If you read my previous entries about how we got into this, yu will know that it was a slow almost two year process for my wife to warm to the idea of sleeping with other men.

Just to recap how I did it. I am not saying this will work for everyone. This is what worked for me.

Step 1

Make her more sexy. Most wives in their late 30s and in their 40s onwards do not feel good about themselves and my wife is no exception. he first step was to assure her that her appearance was fine. This involved lots of positive reassurance, and slowly getting her to wear sexier clothes. As she did her confidence increased and eventually you will see men start to look at her. When this happens it is vital to point it out to her so she sees she is desirable. Keep reassuring her that she is yours and yours alone BUT that it is a massive trun on that other men look at her.

 Step 2

NO CONFESSION nonsense. This will leave a married, secure woman horrified. Rather slowly approach the subject through subtle hints and ideas. Mine was to use dildos and vibrators to turn her on and ask her to tell me about previous boyfriends and guys hitting on her after we were married and telling her then that I found the idea that other guys saw her as hot and attractive and sexually appealing as a massive turnon. Let her take sexy selfies and then make a huge fuss over how sexy she is. Eventually you can tentatively ask her to imagine it was one of the guys hitting on her who was having sex with her. You can do this during sex. When she is close to orgasm and super turned on. Then ask her to imagine and suggest she tell you what she'd do. In my case I followed this up by sexy little additions, like when she told me what she would do with the guy, I'd call her a little cock slut. I'd tell her she couldn't help but want cock. I'd wait til she was very close to cumming and then tell her she couldn't help but be a little slut for me. She just wanted cock and she just wanted to cum. I even once told her not to cum while I was pounding her and she was very close... then when she did told her "See, you are a little cock slut... your pussy can't help but cum for a cock even if you don't want it to."

 Step 3

 Rolelay.  In my wife's case I told her I had an extremely sexy dream about a Kenyan she picked up at a bar after her and I basically went man hunting at an international business travellers luxury hotel near the airport in our city. Once I told her the dream, I made sure to tell her I definitely did not want her doing something like that at all. This reassiured her. However I told her i was immensely turned on by the idea and wanted to roleplay the scenario because it turned me on SO MUCH to imagine it happening. She readily agreed to something naughty and adventurous. Aferwards I debriefed her and she told me elements she did not like and what she did like. As an example, a kind of cuckolding position I took up by locking my cock in a chastity cage and pretending to lick the Kenyan's cum from her was something she did not like at all (neither did I for that matter). Nevertheless when I asked her if we could play again if I had a similar fantasy, she was keen, provided we did not do the stuff she did not like.

Step 4

Actual in real life flirting. In this environment I specially chose someone whom I suspected would react positively, and directed my wife's conduct so that could appear to flirt using her clothes and body language but without saying anything. It was kind of a dare, rather than an out and out sort of task I set her. This made it something sexy she and I were naughtily doing together without anyone knowing so she loved it and she loved telling me about it. As it was it worked. Using just body language and an intentionally chosen sexy outfit every dy she totally bewitched a work colleague whom she never thought would react to her. But, her and I planned it in such a way that she could plausibly deny it.  The last step of the dare, to let him touch her, was something she could not go through with at that time so we left it. Nevertheless the poor man has since repeatedly sought to find out whether there was something, and if possible, reignite it. Wife has not indulged him at all. It is a work situation and as a senior exec she cannot be seen to be engaging in anything more than mild flirting.

Step 5

With her confidence in her appearance soaring, her own certainty in her sexiness at such a level that she'd tell me guys were checking her out even in her car while she was in traffic and her dress sense a decidedly revealing and sexy on, the next step is to get her to actually flirt.

But like with all the other situations where we went down this path, it needed to happen in a way where it was an adventure for both of us and she felt safe.

And I found a way, though even this, was a little difficult to get her to try... though when she did... and found her inner slutty flirt... SHE WENT FOR IT