#1 THE BI-POLAR OPTION

 

First, using the term Bi-Polar to title this relationship dynamic has nothing to do with the mental condition; hope that doesn't irritate anyone.

 

Instead, I'm writing about the different relationship dynamics that I'm open to. In the course of chatting with women, I have found that I don't have a single sexual disposition... so I'm using this blog to flesh some of the various relationship types that interest me. Maybe this will help finding a match but, at a minimum, should at least sort through my intermixed desires. I'm not the type that needs any one specific thing or set of things; instead I'm wanting a woman to join me on a path which includes some deviant behaviors. The paths that I could both function in and that excite me are kind of numerous, so I'll start with this one first:

 

I'm calling this the Bi-Polar option because I have had one relationship in which my partner wanted to maintain Dominant/Submissive roles in and out of the bedroom; however, most women that like Dom/Sub dynamic seem to want the roles present during sex and live relatively "normal" lives outside of the bedroom.

 

Even though I'm only interested in women that have a high sex drive, perhaps even on the nymphomaniac end of the spectrum, I have no problem switching off a Dom/Sub dynamic outside of the bedroom and dialing it way up once the bedroom door closes.

 

To be clear though, for my Dominant side to be triggered, I do want a woman who either enjoys some level of degrading treatment, thrives on extreme sex, or a combination of both. Assuming all that matches up so far, how would it play out? I'd imagine it would be a relationship of very stark contradictions:

 

 Extreme Sex

• You could expect to be spoiled with affection and love in normal life, but in return you'd be expected to endure some rough treatment. Having your pussy pumped for extended periods of time, hot wax on your breasts, nipples, ass, and clitoris, having your breasts bound with them being freed only after acheiving a dark purple color, or perhaps having your inner and outer labia being exposed to stinging nettle (light brushing at first and heavy rubbing as you gain experience and pain control).
• I might surprise you with a generous gift for some acheivement in your normal life, but behind closed doors you might be punished month after month for failing to handle a proper sized dildo (maybe in the 10+ inches range). However, after five consecutive demonstrations of handling its entire length, you'll be rewarded with a trip to a car dealership to pick out a favorite new model for yourself. Enduring and embracing punishment long enough will be rewarded.

 Degrading Acts

• So I would treat you with the greatest respect and perhaps make a point to demonstrate this around our family and friends; but behind the bedroom door, I'd be inclined to tie you up, blindfold you, and allow a small number of my close friends and coworkers to have a turn with you. You would, of course, know all of them quite well from normal social settings, but would have no earthly idea which one of them was penetrating you, nor would I ever reveal the identities of the privileged few.. Your only comfort would be that the actual perpetrators would never reveal themselves to you or betray your privacy.
• We might go about our days and evenings...