While I didn't have the biggest dick in the world, it was over 6 inches and would stay hard forever.  My wife loved it.    Then, after some prostate issues, it changed.  At first it would get hard but not stay hard long enough to fuck her.  I could get it in, but it would soften up and fall out, very frustrating.  She was always good and supportive, never complained.  But she was clearly not satisfied and rarely asked for sex.  It was about a year later and I wasn't even getting hard at all, not even to masturbate.  My 6+ inch cock was a little 1 1/2 inch nub.  We would cuddle, and she would tell me it was OK, but things were not super passionate. 

Then, at the beginning of this year, I decided that if my cock wasn't going to be used, it may as well be locked up.  I purchased my first chastity cage and showed it to her.  I explained that since we weren't using it, she should lock it up.  We had a long discussion about it and that night she made me put it on.  Well, our cuddle session was very good that night.  She played with my caged cock and alternated between teasing and acting concerned for me.  Very sexy and that was it, we were into the chastity lifestyle.  I quickly purchased a smaller cage, and then another, and another and another and she kept loving it.  Our sessions turned into very sensual massages for her.  Every single night she would tease me with her ass and whisper dirty things to me before she lay face down and I massaged her.  I already have a foot thing, and now I finished every night by giving her feet special attention.  I give her long massages, sometimes over 1 1/2 hours, with half of that just on her feet. She allowed me to relieve myself after 10 days the first time.  I used my thumb and fingers and was able to shoot a little cum all over her as she encouraged me.  The next time it was almost three weeks before she suggested it, I was careful to not ask.  I had realized that I had new clarity and focus on her, helping around the house.  I never minded doing chores, but now I made sure to do as much as I could to make her life easy.  I realized that after I came, I lost that focus for a day or two.  I suggested that she not allow me to cum, that she forced me to have a ruined orgasm.  The next time it was 5 weeks.  She had me sit on her facing her and rub my little nub and let her know when I was about to cum. When I told her I was ready, she made me stop and put the cage back on.  It was too much, I leaked out so much cum as I put it on, but the beautiful part was I remainded frustrated sexually, but focused on her.  That was months ago and since then I was allowed to try to fuck her for my birthday with a little success and lots of hard work on her part and I was allowed two other ruined orgasms. 

I am down to a tiny, almost flat cage, and the next one will be ordered shortly.  I have only missed giving her a massage 5 nights this year, when I was out of town.  Our sex life has never been better!  She gets oral from me everytime she tells me to and I get incredible satisfaction out of rubbing her and making her feel great every night.  last month I purchased a 7 inch dildo that fit in her strapon (yes, she has fucked my ass) and I used it to fuck her.  Wow, she loved it and I couldn't stop leaking.  I actually orgasmed fucking her without ejaculating.  I told her we needed to call my strapon something she we know the difference and she immediately said "well that is definitely a cock" and you only have a penis.  She started calling it my PeePee Vs my Cock.  She has told me several times now to get my cock and fuck her.  Things have never been this good in all of our years together.  Yes, my penis never gets hard and is always locked up except when cleaning.  She loves the difference in my behavior around the house and really appreciates it along with the massages.  We are closer now as a couple then we have been since we dated. 

I sometimes miss having a hard cock and ejaculating, but I wish we had tried chastity sooner as the change in my attitude is remarkable.  We have also moved into a moderate level Female Led Relationship.  She always took care of the finances, but now I try to defer to her on most things.  I work hard at things such as always getting the door for her.  She orders my food when we are out, I check with her before I do things to make sure she is OK with it and remind her daily that she is in charge and she only needs to ask and I will do it for her.  I treat her like a queen!  I want to share this because if someone reads this who may be struggling with ED or relationship issues, the chastity lifestyle is a very good choice.  Read more about chastity on Reddit.  There are multiple sub reddits such as Chastitytraining that give great advice.  Thanks for reading all of this, it's a lot but not all I wanted to say.