One of the things that fetishists and fantasies tend to create is expectations. These are generally unreal and pander to the fantasies of those addicted to porn and masturbation fantasies. Let me sketch a scenario.

You wife goes and sees a bull. He is respectful of you, he is respectful of her, treats her right, is funny, charming, attractive, dresses to impress, treats her like a lady he is trying to seduce.

When she gets back from seeing him, her face is still red, makeup smudged, her hair is a mess, she tells you she's been stretched and she can hardly keep her thighs together and her legs are wobbly. She thinks everyone in the Air B&B heard the bed posts cracking holes in the alls over her screams. She tells you she loved doing the slut "walk of shame" from thelobby to the car because it was so sexy with this guy and she basically wanted to show off who had banged her into a noisy senseless jelly.

Yeah, the problem here is that you have to kind of sort through the chaff to find this guy.

For every one like him...

There is the one who demands nudes in his first DM and sends unsolicited dick pics (guys you turn a girl straight off with that - it's the short quick route to block city). The ones who think that "hotwife" is the same as "sure thing" anddoesn't bother to try and seduce her and charm her...

He stands her up on the first date. Yes some guys talk the talk online and when it gets to the time to meet your girl they disappear.

And then we recently had this charmer...

He was charming online, a bit young (under 30)... at the first meet they had he was reasonably charming, they made out in the parking lot and he was a little too frisky but wife held him at bay. Second date he was more behaved. Respectful but pushy of her boundaries. We both ascribe this to youth... kind of hope this is an indication of an insatiable appetite. He also suggests this in DMs.Playdate time. At his place. Okay "his" place. She arrives... the place is a mess. She's wearing sexy clothes and lingerie but he's i... the sweats and shirt he obviously slept in... he's hair is a mess, his breath smells like it wasn't brushed... he starts to make her cheap instant coffee in the messy kitchen... then orders her to "suck my dick"... she does... and discovers a dick about the size of my middle finger... when it's hard... she's kind of okay with that because she always chokes on mine so it's quite easy... he blows his load inside 30 seconds... He takes about fifteen minutes to recover so they can quietly make out and he can make her coffee. Then off to one of the bedrooms. The bed's unmade... Now he wants to take her from behind. My girl is a big booty thick thighs skinny waist girl... so middle finger dick can't get to the nice parts so she turns around and he jackhammers away at her and keeps asking if she's cum... eventually to make him stop she feigns an orgasm... he pulls out and masturbates... cums on her stomach... lays down next to her for a  minute and gets up... comes back... she thought he'd fetch her a towel...no... she asks and he brings some toilet paper.... she wipes off and he lies next to her and says:

"Okay you gotta go now before my mom gets home."

Also demands she delete all the photos which show him... luckily she's already sent me most and I am already wondering what pleasure my wife derived from what was clearly a very small dick.

 When she gets home she immediately takes me to our bedroom, locks the door, to the bathroom... and says

"For the love of god please fuck me properly..."

I oblige her... 

She discusses this with her experienced bull.

He's tells her not to judge hotwifing by one bad experience.

I agree.

She's had some great dates and play dates. She's had enormous fun with other guys and I have enjoyed it with her.

 Wife needs an out... luckily he provides it.

Messages her about what a great time he had.  She is polite about it and figns having fun with him. Then he asks proof she deleted the pictures. She tells him she did but she shared them all with me (this was agreed to before they even met). She tells him he agreed to pictures. He says he's changed his mind and he's scared the hotos end up on social media....

Wife loses it

"Do you actually think I want pictures of me being fucked by a little pencil dicked twat to end up on social media???"

End of contact.

The bottom lone of this experience is that not all experiencs are enjoyable. It's pretty much like life. Some times good and some times not so good.

And in the vast ocean of human existence there are good fish and not so good fish. Ones that disguise themselves as good fish and aren't and some that look bad but are good. This is the excitement of variety in life.

Luckily my wife has chalked this up as a laughable experience and warned herself to be more careful in future. This is her second poor experience with a younger guy so she has now said that Under 35s is a no-no. I agree.

But remember the idea is to bring you and your wife closer together. For you and her to enjoy all the sides to the adventure. good, bad and funny...

At the end of the night when you turn off the bedside lamp... she's in your arms, in your bed and she's yours.

Have fun out there...

And beware of pencil dick boys