And that's where people, in my opinion, have a fundamental issue understanding the meaning of the title.

So let me help you with that.

1. A Dom does not demand respect. He conducts himself in such a way as to be worthy of respect.
2. A Dom does not bark commands. His presence is such that He can seduce and command with nothing more than a few words.
3. A Dom does not raise his voice. He is the kind of man who gets what He wants without needing to.
4. A Dom is not a braggart. He is possessed of a calm, quiet confidence that is evident in His demeanor, the way He walks, the      tone of His voice, and all other aspects of Him.
5. A Dom understands balance. He knows that while a firm hand and discipline are critical in this type of relationship, knowing when to be gentle and understanding is every bit as important.
6. A Dom is a gentleman first and foremost. That doesn't necessarily mean that He is a fancy man who values the finer things in life, but He does understand manners and protocol. He opens the car door for her. He orders for her if she
is having trouble deciding. He treats strangers with courtesy and respect.
7. A Dom is a protector. He makes sure that His submissive feels safe and protected at all times. This means so much more than just telling her you will protect her. A Dom shows her. He keeps a hand on her shoulder or on her waist in
crowds so she doesn't get nervous. He sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door so that He is always between His submissive and an intruder. He walks on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street so that an errant vehicle
will hit Him before His submissive. If anything or anyone should threaten His submissive, He must be prepared to fight for her with the ferocity of an Alpha Wolf.
8. A Dom earns her submission. It is not a thing to be demanded, expected, or assumed. And He continues to earn it, each and every day.
9. A Dom values her submission. Fully submitting your will and trusting your body and well-being to someone takes a kind of strength most can't imagine, and a Dom never loses sight of that.
10. A Dom understands that being a Dominant is 10% privilege and 90% responsibility. He is literally taking her life into His hands. He is accepting the most sacred and important thing she has to give. He is taking her burdens and
bearing them as His own, always, every day.
11. A Dom is consistent. He understands that he can't just be her protector, lover, confidant, master, etc. when he feels like it. There will be days when a dom is tired. There will be days when he is stressed. There will be days when
He is broken. On those days, it is more important than ever for a Dom to show His submissive that He is still everything she needs Him to be.

So what does it mean, then, to be a Dom? I get the feeling that some would say that it's all about making her kneel, having your way with her, shouting orders and using her. Helpful hint: Any jackass can buy himself a whip and bark commands.
That's not a Dom. Don't get me wrong, I did absolutely have my way with beloved Karen. I loved it when she knelt. I loved the kinky, rough, mind-blowing sex we had. I loved to dominate her in the bedroom. But for every moment of that,
there were a hundred moments of holding her, of talking to her, laughing with her, dancing with her. There were a hundred moments of making her feel safe when she was afraid, giving her confidence when she was unsure, comforting her
when she felt troubled. Those are all things that a Dominant does too.

I loved my submissive more than I love oxygen. I loved my submissive with a fire that can never be extinguished. I valued her and respected her in every way. I treated her like a queen and fucked her like a slave.
These things don't make me weak. They don't make me less of a dominant. These things make me stronger than you can possibly imagine. There is nothing quite so formidable as a Dominant who has found the perfect submissive to fuel his fire.
Never will you see anyone love so strongly or fight so fiercely.