and more charismatic and me and a couple other girls in the group were just like yeah, I can see that, she's preaching some truth there lol. The topic of size did come up and she said they definitely had bigger dicks than white guys but I wouldn't trust a girl who never hooked up with a white guy on that lol. I never made a point of just dating black guys like the other girl and maybe got a little more flirty with black guys than I had been before and dated a few black guys through high school and college. In college I started doing the whole short-term hookup thing and I guess I was more drawn to black men during that time but I was definitely still just open to anyone who I had a mutual interst with. The whole BBC thing is interesting and really just a porn thing because most black have average sized penises, just like any other race. It's weird because everyone in porn just has a big dick, it's not like it's only black pornstars walking around with giant cocks and everyone else is just average lmao. I do think that in my experience, it does seem like black guys are maybe a little bit more likely to have a big dick than most other races, but I'm not an expert on every penis in the world lol. Maybe it's just because I kind of had that subconscious interest in BBC that I was drawn toward black guys that had that kind of big dick energy type confidence to them, where with men of other races it was more about general attraction. The guy I mentioned having a giant cock in the paragraph about whether size matters is a black guy I met in college and like I said, the aesthetic of a big black cock is a big turn on for me but it really didn't make the sex any better and that huge penis would have been fun to play with if it were a different color anyway. I do feel like black men have a different sexual energy to them, but that's just something about me and definitely not something that would apply to all women. For me, when a black man takes on a dominant role in bed it just seems more effortless and believable than when some other men do it. I've been with men who knew my sexual interests and kinks and wanted to do those things with me and the personality just didn't match and it was honestly just kind of cringe but usually when a black man takes on that role with me it's just like an instant "yes daddy."
When did I lose my virginity? High school. Not really any older or younger than most of my friends. I really don't want to say much more because this seems like the kind of question that could have the wrong kind of fantasies attatched to it so just assume I didn't exist before I was 18 lol.
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