It is a common fantasy for men to want to fuck their mothers. They may not admit to it or talk about it, but it is just the way it is. There are many reasons why it happens, but the reasons are not that important because for most situations, how to make it a reality is pretty much the same. For some cases it requires a more manipulative method. We don’t condone manipulation so we will keep that information far from public view.

There are a few facts you need to come to terms with.

1.       Your mother is a woman just like any other woman. Think about all the single moms out there or married ones. They are just women. Your mom is part of that group. There is nothing special about her.

2.       Getting someone beyond the taboo of sex between a son and mother requires desensitizing. This is done through exposure until it becomes fairly normal and no longer emotionally upsetting.

3.       Depending on the value structure of your mother the time and effort can vary greatly. For some it can happen within six months, for others years. It is based on the time you can expose them to the idea and how disciplined they are when keeping to social rules.

4.       Fucking your mother is not for the timid and cowardly. It takes courage and focus. It is the rarest of incest and the man needs to be the one to initiate the relationship. Not only are you trying to get in a relationship with a woman, which can be hard in itself, but you are trying to get into one with an older woman that still sees you as a child.

5.       If you are not confident in your ability to make it happen it will not happen. You need to be sure of yourself and be a rock.

6.       You must change the power structure from her being the highest level of authority to you being the leader. You will meet opposition when you do this, but it must be done.

7.       Don’t rush anything. Rushing will cause failure. You will know when to make your move and to escalate the interaction to more physical means.

Keep all these things in mind. You must enter this venture with 100% commitment or it will fail. Expect your relationship to change whether sex happens or not. It could end with her thinking you are sick and twisted, or her becoming mentally ill and depressed, or it could end with a very tight bond that will never be broken. There are risks to everything and the relationship you currently have you must be willing to sacrifice.

STEPS:

Step 1: spend more time with her. Go out shopping, dining, visiting places, sight seeing, etc. When you do this give her a nickname and have her call you by something other than what you usually go by. The words “son, mom, proper names” or anything that reminds her of your biological relationship and history needs to be put to the side.

Do not discuss family business when you are together. Tell her when you go out you don’t want to talk about any family or past experiences. It is you and her spending time together as adults getting to know each other on a different level. There is only one time this is permissible which will be discussed in the next step.

STEP 2: become physical. This needs to happen fairly naturally and not too forward. It should be fairly innocent but it needs to happen. She needs to get used to you touching her in a romantic way. The positive thing about this is mothers often do romantic touching with their children unknowingly. Meaning, it is common for them to hold their hands, give them a kiss goodnight, hugging, etc.

When you take her out to eat somewhere, quickly run to her side of the car and open the door for her. Reach in and grab her hand to help her out. Tell her, “give me your hand” then help her out. Close the door behind her. If you are taking a walk just grab her hand. If she looks at you funny or says what are you doing, remind her that she held your hand when you were younger and there is nothing wrong with it. Do not hold it in a way that would be anything other than innocent.

Talk about something to get her mind off the fact you are holding her hand. When you greet each other and say goodbye to each other always come in for a hug. Initiate it. When you say goodbye during the hug kiss her cheek and say, “I love you.” Leave it at that. keep the word “mom” out of your mouth or you will not be able to have your mom in your mouth.

When walking her to her seat at a restaurant hold her lower back as if to guide her. Keep everything as if it is just reflex and you don’t mean anything by it. If she ever protests about you touching her it is because it makes her think sexually about your actions. This is good because what you are doing is causing the exposure to break down the taboo. When she does this respond with a certain level of disgust and rejection. “I didn’t mean anything by it, it is just reflex and feels right to me. I didn’t expect you to reject me by just showing my affection and care for you.”

Step 3: Be on the lookout for shit tests: Your mother is a woman and will shit test you as it is within their nature. She won’t even know she is doing it. When she starts having thoughts and feelings about you that she feels she shouldn’t she will start talking about things to create distance. “Are you still dating that one girl? She seemed like a nice girl. You should spend time with her.” When this happens it is her trying to create distance between her feelings, thoughts, and the situation.

“I no longer see her. To be honest I can’t trust her and she doesn’t even know me. She is boring and can’t have a good conversation like we do. She doesn’t know the first thing about love and emotion.”

This will probably cause her to double down, “Well, you need to find someone that does.” This is when you can drop an uncomfortable reality on her, “Why when I have you?” this will probably be replied with, “I can’t be your girlfriend.” Or “I’m your mom.” Which is her reasoning why a sexual relationship is not permitted. This is important. It does not mean she isn’t willing to do it, it means that is the inner dialogue she hears that is stopping her from moving forward. This is the wall you must break down. With exposure it will shatter to pieces.

STEP 4: exposure and breaking down the walls. Before we go over that, keep in mind that people behave when they think someone is around that will judge them. If your mom thinks others will judge her she wont do anything. If she thinks God will judge her, she won’t do anything. If she thinks no one will ever know and it is safe, she is yours. You need to create the environment where she feels safe being herself and honest. This takes time because she still is trying to keep up appearances as a good mother and hiding things from you.

Bringing things up that show a public consensus helps reduce the anxiety and fear of judgment. Write a reddit post with random facts that seem odd but are true and about mid way through them drop this tid bit which is not true, but forces her to rethink her perspective on the matter. Read it as if someone else posted it. You are only using it as a means to break down walls. These are actually true, but 5 is manipulated a bit. Adjust it as you wish.

“4. if you could fold a piece of paper 42 times it would reach the moon.

5. In many parts of the world it is legal to marry your own mother. Pregnancy is not permitted by law. In Italy it is so common they legalized it.

6. Moses was a product of incestual relationships. His mother was also his aunt.

Etc.”

Discuss things you wouldn’t with your mother like sexual experiences. Destroy the wall between mother and son by stepping over boundaries. Any time she shows rejection to the idea stand firm on your position that anything can be discussed, and you are just speaking truths which should not offend anyone. That you feel comfortable with her enough to tell her anything.

Drop hints by mentioning things like Freud stating men seek relationships with women that remind them of their mother. Then say you think it is true because you compare all women to her. If they don’t meet the standard then they are not good enough for you. She will probably say that she is flawed or something similar, when she does just state with confidence, “you are my ideal” and leave it at that. You can change the subject right after.

Keep dropping little things about her being your ideal, you are seeking someone like her, etc. If you think she would not freak out by doing so, and the walls have been dropped enough you can mention how for years you kept having the same dream where you two were married and the relationship was perfect in every way. Then the dreams stopped and you began dreaming of camping all the time.

She will begin to think you want to fuck her, and this is good, but you need to keep it a subject that you are confident in and firm without letting her disapproval limit the discussion. The more this happens over a period of time the more she will think about it until she also has dreams about a relationship with you and sexual fantasies that go along with it. Her fantasies, dreams, and thoughts will expose her to the idea and over time she will destroy her own walls.

STEP 5: Taking it to the next level. Over time it will feel safer to cross another boundary. Do this in baby steps. One good way is when holding her hand and telling her something meaningful about how you feel about her simply pickup her hand and kiss the back of it. Then go about your way like it never happened.

If someone ever comes up to you while you are together and asks a question like, “Are you here to see the show?” pull her close to you like she is your date and say, “Yes, my wife wanted to see the show and for our anniversary I got us tickets.” This is also a good time to kiss her cheek or hand in front of the person. It appears like you are fucking with someone and it will get a laugh, but she will have had her son be innocently intimate with her in front of other people. She will see their reaction was nonjudgmental and gives it a green light.

Try to get her to dance with you if music is playing. If you are walking near an area where music is playing just grab her and begin to slow dance as if you are just being playful. The more she is used to you touching her and guiding the interaction the more she will allow it without resistance.

The goal here is to keep upping the ante until you finally get a kiss on the lips. This is not to be an open kiss yet. It is an innocent kiss. You will know when it is time to go for it. If your mother drinks, after a night out at dinner where you are pumping wine down her throat, at the end of the night with your goodbye hug just lean in and kiss her on the lips as if it was normal. Then say, “goodnight I love you.” And after the first one it can become normal. Break down the barriers slowly but surely. With each barrier broken the closer you are to bedding your mom.

STEP 6: The problem. Once again, during a night out or when things are going well drop the truth on her. This is something you do not want to rush. After she has had a few drinks and is relaxed is the best time. You will know when it is permissible.

“I am going to tell you something that I don’t want you to freak out about. The more time I spend with you the more I realize you really are my soul mate. I think about you all the time. You are the first thought of mine in the morning and the last thought of mine at night. You make me feel complete and happy when I am with you and I get to spend time with you. I personally don’t see this as a problem because what I feel is real, but I am worried it is one sided which breaks my heart.”

That is a lot for her to process. She will mention her reservations like she is your mother or it is wrong etc. This is when you need to reject those values. “I disagree completely with that position. You don’t get to choose who you fall in love with, nor who is your ideal. That is social conditioning talking. There is nothing wrong with an intimate relationship between two adults.”

She may think it would be a good idea for you two to not spend that much time together any more. This once again is trying to create a distance where she won’t be tempted. Realize her objections are her trying not to spread for you, and not that you are on the wrong path. She is trying to protect herself from doing something she will judge herself for.

This is a crucial time in the venture. This is when you need to still spend time with her and do the touching as you got her used to. Now when you do it, she will see it as not innocent any longer. She will see it as you making your moves on her. So expect apprehension and rejection of it. When she does this, just tell her to quit being silly and do it any way. This is saying to her, “You can’t fight this or run from it. You know it is just a matter of time before it happens.” This will make her uncomfortable, but that will go away the more you do it. She will see it is safe over time even though she knows it is not innocent but sexual and intimate in nature.

STEP 7: Going in for the kill. After she has got to the point of not rejecting the touching even thought she knows you are wanting a relationship with her, and she is being more receptive of it, you know it is safe to take it to the next level which is the kiss that means something. You will know when the time is right.

Unless she is more aggressive about it, then leave it as an intimate kiss and just say, “Wow, that was intense. The best kiss I ever had,” then go about what you were doing beforehand. This gives her something to think about and she will keep reliving it over and over and fighting with herself. She will have mixed emotions and may protest stating it can never happen again. This is because she knows if it does, then her spreading will soon follow. Once again reject it and tell her she is being silly.

You have to expect a lot or rejection during this entire venture. Ignore it an continue. The rejection is a wall that is about to be destroyed. If you agree to the rejection everything you worked for is lost.

If she does not reject it and just shows concern, then you are in. Don’t go from intimate kiss straight to fucking her. This needs to happen a few times before you grab her waist. Then after a few times you can feel her up.

A few times of doing this usually is enough for you to be able to take it to where you want. If you make a move too quickly she will pull away and you will be in a bad spot. Everything is timing and patience. The day you can grab ass or tits is the day she is giving you the green light. BUT the amount of foreplay must be more than you ever have done before. Only focusing on her. Pay attention to her neck while kissing and show your strength by lifting her up if possible or holding her tightly. You want to hear her pant before you go to the next level.

Depending on the location, you may have to just be happy with the intimate make out session. Save your boner for another time. This also allows her to think more about it which is going to help you, but also have her try one last time to reject it. Getting past that last rejection is the key to an open sexual relationship with your mother.

If you are alone in your home, you can take it as far as you want. When your mom id on your bed and she is letting you call the shots it is the best feeling and most intense sexual experience you will ever have. The first time needs to be all about getting her to the highest level of passion.

There will be remorse and guilt after you have any kind of sexual activity with your mom. It is important to reject it, and tell her that everything is ok and you did nothing wrong. That you were meant for each other and everyone else can go fuck them selves. That she is the only one you want, and you will not stop until she is completely yours. Your mind is made up.

Your confidence in all of this is what she will lean on and look to for leadership. She will had been thrown into a world that is uncertain and scary for her. Always act like everything is perfect and nothing bad is going to happen. It is your little secret.

STEP 8: the relationship. Focus on the relationship as much as possible. Take her out and praise her more and tend to her more. Give her unconditional love and reward her for giving in to her emotions and sexual desires. Spend time with her emotionally and have her stay the night at your place often.

Soon she will be acting somewhere between a mom, girlfriend, wife, and lover. After you are able to have sex with her a few times and the fear goes away, you can start calling her mom again which adds a level of excitement to the sex. Treat her like any other girlfriend and create boundaries that she should not cross in order for her to maintain respect for you.

When she is at your place, she should have her own little section of the house that you would give a wife or girlfriend. Her side of the bed, her makeup area, her closet, etc. When she is there she should expect sex and over time will be the best girlfriend you will ever have.

This is not a complete how to on how to fuck your mom, but if you do these things it will happen for the majority of men. Some mothers are simply too difficult to work with, but the average mother will spread for her son if he puts the time and work in. How bad do you want to fuck your mom? If it is bad enough you can make it happen.