I am stopping our journey here for a bit to offer advice.

I have seen many comments on my pictures where guys express the wish for their wives to somehow be a hotwife in a wistful way that suggests it will never happen.

ou're right. If you keep wishing it will never happen.

Do not for one instant believe my wife just fell into this. This was a journey. And it took time, and dedication and lots of nudging and talking.

I believe only the sluttiest of wives who already harbour the desire will readily jump at the chance to sleep with someone else.

Let me make it 100% clear that my wife was not one of those. She comes from a politically liberal but socially conservative family. In her family they mate for life (a lieral saying in her family) and remain 100% loyal after that.

That is the basis from which I started.

From the word go I knew that simply confessing what I wanted her to do was never ever going to work. First I had to nudge her and second it had to be her idea eventually. So first word of advice... don't go spilling your heart and head straight for the  jugular and tell her you want her to bang other guys. It'll end in heartbreak for you and she'll be horrified.

Now, just as an example I will sketch a short timeline of achievements

I'm running the fantasy and the controlling things

July 2021 - tell her I was turned on because an underling tried to pick her up at a work function.

December 2021 - Start to convenice her she is hot and needs to dress the part.

January - February 2022 - change all her lingerie to very sexy things

June 2022 - Start to buy clothes that are more form fitting and make her look sexy.

July 2022 - Tells me how she has notice attention from men.

November 2022 - We roleplay the Kenyan scenario*

January 2023 - We roleplay a bar pickup

March 2023 At work she flirts with and almost seduces someone she finds hot**

June 2023 -  I suggest we try apps to get a flirty chat going - just chat and nothing more

Last week of August 2023 - She finally downloads hook up apps focused on hotwife/vixen and registers

This is where she gets into it and enjoys it

First week of September 2023 - She focuses on one guy and they chat on the app

15 September 2023 - she and him exchange telephone number and start t(s)exting directly

21 September 2023 - Meet Bull for coffee and they kiss

27 September 2023 - Meet bull alone at his house - lots of heavy petting but no sex

4 October 2023 - Meets bull at his house alone and they fuck each other senseless

13 October 2023 - Meets bull alone at upmarket hotel for afternoon of fucking each other senseless.

 So see, the reason why I set the timeline is to see.

The idea is to get your wife to play along with you. To make her comfortable to play. To give her space to explore and play with the idea in her head. To help you realize your fantasy.

You see no wife is willingly going to go out and fuck other guys because you said so. The better approach is to slowly ease into it. To allow her space to see that this is an adventure for both of you to go on. This is something new sexy spicy that you can both enjoy together.

Once she makes the mind switch that this IS something that SHE ALSO wants... well get ready for the ride of your life.

For me things that blew my mind were seeing videos my wife naked riding another man's cock with his hand on her one breast and her wedding ring hand on her other breast with wedding ring dispayed, her on her back, fat thighs*** up on his shoulders and him hammering away like a jackhammer at her pussy while she moans and gasps and heaves and him telling her how sexy and hot she is, his dark body against her pale one both hungrily writhing in voracious sexual bliss,  them rolling around on a bed half naked and her wedding ringed left hand reaching down and grabbing his cock, him greedily ripping her pants off, him telling her how wet her pussy was, her loud moans and gasps, and her getting home on 13 October very clearly having been fucked senseless, with her hair a mess, her makeup all smudged, her cheeks still blushed and smelling like sweat and another man... and then I took her right there... she took a shower and we ate out dinner, came home and I took her again... because that is how absolutely totally sexy it was for me.

If this is really what you want that better be what you should be ready for. Watching or listening to your wife getting fucked by another guy.****

When she is done and she comes back to you, she needs LOTS of reassurance and love and attention and positive reinforcement. Even now mine is constantly seeking my reassurance that I am okay with what she did, so your lines of communication, your bond of love, your chemistry and marriage MUST be 100% secure.

 * I wrote about the scenario in another blog post.

** I planned this out for her and it almost worked, but at that stage my only intention was to show her she can. It was a HUGE mindset change for her in terms of her view of her own sexuality and attractiveness. I will write a post about it later. She was not prepared to let it go all the way given it was at work and could have professional repercussions for her.

*** Only I get to say she has a thick ass and fat thighs... but her thick ass and fat thighs are like a magnet... and when I say fat, I mean big juicy pale and smooth

**** Neither the bull nor I are ready for me to be actually present while they are playing. I am quite happy at this stage for voicenotes, sound recordings, photographs and video clips of them playing. My wife actually has found that she LOVES watching and listening to herself and it makes her VERY aroused!