******************* UPDATE 3/19 ***********************

Just a lil something I found ... Thought it was appropriate.

Doms DO NOT actually own their Subs. Their submission is a gift to you and can set any boundaries and conditions that they want. That's called consent. Consent is sexy. Consent is cool. Consent is all important. And if a submissive is upset with any part of a power exchange they are in no way a "bad submissive" for speaking the fuck up and establishing that damn boundary. The feelings of BOTH parties are important. Communication is vital. And Doms.... FFS... Doms pay fucking attention to your partner. It's literally your whole damn job is to pay attention. If your sub partner is upset - it should be your responsibility to 1) notice and 2) figure out why and how to help correct the situation. Everybody makes mistakes (fuck I still make TONS of mistakes) but strive to always do better. Always make sure you are watching the feelings of your partners. Take check points. Ask if things are going well and if everyone is okay. You have an upper hand. They have gifted you themselves and made vulnerable hidden things. That vulnerability can both entice, please, and bring joy but it can also hurt, depress, and devastate when used incorrectly. Eyes open. Be better. Like most of us, I come here to escape from the real world and get some sexual pleasure as well. As much as I am into BDSM and am Dominant, by no means how I interact with anyone here is a true representation of who I really am, just like most of you. Examples... The good wife and mother at home who comes here to be a Domme, slut/whore or anything else in between. The "18" year olds who come here for "Daddy" or the 60 year olds who come here for the young 20 year old stud. The CEO of a company (m or f) who has to tell everyone else what to do all day everyday, comes here to be told what to do in his/her submissive game. All and anything I do is and should always be COMPLETELY consensual (that includes being called names, being tied up, slapped, etc, etc...). But as much as Ive had some playmates tell me, "Oh yes, slap me, degrade me, choke me, beat me, etc, etc...", after playing (and giving you what you want & ask for), suddenly I'm no longer someone they choose to interact with....and I cant understand why. So if we have played and anything I did, said or whatnot, please let me know but don't walk away and not interact with me. Thank you all for letting me vent...