So what my wife and I had established was

Now she needed a safe space within which to discover and grow her newfound confidence in her own attractiveness and sexuality.

The bar scene was out. It seemed sleazy to her.

She was also very afraid people might recognize her and this would compromise our relationship, her job and the view people have of us in our community.

I then hit upon the idea of dating apps. Surprisingly, there are a number of dating apps which cater specifically for people like us. At first my wife was reticent. This was not something she felt comfortable with. But research I did showed her that we could join anonymously, pair as a couple and she could then flirt with men from all over the world with no possible comebacks for her.

We then downloaded and created profiles on

Feeld
3Fun
SDC
#Open
OKCupid

We registered as a couple and indicated that we were new to a hotwifing stag relationship and just testing waters to see where we went. I used sexy but heavily edited photos of both of us for our profiles.

And this is where it went.

We eventually settled on Feeld.

My intention was just one thing at this stage. For her to get a feel for flirting. And for this I wanted to give her an anonymous chat platform where she could do so. Nothing more than that.

Men literally flocked to like my wife's profile and ask for connections.

She had all sorts.

The lonely ones looking for a chat and some attention.

The pushy types who thought that a girl connecting with them on Feeld meant a sure thing and started sending dick pics straight away demanding similar.

The married ones looking for an affair

The couples looking for advice on spicing up their sex lives.

The couples lookingfor a threesome partner.

We had to ver them carefully and anyone who got too frisky too quickly was blocked.

Eventually she had about 6-7 ones she felt were hot enough and fitted her criteria for guys she'd like to chat to.

She and I shared the chats and we were very turned on. We had crazy sex. She told me what she would do with the guys she was chatting to.

I watched as chats became more and more racy and risque.

They started sharing pictures. Wife of her ample bottom and thighs awith her small waist. I had to take pictures. Of her deep cleavage in the push up bras. She took close ups of her eyes, of her face with hair strewn across it so only lips were visible.

This is where I lost control. It was like she became addicted to the power, to the attention, to the lust of other men over her.

Initially her and I had set aside aftre dinner and kids to sleep to chat. Initially she'd wanted me to help her think of clever sexy things to say that were flirty.

Eventually she was chatting day and night, taking screen shots and sharing to me if things were particularly hot and at night letting me read her chats.

The power, the attention, the flirting absolutely consumed her. She was heady with a feeling of desire, being desired and sexiness at all the attention showered on her. She was literally turned on all the time and her and I had fantastic repeated sex almost daily... not bad for two over 45s! It was like when she was 19 and I was 22 and we had just started dating... any time alone was an excuse for sex. She devoured the attention and craved and hunted more and more. 

In the end she singled out one black guy.

He was about five years younger than her, also a business exec like her, single (divorced) and the two of them seemed to have a pretty decent chemistry. He was also polite and respectful while being cleverly flirty and sexy. This appealed to her. My wife has awesome sleuthing skills so she trawled every social media to find him and eventually she did manage to identify him, his position and where he worked.

In the meantime he had convinced her to move their chats off the app and onto Whats-App where the social media system permitted far greater flexibility in chat.

Within about two weeks he wanted to meet her. She was very keen but she wanted me to consent. I readily did but set some boundaries. Had to be a safe space, lots of people, and she needed to keep her  keep her phone close by, emergency service beacon activated for one button and her location shared at all times till they finished.

He also agreed with this.

They agreed that a morning coffee shop meet up just outsid a busy office suburb would be best.

Note that this going from

"I'm not sure about this"

to

"I want to meet up with him in person"

took just two weeks.

It took me almost two years to get to the point where she was willing to flirt anonymmously with other men on an online dating app chat.

It took her just two weeks to arrange a first meet with one of them.

And you can read about their first meet up here ....

She met him on the Friday... and the next Wednesday they were banging away like bunnies whilst I listened in on her phone and got sent little short videos and pictures of what they were up to...